I am a home daycare provider and have been working in child care for over 20 years. What I have read, is that it is appropriate to spend a week's pay on her. But, in the 20 + years I have been doing this, I have never had anyone spend that much on me. I have had a few parents spend a little over $100 and that is the most. Most families do what they can afford or feel right giving, you need to do the same. If you use a home daycare provider, we make little money. Most of our income is turned right around and put back into our business, so any gifts are appreciated. Target is great, so is Michael's, then she can either spend it on the daycare or herself/family. The gifts that have meant the most to me cost nothing - a very nice, hand written card, letting me know how much the parents appreciate everything I do for them and their children. We providers rarely hear that. Of course $100 is nice, too. :) Again, do what you feel comfortable with and can afford. Another thing you can do through out the year is ask your provider if there is anything she needs for the daycare (toys, nap mats, paper products, hand soap, art supplies, etc.). Having parents donate things like that all year long is very much appreciated, especially if the parents do it with out the provider having to ask. I am glad you found a provider you love so much!
S.