Getting in a Slump???

I know how you feel. Unfortunately your coworkers in the SAHM business don't have to work in the same office as you, so you have to try to meet them on purpose. Go to the baby story time at the library, join a moms group, LLL is even a good place to meet people. We are literally everywhere and we're all a little alone. Try talking to moms at your favorite park, most of us are just as starved for adult conversation. I have a four month old, plus a plethora of other kids, if you would like to try a playdate with us, we'd love it. Let me know.

I know exactly how you feel. I started working at age 16 like the above mom and worked up until I was about one week away form having my son who is almost 10 years old now. Then I went right back to work about 3 weeks later. With my second child 7 and a half years later I worked as a day care teacher for some of my pregnancy. I was sooooo nausea with her all day long and would vomit all over myself all the time out of no where(yeah I know gross huh?) Anyway I have been at home with her ever since. She is 2 and a half and between her and my son and my other child ( my husband...lol) I am ALWAYS busy. It is a 24x7 job and that is the truth. Sometimes I feel left out like you and I feel like what I do isn't enough because I am not making money. My husband tells me different and says honey you do so much and that I take care if this family which makes me feel really good. My 2 year old keeps me on my toes constantly and being a SAHM there is ALWAYS something to do. Don't get me wrong either I love staying with my children and I am very blessed and very gratful. Sometimes I get overwhelmed and I just need to go to another room away from everything and get "me" time which doesn't last longer then 5 or so minutes, but it gives me time to collect my thoughts. Like you my husband works hard all day long and like your husband my husband is also trying to get his buisness started so he does jobs in the evenings and weekends. Today is our 10 year anniversy and my husband is doing an A/C job on the side this evening. I understand the extra money helps and he is trying to get his buisness going and I support him 100 percent but I do miss him so much and I am here alone with the kids on my 10 year anniversery. Ten years os very special to me and him to but we are gonna celebrate it tomorrow. I always said I wanted to renwew my vals at my 10 year and have a big dream wedding but now I am well over weight to be trying to squeeze into a beautiful wedding dress, so we are gonna do at our 25th anniversery. My friends and family live an hour away or I would probably spend all day with my Mom who is so special to me, so like you I don't really know anyone here and I do get lonely. I am glad that there is someone else out there that understands me and feel the same way. You are not alone, but just to let you know we are wives and mothers and that is a very special job and I am sure our kids will remember all the time we spent with them and they will hold that in their hearts forever. God bless you and good luck...

There are a lot of mom's group specifically for SAHMs. There's no reason you should not be out having some adult time!! You need it for sure to keep yourself sane. Most of the activities are free, so you don't need to have a lot of extra money either. You can look at meetup.com and search for groups; there's also a mom's konnect in keller (can't remember their website, but you can google them); you can also search for "moms group" on google and you'll get lots of hits in the area. I organize a group that was created for work outside the home moms, but we have lots of SAHMs and moms with flexible schedules. Our link is http://workingmoms.meetup.com/5/

Good luck!!

I hear you...I was right there when my baby was younger. I was very bored, and needed to make new friends b'c none of mine had babies. So I felt very alone, and I know your not alone with your thinking. I would recommend highly that you start off going to storytime at your local library regularly so you can connect with some of the other moms there. Then, after making a few connections, start a small baby playgroup. I've met the most wonderful ladies this way, and I feel more complete in my mission to being a full-time SAHM. Just knowing that we're in this together & supporting each other however we can has been such a blessing to my baby and me. Let me know if you need some advice to get a group started from scratch.

You and your child are blessed that you are able to stay at home. But, it is such a different and new experience after we've been working forever outside our homes before having babies. SO, having a supporting network with other SAHMs is very special and important!

I understand how you feel. I worked from when I was 16 til right before I had my second child (now 19mo). People always tell me how lucky I am to stay at home, but sometimes I feel that I would rather be out, interacting with other adults. I am greatful for having this time at home with them and I'm sure I'll think back and cherish it even more when theyre older. Right now it's just feels so isolating to me. I'm hoping to maybe find a mom's group or something to help.

Hi S.,

Have you looked for a Mom's group? I'm a member of the MOMS Club chapter in Lake Dallas & love it! We are a small, laid-back group; but have at least 4 mommies with babies under 1 yr. If you're looking to meet moms close to where you live, we're it!!
Our website is: www.freewebs.com/corinthmoms