Frustration

Is she playing too hard at home and forgets to go or is it a power struggle? If she doesn't go when you remind her and later has an accident then she's testing you.
Has anything changed in the home front? That can cause accidents?
It really sounds as if she's testing you. Be consistant. Be patient. And Good Luck!!!

from everything i have read, you shouldn't punish them for accidents. and also that this is normal. 4 steps forward,,8 steps back..it's just the process of a toddler.
i would also agree, the new baby is probably the change that has caused a step back. it's to be expected.
be patient.. don't put her back in pull ups.
don't acknowledge that it's an issue.. but i would instruct her on how to take her wet clothes off,, put them in the bathroom sink and run water on them if she can reach.. and hang them up..(to wash later).
good luck

I would have her start cleaning herself up. You can stand her in the tub and hand her the wash cloth. Put her dirty clothes in the washer. You could even have her wash them them in the sink. Of course, you'd be with her to help when needed, but her having to do the majority of clean up, may help her to understand that it's not fun. And takes away from her playtime.

when she's at grandma's she's there to purely play. So are you getting distracted at home and she's looking for attention.

In my personal opinion, it sounds like she is looking for your attention at home. I don't know what the two of you do together, but you may need to set aside some special time with her. You sound like you are a busy person and maybe this will be difficult for you, but use those nap times your eight month old gives you. As for when she has the accidents I would change her and clean her in complete silence. I wouldn't even look her in the eye. After its said, done, and clean act as though nothing happend. Do not let her see she got to you. Anyway, that's my word of advice. I hope that or SOMETHING works for you. Good Luck!

My daughter is four and we are still working through this. The best thing for her is not to wear underwear. She makes a connection with not having a layer of protection and hates to have wet pants.

Beautiful phrasing about your bonus son!

Try giving her little treats (3 m-n-m's) when she uses the bathroom properly. Big claps, hurrays, and praise. I truly think she is just looking for attention. Tell her she can call grandma when she potties on the pottty. I would even go so far at to hold Chelsie and move her hands in a clapping motion when her sister uses the potty and tell Paige that Chelsie is learning how to be a big girl by watching her sister use the potty. The more people you get involved in the praise, the better. You shouldn't have to do this for very long before it becomes habit again. I also agree, I would make her responsible for her own wet clothes. For them, it's just not worth the time it takes to change their own clothing/shoes when they have an accident.

Keep us posted on her progress!

Hi T. - My son is 4 and he just started doing the same thing. He goes just a little in his underwear before he gets to the bathroom! We've been going through like 5 pairs of underwear a day! I've been told that this can happen when they go through a growth spurt, I hope it's true. It's nice to hear we're not the only ones. Thanks alot - S.

I've had the same problem with my daughter. Big changes and such . The baby may be the change that caused this. My daughter and her brother are only 18 months apart and when I had him she started wetting, wanting the bottle and all the things that she seen her brother getting. With a little patience and a little more one on one with her she soon went back to her grown up ways. She seen the extra attention her brother was getting and she wanted the same for herself. Punishment is not the answer because she is not acting this way intentionally. Good luck, there really are better days ahead.

I noticed that you have an eight month old. Your 3 year old daughter might be wetting her pants to get more attention from you. Set time aside with her everyday, just the two of you, and do something special. Also you might want to try telling her that if she can go without having an accident for a week or two, you will take her shopping and she can pick out some big girl panties or a new toy or something.

When my three year old daughter was first potty training she had similar difficulties. So when we were at the house she ran around bare bottomed. I'm not sure what it was, but it seamed without a safety net she was extra conscientious. Maybe it will help, goodluck!

Sometimes, when they are little, they get soooo busy that they dont realize that they have to go potty and end up with an accident. I know when my son was 3, and I didnt have any other kids around, he would do this, even in public. He would basically just forget because he was sooo busy. Its hard having a baby around and a young one who can divert back just as easy. The one big suggestion I have to basically a reward system too. When the baby is sleeping or napping, and she hasnt had an accident, play a game with her that really is out there, like a dress up tea party, with milk or water to drink and something to nibble on. I dont know if you have any dress up clothes, but just putting on really nice clothes will work. Set it up some dolls or stuffed animals to have it too. It doesnt have to be a tea party, it can be anything you enjoyed as a child or whatever. I hope this helps, Good Luck!

PUT her back in diapers. I know it sounds cruel and unusual punsihment, but is not her behavior cruel and unusual punishment toward you! Children thrive on attention and feeling that they are in control. TAKE BACK the control. Tell her if she is going to act like a lil' baby then she must want to be in diapers because babies wear diapers and babies wet themselves. I know it sounds mean but it worked for my kid and he is just fine at age 7. Of course I let him run around bottomless for a whole summer as well... you might try this technique.