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We stay at the Ritz Carlton,Kapalua. Over the years, they have become kid friendly, with a play structure, menus, activities, etc. While there we just play in the water of the four pools, build sand castles on the beach,and relax.
The main restaurant, The Terrace Restaurant, has a breakfast buffet where kids eat free, but has two parts, American and Japanese. Quite yummy. The pools also have cabanas for rent (pricey), but they are great with a toddler. Our daughter napped in the shade each day, several times a day.
Sometimes we go over to Lanai, which is my favorite place to stay. Four Seasons Manele Bay Hotel and play at Koele. Both have great kid programs, kid friendly menus, beaches, and island exploration (rent a jeep and tour around the outer edges, hike the coast,etc.). Breakfast at Ihilani...best muscli I've every had! And the views... the dolphins swim in the ocean each morning and you can watch them leap from your balcony table. I like this place because blackberries, cell phones, etc. don't work well and we actually get vacation time...time together w/out work interrupting.
What can I say, vacation is about relaxing for me and I want comfort and pampering. I get that at both places.
Steph