I have a five year old son. Lately he knows the rules, and he will repeat them before playing, and yet he still misbehaves. We have taken away cartoons, put him in time out, not allwoing him to play with his dog, taken away tokens which he doesn't get a prize at the end of the week if he doesn't get all his tokens. He's hitting his daddy, talking back, saying NO. I'm pulling my hair out. I don't know what else to do to get him to realize that this is not acceptable behavior. Is it that it will take time and repeating ourselves? Or are we doing someing wrong? What have you done that has worked when something like this has happened? I'm desperately seeking advice. Thank you so much!
Great advice from everyone! Thank you so much! You know, his preschool teacher even called him obnoctious. He's never like that at home. I'm just curious as to what is going on at his school to make him act out that way. May be because there are 19 kids and only one teacher and one assistant. Ugh....What a mess. But thank you so much for the advice. I will certainly give them a try.
You might want to consider checking into the Love and Logic approach. It is all about choices on the child's part with consequences accordingly. I love the approach and it seems to be working wonders with our 2 boys - age 4 and 6.
Good luck!
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well im not sure how it works on boys but u can try it out i have a 5yr old daughter and when she does things like not listen and as i call it pulls a slick move i wait till she wants to do something but needs my help in doing and i act like i dont hear her and when she starts to look down i explain to her thats how u made me feel when i asked u to do something and u didnt do it. and as far as the hitting my daughter tried it once and she slapped me so hard and as a result in that i made her sit in a chair and and she wasnt able to do anything for the remainder of the day and i made her watch what i watched on tv and i pretended to do boring things and she had to do them also and when she asked y i have to do this stuff u do why cant i watch tv i told her when u slapped me u took on the grown up roll so when u want to apologize and b a kid and do kid thing then let me know and she never hit me again and till this day if we be somewhere and she see a child hitting the parent she b like they gone be bored all day doing grown up stuff but i hope that something helps but keep in mind us as parents r never doing anything wrong we just having figured out our children cause i am a mother of six and everyone of my children have different personalities but good luck and hopefully things will get better.
I wonder if your son is looking for some extra attention. Kids sometimes act out because they know it will get our undivided attention. Unfortunately, we don't catch them being good often enough. Try praising him when he's acting well-behaved. Give him some extra attention, praise and extra love for a while, and see if that doesn't help. That will at least get him to listen so you tell him how you feel when he is disobedient. Ask him how he feels when he does it. If you can get him to recognize that it hurts him as well (emotionally), he may be less likely to act out.
i had the same problem with my eight year old, this was a bout 4 years ago, he was even kicked out of 5 day cares in a two week period, i tok him to his dr, and e found that it was severe attention deficits problems, he was given a pill called metadate, now he can concentrate and has a better memory, also we are always complimented on his well behavior, nobodt who meets him will believe the boy outside of his new behavoirs, his old ones were also not listening, kicking hitting and out of control, nothing ever worked til then for us, i hope this helps you out some.
Welcome to my world. :-) I have a 6 year old (soon to be 7) and we've had some of these same issues with my son. Mostly the not listening. My son can be in front of the tv and not know the house was burning down or we can look him in the face and tell him not to do something and in the next breath he does what we've asked him not to do. Part of me thinks it's the age plus he knows what we're softies on. Agressiveness is a sign of ADHD but be careful not to label him. I would definately talk to your pediatrician. He/she may be able to shed some light on what's going on or could direct you to a behavior specialist. Good luck and hang in there. My sister in law recently spent the day with my son and had nothing but good things to say about how well he behaved. It my seem like he's not paying attention and all your direction and teaching is doing no good but it is sinking in he'll know/he knows the appropriate way to act.
you are dong nothing wrong, it is a thing of repeating yourself and consistency.
