Grrrrrr . . . Mostly Vent/rant Against the Military - Making Me Crazy!

Updated on March 19, 2016
P.1. asks from Albany, CA
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So our oldest son is enlisting in the Army. Yeah, we couldn't be happier!!! However, I am sick to death of their needing "just one more record." Honestly, I am starting to get a little ticked off about the whole thing. Between myself, my husband and my son, we probably have about 100 hours into paperwork, meeting, tracking down documents, phone call, etc., etc. Last week, the one more record was our two other son's Certificate of Citizenship papers and their birth names, this week, it is a letter from the orthopedic dr regarding a elbow break from years ago. Each time, it is "this is the LAST thing." On top of all of this, our daughter (also 18, but already in college) also decided to enlist in the Air Force. Her recruiting center is in another state, as is her college, and her records are spread over numerous places. Plus, she actually needs to get a medical variance (she was excluded last year for a medical reason, but now is being told that she can get a variance). Our son's recruiting center is an hour away so it is a hassle each time they need something.

I get WHY they are doing this - it is a big deal, and I really do get that. However, I wonder how in the world anyone actually gets through the paperwork. I am super organized when it comes to this stuff - I was even able to give them the address that his citizenship paperwork was mailed from (why do they need to know that!) in under a minute when they called to ask as I had the envelope it was mailed in to me 11 years ago saved in a drawer. What happens to the folks who don't have these things and don't know how to get them? Makes me wonder how many bright and talented kids either get frustrated with the process and stop or whose parents can't/won't help and the paperwork needed just never gets turned in and the kids get turned away.

Ok, rant over :)

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W.W.

answers from Washington DC on

aaahhhh the bureaucracy....

CONGRATULATIONS on raising kids who want to serve our country!!!

I'm sorry for the problems. I would ask the recruiter if they have a check list of everything that is needed. If so - get it. They should have this and know what is needed.

If your children were NOT born in the US - but are US Citizens? They need to know where they were born - adoption forms will be needed - if you adopted them. This will be needed for his security clearance and background check. He may need NFNA certifications if they were born in China, Korea, Russia, etc. That's just the way it is.

Believe it or not? there is a department that goes through each document. There SHOULD be a checklist - just like you get when you are separating or retiring (USAF does this - I don't know about Army). I'd ask the recruiting center for a complete checklist of what is needed and make sure you have it.

As to the medical records? They need it so if he re-injures himself, they know which they are responsible for. When he separates or retires, he will get another final physical that will see if there are any problems they are responsible for. This will affect his retirement pay for disability. If he gets medically separated in the future, they will have documentation on what happened WHILE he was AD.

again - i'm sorry for the bureaucracy!! CONGRATS on raising great kids!

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E.B.

answers from Honolulu on

Yup. I get it. My dh is retired military, but now works pretty much back in the same department and field, but as a federal employee. He was in the Navy for 30 years and retired as a Captain. So he knows what he's doing.

He is trying to get our dd a military ID. She's over 21, but medically disabled, and so qualifies to remain as his dependent with all the privileges (she doesn't/can't work or go to school).

Even with his 30 years of experience and 6 years in the civil service, he cannot fathom how to complete the paperwork for this. It's like the application paperwork is missing several crucial steps. He's been to customer service at the ID center and they didn't know either. He's called numerous places. It's still a "work-in-progress" but he is so frustrated.

I'll rant with you!

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S.S.

answers from Atlanta on

Tyler retired from the military about 5 years ago. He began terminal leave 90 days before his actual retirement date. During that time, he had physicals (hearing test, eye test, actual physical) and debriefings. The list went on and on and on...

It's a lot of red tape, or bureaucracy. People do look over every paper. It's okay to ask the recruiter for a list so that you can be prepared. If they don't have one? Maybe your question and pushing for one will help them be more efficient? It's worth the try and effort.

Wishing your children much success in their careers!

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S.W.

answers from Amarillo on

Welcome to the world of the military.

Yes, there is a ton of paperwork to be done to make sure the person entering is the person he/she is. There have been people apply and get in who were not who they said they were or not even legal citizens of the US. It is more difficult for the "civilian" applicant than the military applicant (child of an active duty person) but there is still paperwork as the government has a track record of the military child (dad/mom's assignments with dependents). My son's background check was done and since he grew up outside the US anything he did on off base was on file.

I feel that each person who really wants in will get in it just might take longer.

All information written on the application is verified by several investigators so that they can conduct security clearance levels for the position they will be assigned. The tight scrutiny also applies to any future spouse and allows access to military facilities such as commissary, BX/PX, hospital, MWR facilities.

In all, there are many areas that this one initial investigation covers that the new inductee will have access to his/her whole tour(s) of duty

the other S.
Retired Military Wife

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