So I go to the grocery store, I park my car and get out...I lock it....I walk TOWARDS the store and another person is walking towards me - I smile and say "hello" - she gives me a nasty look and says "I HATE it when people park so close to me - thanks (not)". I stopped and said "excuse me?' She said "you parked too close to my car, thanks." I took out my keys "beeped" my car and said "NOT MY CAR"...heathen scurries to her car without even saying OOPS - sorry....
URGH!!!! You know - I TRY and be nice. I know I don't always have a filter between my brain and my mouth but seriously?! if you know you are wrong - shouldn't you apologize? I know people can have bad days - but when you call someone on the carpet in public and are proved wrong - shouldn't you say "SORRY?"
Denise P... I did NOT call her a heathen TO HER FACE - I stated my sentiment HERE...so really? And my response was rude? PAHLEASE!! She ASSUMED something that was NOT true. I made a true statement "NOT MY CAR" - I didn't give her a head waggle, I didn't give her attitude - I told her NOT MY CAR - I didn't yell, I didn't call her any names to her face. Was I upset that she didn't apologize for accusing me of thing? Yes. Did I get in her face? NO.
Like others - I park in the last row, I TRY to be respectful of other people's cars...
Someone with that kind of nerve in the first place is the last person I would ever expect to say sorry! You have to feel sorry for miserable people like that, I would hate to go through life with that attitude. Have a great weekend !
You never know who's sporting a mental illness because you cant see it. Always be nice, but dont always expect to get nice back.
I am so sick of people saying "Well you have no idea what they go through". I mean I have had REALLY bad days and have never went out in public and went off on a complete, innocent stranger. If you cannot go out in public and act like a decent human being, then STAY HOME!
I wish people would stop making excuses for people like that. We all need to be accountable for our actions.
No, Cheryl its not right, and you have every right to be upset. Just be thankful you are not miserable like that person. I hope you can be free from any more pyschos today and have a great weekend!
She probably was embarassed. may be next time she will not be so quick to be rude to someone in a parking lot.
People are rude. I try not to let it bother me. I imagine they must have something in their life that is making them so angry. Which makes me feel sorry for them and more appreciative of my own life. :)
I found the last space in a crowded lot last week and parked in between the lines. I was pretty impressed that I did it exactly in the middle considering the car to my right was completely skewed and too close to my spot. When I was leaving the W. from the other car was too and she spat, "Thanks for f*ing parking your f*ing car too f*ing close, you f*ing b!tch!" My window was rolled down so I said, "Thanks for the lesson in manners to my young daughters! I hope you have a GREAT day!" and I smiled as big as I could and "toodled" my fingers at her. She flipped me off. I blew her a kiss.
She's lucky my kids were with me that day or I would have stuck a "You're Parked Like An A*hole" paper on her hood from that website. }:-) Well, not really, but I felt like it.
EDIT: Look, we all have bad days but do we all take them out on strangers? Do we take them out on other people at all? Okay, maybe some of us do but I personally don't. And guess what? I suffer with clinical depression, OCD, and generalized anxiety disorder. So you could say that I have a mental illness. And I still don't take it out on people. If I'm even a little snippy or frustrated and it comes out in my tone to people I come across I apologize and explain myself. It completely changes how people behave in reaction and I find my own attitude shifting as well.
No this has never happened to me....yes she should have apologized ( but did any of us REALLY expect her to??? NO!!!) BUT...KUDOS to you for your great reaction...way to go Mama!!!!!!
Ha ha! Your response was perfect. Yes, I'm sure she was embarrassed. I will say that parking spots in VA are way too small! Not your fault :-)
She is so nasty, there is no way she would have said sorry, however, "yes" she should have said sorry.
Maybe, just maybe, she will think about how she reacts next time.
Don't let it get to you.
Sounds like she was having a really bad day.
I used to live in Northern Va (for 17 years) and there was such a jockeying for space, road (and parking lot) rage could spring up out of no where.
On top of that, there's a large number of people there who learned to drive in other countries.
I used to commute a few miles on Rt 28 every day and there were times I got home and thanked God I survived it another day.
I've seen people get into screaming matches over parking spots at malls/shopping plazas.
She should have said "sorry" but she was caught up in what ever stew was brewing for her and wasn't about to admit she was wrong about anything.
Yes, you should. Obviously she's not a very advanced human being.
Good point about the mental illness thing from Grandma T., though.
Just continue to be nice. Other nice people will be attracted to you and ignore the nasty ones.
She probably did not expect you to call her out like you did..... GOOD JOB.
I think your response nailed it and embarrassed her. YES, she should have apologized but if she had that attitude already that's probably expecting a little much from someone like her.
I'm the one who parks WAY FAR AWAY and I get irritated if someone parks right next to me (closely) when I am SO far away and the parking lot is practically open. I don't take up 2 spaces to protect my car, I just park where I assume no one else wants to park which is far away.
"Should" is a tough question to answer. And we can't live happily with "shoulds".
You also just called her a heathen. A complete stranger.
People go through horrors in their every day lives. We don't know hat they're walking through right now.
And beeping your car & saying "NOT MY CAR" wasn't the most polite response either....just sayin'.
You would think so.."sigh" unfortunately some people are just that way. I think she got the message though..
"You never know what is going on in someone's life" is sometimes true; sometimes it's just an excuse. Some people are bitter, nasty people to everyone they meet and it has nothing to do with how their day has gone.
Your response was exactly what it should have been. Nothing mean, just the truth. Denise P. couldn't even read your post with clarity - don't let it bother you.
Yes she was rude and you did the right thing. Do you know what really bugs me? When you do something nice, like hold the door, let someone go in front of you and they can't even say thank you. Thank you, it's so basic and so meaningful and yet 1/2 of the country can't say it. Ugh
This story says more about what a good person you are and what a sad soul the other person is. Don't let it ruin your day because someone else doesn't know how to behave. Teach your children well and know that others will see the good things you do and be inspired to do good themselves. Then your positive energy will flow!
Love your post about rude people that don't have the decency to apologize. I have had my share of rude people (one on this very site, lol) that I have asked kindly to retract their accusatory negative personal attacks, but to no avail.
People who make excuses such as "you don't know what they have going on in their life" etc, are the mean ones that don't know how to apologize. There is no excuse for this behavior WHEN you are proven wrong in your attacks or even just repeatedly attacking someone. But this statement does explain a lot to me now about my particular situation, lol.
I personally have no problem admitting if I am wrong & will issue a sincere apology. Unfortunately there are not many people that can get off their high horse to apologize. Thankfully life goes on we just need to learn how to brush these mean people off just as easily as they are able to be rude to us.
I usually just ignore rude people. Just keep walking! Nothing good can come from a confrontation like that!
ya know, I would have reacted the same way! She is a Dillweed for assuming it was your car, and then making a snark comment. Bet she felt bad about it and quite embarrassed by her remark.
I say forget about the indecent.. if it happens again, look ahead, smile, point your keys back and beep your car without a word.. they will see the lights and maybe, just maybe say.. OOOOPS.. my bad.
Yes, you absolutely should apologize for saying foolish things. I think by you proving that you weren't the person was so embarrassing for her that she couldn't stay around to deal with it. Forgive her and be happy that you were the better person for going any further with the situation. I know...inconsiderate people should be shipped off to another planet. Hope you have a better day!
