Getting Married - Hinckley,MN

I would go to Mexico and party like a rock star! I keep telling my husband I want to get married again and hes not having it! LOL!

Even if it was just him and I. Oh the fun we would have.

But anyways, this is about you! LOL. Congrats! I would do what makes you happy and keep it small and stress free!
Have fun!

If I had it to do over again I'd do a small intimate wedding - maybe a destination wedding with just immediate family.
Congratulations!

We had a small but formal wedding. It was perfect. My advice would be start planning and go with it. We started out with eloping and ended up formal. It is just Troy and I going through the process together until we ended up at the alter. :)

I would suggest a LONG engagement w/blended family counselling for at least one year prior to marriage. No living together until your married. Kids will pay the price if things don't work out. Please put the children first. If your love is strong, it will stand the test of time.

destination wedding....with activities available for all the kids. :)

the more isolated.....& serene....the better.

it should be all about you & your new beginnings.

Assuming counseling works for us and we get back to good, we have always planned to renew our vows at 10 years (2014). I plan to do something small and intimate. Maybe a destination? Not sure...I want my family there since we did the courthouse thing the first time around.

Family vacation / elopment. Just you, the kids, and maybe two close friends.

If I had my way with my wedding, I would of gone to the courthouse and had a BBQ. My sister got married the second time at a Lodge that her husband belonged to. There were about 100 ppl, but our family was 40, so 100 isn't that large for us. My brother got married the second time at the church and had a gathering at my parents house after.

Now that I have kids, if I ever had to get married again, I would insist on a prenup. Not romantic, but there is a lot of insurance money and trusts that I want to protect for my kids. I would want to make sure that they get what I bring into the marriage if something happened.

Talk to your kids, they are old enough to have ideas. If you want something really small a destination if perfect. It didn't work for me because some of my family would not be able to make my wedding and I wanted them there.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

When I got married the second time - it was a SMALL, intimate wedding - 40 people INCLUDING the a'capella group.

We got married in Boston in Fall (absolutely BEAUTIFUL!!!) outside and had the reception at the same location. Since it was second for both of us - we paid for everyone's room that attended. We had a sit down dinner with a choice of steak and lobster or chicken and lobster. Open bar and lots of dancing.

At our cake table we had our unity candle as well as a picture of my parents on their wedding day and his parents on their wedding day - everyone who attended LOVED that...our parents lit the candles and we joined them together.

many happy years to you!!!

Okay, a TERRIBLE thing popped out of my mouth on my wedding day.

"Next time, I'm going to elope!"

Yeah. Not a good sign. Should have listened to my gut!

11 years later I'm mid divorce, so I can hardly speak from experience, except for that moment of clarity.

For ME I despise being the center of attention. I hate parties. So the big wedding I got talked into was my own special version of hell. I felt good about the decision at the time (it let my mum show off / feel proud), but it would take extreme circumstance -like marrying a man who wanted a big wedding more than anything) to repeat it! And no way would my parents be allowed to spend a dime.

I don't think there's a "right" answer to your Q. For some people like me, a big thing is the last thing in the world I would want. For others, it's EXACTLY what they'd want.

Since this is x2 around for both of you... I would think its your license to have things exactly as YOU both want.

We got married the first time in a small ceremony in a Temple. There was just the family of the bride and groom and 4 close friends (two couples).

We had a reception for our friends. My wife and I paid for two cakes and our friends did light snacks. Our friends decorated. We spent a couple of hundred dollars back in 1973.

I would recommend going to a small church and inviting only mom and dad, brothers and sisters and your kids. Afterward, take everyone out to eat at a small informal restaurant(NOT 4 STAR) and thank everyone for coming.

Then I'd take your family on a nice vacation, like a cruise. The kids can stay in one room and you two can stay in another.

I had one of my kids' wedding dinner at Famos Daves, a BBQ restaurant. I'd recommend you look up the TV show "Diners, Drive-ins and Dives" and find a restaurant they have highlighted and take everyone there.

Good luck to you and yours.

My second wedding was a morning wedding in a chapel, 25 people - some family and a few friends, lunch at our house after with a 6 foot party sub from Subway and a cake we bought from a store, and a few bottles of champagne. A couple of friends took pictures. It was exactly what we wanted. It cost a total of $1500 including my dress, his suit, and the rings. My two step kids (then 4 and 7) were our only "attendants". It was exactly what we wanted and it was lovely.

I would get married in Vegas by fat Elvis wearing a white suit. :)

From what I've seen, most people go small the second time and involve the kids BIG time to help in the blending of the families. Your kids are old enough to help out.

Congrats!!

