Flat as a Board

You have to do what makes you happy! They have these new silicone implants (I think they are called gummie bears?) that feel more natural, and will not leak because they are not actually liquid.

I had the opposite problem. I kept getting bigger with each child, even after I lost the weight. I was in a 36 HH by the time I got done having children. I had a reduction 2 years ago, and was scared about the surgery. I had it any way and am so glad I did. That was what was right for me.

There is no shame in plastic surgery if it makes you feel happy and more comfortable in your own skin!!! There is also nothing wrong with having a small chest!! You have to decide what YOU want and can be happy with.

I lost mass after I was done nursing my three kids and a friend of mine did as well. You're not less of a woman because you don't have cups that runneth over. Our bodies, as a result of being Moms, evolve and change. And because they're our bodies, we can't really compare ours to any one else's, we're not them and they're not us.

Some women end up with a tummy after they've had their kids, other's have c-section scars, and then there are the episodomy scars. Some have sore nipples that are extremely sensitive, and others see no changes at all on the outside... but what did happen is that our hearts grew up leaps and bounds with each delivery, with every giggle, burp, cry and step they take. Our husbands love the bodies that gave them these beautiful kids. They love us, for who we are. My Dad told my Mom that anything more than a mouthful was a waste. My Mom is small busted, at least she got that way after nursing 5 kids thru the years. His love for her only grew. Plastic surgery is not something to be taken lightly. As safe as it is, there is room for complications. You are a mom of small kids, a wife of an awesome guy... you don't want to leave them alone due to vanity, in search of that more 'perfect' bustline? You're the best looking you there will ever be, because it's all you.

Take good care!!

I am a nurse with many years of experience in plastic surgery. Having breast is an important part of what makes you feel like a woman. It is actually a federal law that insurance companies cover the complete cost of breast reconstruction after mastectomy! In your case, if you miss your breasts, there's no reason you shouldn't do something about it! Breast augmentation is a very safe procedure that is usually done on an outpatient basis (you don't have to stay in the hospital overnight). After much further research, silicone implants have been found to be safe and are available again. It seems many of the claims that they cause various health problems were unfounded and they had been taken off the market mostly to satisfy litigation. Silicone feels much more natural than saline, but do present more of a problem if they rupture (requires surgery to remove the spilled silicone vs. saline is resorbed by the body). When choosing a plastic/cosmetic surgeon, make sure he or she is Board Certified. That means they have had extra training in their field and continue their education in order to be certified. I hope this has helped you. If you have any more questions, please e-mail me personally - I'm glad to help!

I'm impulsive, emotionally driven, a hedonist, and very very pragmatic.

So if there's anything I reeeeally reaaaally want that's permanent (from marriage to tattoos to divorce to to a child)...I make myself wait for a year. (Ahem, and for ME, that means NOT planning or implementing during that period. I can research...but not plan.)

What's a year in the term of a lifetime? A very very long time. ::Sigh:: if you're as impatient as I am.

At the end of the year I reassess. Do I still what X that badly? What are my motivations for it? How will it affect a/b/c? If I decide to go for it then I can start saving and planning...but I keep myself open to the idea that I may change my mind.

For ME that time to think is precious. (And irritating.) While I regret many of the smaller decisions that I've made...the one's where I have given myself time to know my own heart...make me very very solid in those decisions.

When I'm solid in my decisions I find that
a) I'm better able to recognize mistakes and fix them (because I'm not defensive)
b) Able to stand up to naysayers without getting angry
c) Far Far happier.

Does everyone need to wait a year? No. Some may need to wait 2, some may need 6 months, and some people have such strong personalities that they're able to decide and be strong/flexible in any decision that they make almost immediately. They never get angry when people question them or tell them that they're wrong. Me? I DO get upset, unless I've given myself the time I need.

You sound confused, angry, and a bit sad. Which is not *usually* the best place to be when making life altering choices. So from my experience I would say wait. Give yourself permission to seriously consider it. It may be the best decision of your life, it may barely register as a blip on your radar.

You'll make the right choice...because it will be the right choice for YOU.

I lost 2 cup sizes after nursing my daughter for close to a year. I was a C and went to an A. I dont feel I fill out clothes like I want to, in sports bras or bathing suits - it looks like i have nothing - because they squish down the little that is there. I used to stew about it, it made me feel less attractive =- my hubby is a 'boob' guy too. I even went for a augmentation consultation and similar to you, I came to a decision that I didnt want to take on the risk, the cost, or the discomfort. Plus what if I didnt like them? What then?

