How Can I Be a Better Friend and Be Happy for Her

I would be honest with her and apologize for not sounding supportive initially. Just let her know how much her friendship and family means to you and that no matter what, you'll make an effort to stay friends. I'm sure she has mixed emotions about the move herself.

There are all sorts of ways to maintain friendships long distance. Email, text, Skype and Facebook are just a few tools that can help. And you can always plan visits.
ETA: My best friend moved away when I was in the third grade and it was devastating. Well, guess what ... we're still friends now at 40 years old. It can be done.

I would probably start with an apology for your initial reaction. Your friend is likely experiencing a wide range of emotions right now and your job as her best friend is to support her and help her get organized. She doesn't need you to break-down right now.

You may be right here or you may be wrong about never having another friend like this in your life. You never know who may move in nextdoor! You are correct, though, that your friendship with her will change.

The best thing you can do is keep your own emotions in check and offer to help where you can. Get a Skype account and make real plans for a visit within a few months of her move.

It's completely normal to be sad and angry about the situation, but if this is a good move for her family then you need to support her in the decision.

I would be touched, if my friend had acted like this - obviously she knows you can't stop her moving - how awful for you to lose your best friend, like losing a sister.
I moved to america from the uk 4 years ago, and had to leave my sister and the rest of my family behind - it really is hard, and there is no easy answer - IM sorry!
You may never have such a good friend again - but, you know, I have found great friends, who are like my sisters - one of my friends lives just up the road from me, and is from wales like me, 10 minutes away. she is the only other welsh person I have met in the States, and she lives right by me - how weird is that?

I had a simular experience once, but I was the one moving, and the firend who acted this way put a strain on our relationship. It was just never the same after she locked herself in my bathroom and sobbed unconsolably for 90 minutes and then left without speaking to me. We really did not have this change in our lives to mess hers up, but that was how she took it, and it was really awkward to deal with all the multiple reasons that my husbands job was ending her life. It was very uncomfortable for everyone.

I know it must be tough, but if you can applogize, I would, and I would really suck it up for now and be her friend. If you are really like sisters, it won't make any differnence if she lives somewhere else, and you will move on to other equally nice poeple who will also be your friends. I would try to take responsiblity for this now, like you seem to be, and not let anymore of the poor me slip out, I can't tell you how hard this was to live through.

M.

It is OK to be selfish and express to her that you do not want her to move and you are not happy. Contrary, I see that as very touching that you are upset and want her to be around all the time. You are attached to her and going to miss her. Of course you're not happy. In time the right emotion will emerge, but for now, it's ok to be sad.

You will eventually though have to accept this change and in time find a new way to connect with her from a distance.

Make the most of the time you have with her now

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Please pull yourself together. This isn't just about you but about her family too. How are they managing financially? And are you really the type of friend that would put your best interest over that of her and her family.

An interview is just an interview. He may or may not get the job and then there is a process of negotiating salary and benefits too. I know you are sad but your friend is going through something too. What about her needs and emotions in this? She may be feeling the same way you do too but in life comes change. How are you going to determine and purpose in your heart how to deal better with this change which may not happen.

Enjoy the time you have now because tomorrow is never promised.

Awww....it's still new to you. You need some time to get used to the idea. I'm sorry your friend might be moving. But there are lots of ways to stay really close when you're geographically far away. Plus, you'll have a new vacation spot!

I kinda know how you feel. My best friend lives about 4 hours away. and it is hard for women to make good friends like that. I think I would feel the same way. Almost like breakin up with a boyfriend. lol. I have wished that I could find a friend like you describe. I have lots of friends but am also a stay at home mom and its hard to meet people. If you ever need to talk......

Leave your friend a card and apologize for what you said. Then, tell her exactly what you told us. She'll get over that initial hurt, and understand that you are happy for her but unhappy for yourself.

I moved a lot as a kid, and I understand how hard it can feel to make new friends. Even harder when a dear friend is leaving. If this happens, (because you don't have confirmation on this yet), see what sort of tradition you and your friend can develop. I have a dear sister who is like a best friend to me, who lives hours away. Aside from the few family events each year, she and I schedule a weekend away, just the two of us. Maybe that's something to think about...

Awww, that's sad. I'm sorry you're going through this!

I'LL be your friend!! :)

I know it's new and all raw and yucky, but you WILL survive! You MUST!

Enjoy what time you have left together.
If you had THIS great friend, it shows you are capable of having others!

Well it sounds like you'll be a good long distance friend. When I moved out of state my very good friend wouldn't email me back. She always had an excuse. She was too busy to have long conversations on the phone. I've never had a true friend like what you obviously are.

You are right. It won't be the same. But it can be different and wonderful. You can webcam chat online, facebook, email, and talk on the phone. Your children can do the same. You can still laugh together, talk together, cry together, and you'll find that it's okay.

I think that is a perfectly normal reaction. My best friend moved away and the kids were close as well. The husband was traveling a lot and working long hours as was mine so we did a lot of things together. Can you do some special things before she moves? Make some great memories.

The good thing about moving now is phone calls are cheap so you won't totally lose her. Plus the internet lets you keep in touch.
There is no replacing a friend like this. :-(((

My best freind moved and the had such a good life when they did better money and jobs everything. I felt that she woud find another friend but truth is she didnt in fact we were having some hard times and she said come out here and see for yourself. Her being her was our way out instead of 200 miles away we are only 20 miles away. I know how you feel just keep her close to you if she does you never know when sitations like ours happen. We literally were in the worst drug filled neighborhood something that no mother would want their kids in and we moved into a nice suburban area and they helped us. So there is alot of power in a BF relationship... Good Luck and I hope this works out for the both of you

the fact that you want to be supportive but feel so sad IMO shows you're an honest and caring friend. And it sounds like your friend is someone you can be honest with so you could tell her something like "in my brain, I know I should be happy that you have this opportunity but in my heart I'd hate to see you move". And like others have said, it's not certain that she's even moving yet.
I think chances are good that this time is stressful for her, too - would it be feasible for you and her to plan a special "girls day out" together?

I suggest that you simply tell your friend that you are sorry for how you reacted, that you are just going to miss her so much, and that you WANT to be supportive.

Then, ask her what she'd like you to do. I am sure you can do it. She's going to miss you too.

I haven't read the other responses, but wanted to share that I just went through this myself. Mine was a best friend I grew up with...besties for almost 20 years now and her husband got a job in Texas. I too was devestated, but you have to remember this is also tough for her...and exciting at the same time I'm sure. If you're as close as you say, you'll remain close; however, it will change some. I'm praying for you and her! Should she move with her family, I will also pray that you find a new friend (not to replace her) or way to fill the gap. Hang in there. Your feelings are normal!!