My second time around... my husbands first... we had an outdoor wedding over looking the Mississippi River. The location was really pretty. We kept it very simple.

The one thing we did and it was my husbands idea ( maybe this is part of the reason I love him so much ;) ) was have him read aloud vows to my 3 boys. He said he wasn't just marrying me.. but he was marrying into our family. I cried when he was reading it. It really touched my heart that he wanted to vow to be there for them also as a father, to help guide them and be there for them as much as he was me. 6 years later he has held up every part of all of the vows he said :)

Congratulations! I'd go far enough where my big family could not reach me (money-wise and time-wise) so it could be just me, the new husband, our children and, if they can afford it, the best man and woman (whatever they are called). It would be my dream holidays with a special day (the wedding day) in a place I won't go to again more than likely in my lifetime. Afterwards, I'd send a nice picture for all to keep as a memory of the newly created family. Simple, private, no hassle for anyone to be invited for the 2nd time around, but especially no hassle for us!

For my second wedding, I wanted something small. It was his first, he wanted the big wedding. Really wish we had done small but we didn't.

Anyway, if I had my say...especially in your case where your kids are older, I would do a destination wedding or cruise or something.

Given where I live, I would have a small, private ceremony on the beach in the early morning hours.

But then, I didn't do the big "traditional 200 ppl outdoor wedding of my mom's dreams" for my first (and only) wedding. So, I guess it depends upon what the two of you want to do.

Given that you both have kids, then I would say to try to keep the financial side of it reasonable, because you have other priorities besides just yourselves to think of, unlike many first timers to the altar. For couples with no children, the "big wedding" is the pinnacle of self-indulgence. You kind of lose that "right" when you have kids depending on you. And if you guys have 16 yr old, and 2 - 14 yr olds, then you have a LOT of expenses heading your way in a VERY short few years.....

oh..
CONGRATULATIONS!

Congratulations!

My aunt got married last year (2nd time for both) with children slightly older than yours. They invited their children, parents and siblings ONLY and got married in their home. It was small and exactly what they wanted, both having had a big wedding the first time. When the weather was nice (about 5 months later), they had a BBQ and invited both sides of the family to get together and get to know one another.

A dear friend of mine is doing something very similar, but their immediate family is going to Jamaica in December and one of the scheduled activities for the family vacation is for them to get married. The grandparents are bringing the kids back and they will stay for another 3 days as a honeymoon.

I got married the first time in a full gospel church. I can down a staircase from the balcony and my dad met me at the bottom of the stairs. The dress was a very nice one from J C Penney's bridal collection...I still have the dress and veil.

My second wedding we got married in the local LDS chapel. I wore an Alfred Angelo wedding dress and a back only veil. I had a circle wreath like thing that went on my head in the head band area back to the crown of the head. Then the veil poofed up a tiny bit.

We got sealed in the Dallas Temple a year later and I wore a glorified bathrobe. It was very very very comfortable too.

I think that it depends on you, your personality, how you want to be perceived in this new family and friends group.

After doing everything Toni suggested, I would have a ceremony that was related to something the two of you both love to do. Married while skydiving, hiking the Himalayas, Vegas, or whatever theme is relevant to you both.

Unless you are rich, I would also do this cheaply -- a potluck vs. a caterer, a musician friend playing the music, etc. And I would definitely include the kids in a key way.

But that's me, you may be more formal.

You have many answers that I've not read through so I want to just say congratulations! And that I would try to involve the kids in the planning and ceremony to try to make the transition go as smoothly as possible.

Congratulations, first off.

I would say since you both have been married before, just a small ceremony with a couple friends each there or going to the JP.

~L.

Congrats! My first wedding was big, my husbands first they went to the JOP. So he wanted to see me in a wedding dress and have a "real" wedding since he didn't have one. I was ok with that, just didnt want to spend over 10k like we did the first time.

So we live in the Phoenix area, family here and in CA and ND. So we decided to do a destination wedding at Laughlin NV and get married on the riverboat. We went for 4 days, 35 people went with us. We got discounts on the hotel and after the wedding on the boat, we all went to eat at the casino buffet. We had so much fun! And the entire thing cost us about $2800. We went Thurs - Sun, married on Sat. We emailed an agenda of what we were planning to do, casino, movie, mall, hang at the pool, etc, so if people wanted to hang with us, they could. Oh, and my hubs has a 16 yo, mine are 12 and 9. They were our 'attendants'. The girls wore matching dresses and our 9 yo son wore dress pants, nice shirt and vest...so cute! At the time they were 12, 8 and 5. I hope you do something that you both like. Congrats and good luck!