After about a year of thought - I came to the realization that in the end - I want my body to be mine, not something that was created by a surgeon and I found that to be more important to me than how I filled out a sweater. I am more than a set of boobs, I am a wife, a mother, a daughter..... My body has been through birth and many other things in its 38 years on this earth, I need to be proud of the wear it shows - like a badge of courage. I work out daily, in the best physical shape I have been in.

So its padded push up bras for me. Maybe a box of kleenex and duct tape....LOL! :)

Hang in there - I hope you can get to the right place and decision for yourself.

J. - I can not relate to your breast question at all. I am very large chested, and got even bigger after having children and nursing for 18 months.
BUT, what I CAN talk about is the plastic surgery.
I was involved in a very serious car accident about 6 years ago. My son and I were passengers, and my 3 WEEK old son went to Children's Hospital for 7 weeks. He was on life support for 3 of those weeks with the worst injuries the nurses had seen. (He is fine now, thank God, but I wouldn't wish that on anyone). I was in and out of the hospital also, I had a horrible infection in my leg (which had to be drained, good Lord that hurt) and got 55 stitches on the right side of my face. I have 4 very obvious lines on my face as well as a dime size "patch" under my right eye.
I was extremely self conscious of it, especially the first year, and seriously considered plastic surgery for my face and my right leg (my leg is uneven with a avocado size bump right in the front of my leg, along with a quarter size scar from the infection).
Basically I look like I have been in a car accident! BUT, none of my friends even notice it, and my husband, although I know he feels guilty (he was the driver) has never said anything about it.
My body went through a serious trauma. I fought for my son to live! I call them my war wounds. I wouldn't change them for anything.
Just my personal story. Make sure that if you decide you want to get surgery that you are doing it for YOU! Not your husband, and not society. And if you make that decision, than it's yours, no one elses (like mom's!) SO if they don't like it....oh well, it's your body! (that's what I told my mom after every tatoo!)
Good luck with whatever you choose, L.

Hi J.,

I went through the same thing, and had always been on the smaller side to begin with, so have always thought about saline implants. I absolutely love mine. I have had them for 10 years now with no problems. It is expensive, but the boost in self confidence and in my self image has been worth it. I spent around 3500 getting it done. If I had it to do again, I would still get them, however I wouldn't get the same kind of incision. I got around the nipple, so there is no scar. But I lost sensation in one nipple completely, and partial in the other. That interfered with breast feeding when I later had a child. I was able to nurse out of one, so it worked out, but if I hadn't been able to, I would have been heart broken. But now my breasts are uneven lol both in size and in height. So I would definitely get the under the breast incision, and under the muscle if possible. It is more expensive that way, but the long term results are better. So that is my advice. If you want them, get them, you will love them. The surgery is very quick, no hospitalization necessary. And the recovery period is about a week. Yes there is always the risk of complications with any surgery, but as long as your immune system is good, you should do fine. Good luck and I hope this helps. I am now a solid C cup from an A or maybe even AA. I love it.

I have nursed 5 babies (and I'm still nursing currently). My size is always reduced when I wean and I've wondered about how it will be when I'm done nursing for a longer period of time. My friend told me that her breasts filled back in after a while. I don't think they filled back as much as before she nursed, but they definitely didn't stay like two socks laying on her chest. She said to just be patient and some mass would return...I would wait for a while before deciding if you really want augmentation to see what your body will do (and I'm thinking wait a year or two). Surgery is a big step.

Blessings!
J.

Unfortunately I don't have much advice, but do have a lot of empathy. This is one of those side effects of pregnancy and nursing that people don't talk about a lot. I did lose an extra 20 pounds after my last child, but have gone from a 36C to a 34B. They look like deflated balloons.

I, too, find it very discouraging. I wish for my old chest almost every day. But I try to remember what a gift I was able to give my boys by breastfeeding them and how incredibly fortunate I was to even be able to have kids. It all took a toll on my body, but I wouldn't trade my kids for my old body.

I hope you can come to terms with your new body!

If I were you, I would NOT have saline implants. There are too many horror stories. Hmmm, if your husband is so "loving and supportive," why did he make that comment about .."never as flat as I am now and I feel and look as if I have gone through surgery to get my breast removed?" I'd tell you to shove it where the sun doesn't shine, but that's just me. God created you the way you are, so love yourself as you are.

God bless you,
cj

As a always small chested person - never did get the promised increase with pregnancy - be thankful - you don't knock yourself out when running.

