How to Tell Friends About an Early Miscarriage

I had the same problem. I told one close friend and she took care of telling others in my absense. This avoided the uncomfortable emotional sympathy stuff.

Hi D.. My prayers are with you! I know exactly how you feel. I have miscarried three times (twice within 4 months). All three times I gave my Mom my address book and asked her to call people and tell them for me (my husband wasn't up to it any more than I was). Inevitably though, I would run into people who didn't know and they would ask how the baby and I were. I would simply tell them, "We lost our baby to miscarriage ____ weeks ago. We are dealing with it the best we can but thank you for asking." Most times they would offer their sympathies and drop it. I hope you have someone close to you that could maybe do that for you. God Bless you and please take the time to grieve your loss.

First of all let me say I am sooooo sorry for your loss. There's nothing worse in my opinion than loosing a child. Unfortunately, about the only advice I can offer you honey is to just hang in there. Unless you know specifically who doesn't know, there's no way to inform them. I realize how it makes you feel to have it brought up by someone who has no idea...but can you imagine how they feel after finding out what happened? They must want to crawl in a hole! I would suggest that you use these moments to help you heal hon. The added support of yet one more person who finds out what's happened can be impowering for you. Draw on their strength and support at that time. Let them know you are ok, or not ok if that's how you're feeling. Use these times to express yourself and "get it out of your system." Again, my prayers are with you and your family.

I'm so sorry. Tell a few closest friends and family and ask them to spread the word. When you are ready to try again, wait until the first trimester is through because your chance of miscarriage significantly drops after that.
Good Luck:)

Hi D.! 1st let me just say that I'm sorry for your loss. I have 2 children (3 years and 4 months) I miscarried with my very 1st pregnancy. It was horrible. We too told everyone as soon as we found out (we both worked in a huge mall so literally everyone knew not just family and close friends) I took a few days off to avoid ppl asking questions that i wasnt ready to anwser. To make a long story short, you will have to deal with well meaning ppl asking about the pregnancy and other well meaning ppl sending their condolences for your loss. Its hard sometimes...you'll be having a great day with the thought far from your mind when you run into someone you havent seen in a month or so who dosent know and there it comes , "so D., great to see you! Hows the pregnancy coming? Are you excited?" The easiest thing to say in my opinion was " I guess you didnt hear, we miscarried, but we've said alot of prayers and we will try again in a few months" (The only reason I say it so vividly is that I lived it a million times!!!) It does get easier...it took me awhile to not burst out in tears at the simple word "pregnant" but times does heal wounds. And be thankful for the beautiful lil boys you have! Have a blessed day and good luck!

First things first D., I want to tell you that you are in my thought and prayers. It is never easy to lose a child wether born into this world or not. Just know that God had his reasons for calling your child home. Perhaps this world would have been to hard for him. As for what to say to others, athough we should never gossip this is one time that our girlfriends gossip might save us a lot of pain. Maybe tell your friends to please let others know because you really don't want to be put into that difficult situation and if someone does approach you that hasn't heard about the miscarriage politely tell them that you have lost the baby. Most at that point should simply and politely tell you they are sorry If perhaps youget a ding bat that doesn't get the message to shut upabout it and can't seem to take her foot out of her mouth simply tell her you would rather not talk about it if they continue walk away or say I'm sorry perhaps you didn't understand me. I Don't want to talk about it with you it is a personal matter. Well D. may
God give you the strength to endure and the power to overcome. God Bless
L.

i am terribly sorry for your loss. as far as advice about telling people, now would be a great time to confide in just one person who could maybe tell others for you. no its not taking the cowardly way out...its trusting a friend to let others know so they can be there for you....the longer you wait the harder its gonna be.......if someone does ask you if you are pregnant you could simply say....not anymore or im no longer ...whichever....you mentioned that you were better EMOTIONALLY, but clearly you arent and shouldnt expect to be. you have to give yourself time to grieve over your loss. i wish you the best with everything

I'm sorry about the miscarriage. They can be hard, but one thing you can find comfort in is that they are VERY common and it's nothing that you did. My friend lost her baby a week before she was due and one thing she told me was that she got through it by learning about how often it happens to women. She was saying that with the complexity of the process of life being formed, anything can go wrong at any time and cause a complication. I thought that the way she looked at it was was very admirable.

Having said that, what is it that has you so afraid of telling people? Do you think that they'll think it was your fault or something? I guess I'm just wondering because it would be a lot easier for you to just tell them that you lost the baby, then to go on pretending. Noone will blame you. People have miscarriages all the time unfortunately. Just be honest. It's not about everyone else, it's about you and your life. I don't think you need to go out of your way or anything to tell people about the miscarriage, but if you run into someone and they undoubtedly ask you (because that's what happens when someone's pregnant) how it's going for you, just tell them "Thanks for asking, but unfortunately I had a miscarriage". They'll empathize with you and then you can both move on.

I'm so sorry for you lost. I know how hard it is, cause I went through the same situation. Its just really hard to talk about it. But once you start telling people and talking about what happened it will get easier. The first few days will be hard to talk about it...but I promise it will get easier to talk about and will make you feel better. Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers.

The same thing happened to me last year and I went through the same feelings of not wanting to tell everyone. For me, I am a quiet person who just wanted to deal with my feelings on my own not have everyone asking how I was. I found it best to tell a few close friends and family and they told others. You still come across people who don't know and then you just have to tell them when they ask how you are. In the end people are genuinely sympathetic and understand.