OK - that's not helpful - but you didn't say what you were or what you are now. It's important to feel good about yourself - do what you need to do for yourself. But the comment regarding weight gain - are you underweight? Maybe that is the leading issue.

As my husband says - anything more than a handful is wasted.

My advice is that you simply accept the body God gave you. If it is good enough for your creator, why would you reject the manner in which he has lovingly formed you? I assume your family and friends accept you and love you whether you have big or small breasts. Why don't you do the same? Practicing self-acceptance works for other things as well: weight and wrinkles and mothering and ... in the long run, you will be much happier because you will not be relying on external factors to make you happy.

It's great to read everyone's responses, as I am in the same situation. I used to have small but at least perky breasts, but now all I have are saggy nipples! I really am not one to go for surgery, so I try to keep in shape, wear a padded bra, and focus on the positive! My husband is a great support, and makes me feel sexy anyway which is a great help!

I was especially deflated after nursing my 2nd child. I noticed it took 2 years before I started feeling back to "normal" as far as mass and firmness go. Just so you know it can take a while.

I am not yet a mother, so I sadly cannot relate entirely. But, I can relate from the perspective of a woman who felt negative about her bust size. As the other woman who responded said, cosmetic (plastic) surgery is NOTHING TO BE TAKEN LIGHTLY. Any surgery comes with risks, and elective surgeries carry the risk without the physical 'necessity'. I spent a tremendous amount of time researching ALL of the information I could find about breast implants... Including all of the horrible possible side effects. After discussing everything with my husband, some family, and three different doctors, I decided that breast augmentation (breast implants) were 'right' for me! I won't bore everyone on this forum with all of the details. but I will say that I have NEVER regretted my decision. Ever! It is a deeply personal decision, and it will do you a great deal of good to remember that. There will always be people who will give you grief... I say forget them! What it boils down to is that it is your body, your comfort, your self esteem and the image you have of yourself that should have the final say.
If you study ALL of the potential hazards and side effects and decide that you still want them, great.
If you research thoroughly and decide that breast implants are in no way, shape, or form for you, great.
Well, this message has gotten quite long! I hope that if you have any questions, you won't hesitate to ask... Feel free to email me! I'm not pretending to be an authority on these things, but as a woman with some experience, I'd be more than happy to share what I loved (and *$&#ing hated!!!) about the experience!
Blessings and best wishes:)
P.S. My amazing husband (who's never been able to keep his hands off of me! Thank GOD!!!) also loved my (haha, barely) B cup boobies, but there's NO DOUBT about him loving my big D cup boobies now!
Someone who loves you will love you no matter what your cup size happens to be! Remember that boobies are something that they don't have, so any boobs are thrilling:)

Maybe try to get a pair of cutlets and see if that helps? It won't make a difference when you're naked, but when you're dressed, that should help at least give the appearance of having your previous breasts.

My mom was flat after 3 kids as well. She just used padded bras and looked great!

My mother-in-law felt like she had no boobs after breast-feeding her five children. She made the choice to have implants. She is religious and kind and motherly and her physical appearance is very important to her. It made her feel better about her body. She chose to have silicone implants. This was years ago when they were not as good as they are now. She was very happy with them, but they did leak after about 10 years. She had them replaced with saline implants. The saline look more natural and when I hug her they feel more natural. She got a size proportionate to her small build and no one would ever guess they were implants.

I agree with the person that said you need to make the choice for you. I'm inclined to say that I would not get the implants in the same situation, but that is me. You need to make the choice about your own body. On the other hand, I didn't like having crooked teeth and got braces to fix that.

If you decide to do it, you may need to wait until your toddler is older, however. My MIL had to wait two weeks before she could do any real lifting. She was very sore afterward.

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you might want to try taking Primrose Oil. It is a supplement you can find at any health food store. My mom and I have taken it before to help with hormones... (me PMS and to help regulate my cycle) but we notice that our breasts grew as a side effect of the primrose oil! (I used to be really small so for me that was a great bonus!) good luck!

I have 4 children and nursed all of them for an extended time. I am against breast augmentation. You should be happy that you have a wonderful family. Instead of spending $8000 on breast make sure your children's future is secure. I also think that your husbands comment was rude. Your breast are "flat" because you had a fed his children

My breasts went away too with all of my children after I stopped breastfeeding. They always came back after a few months. I have small breasts anyway, but have found that keeping my body in really good shape helped combat my insecurities about my breasts. I figure, I can't control the size of my breasts, but I can control what the rest of my body looks like. When I am "fit" I find that my breast size doesn't seem like such a big deal.

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