First Trip Without My Little Guy

Updated on February 16, 2011
T.L. asks from Upland, CA
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My husband won a trip to Miami for his sales efforts. The trip is for four days. The problem is, I don't want to go. Or I want to take my son (4 yrs) with us, but my husband wants us to go alone. How can I relax and have a good time if I'm constantly thinking about my son?

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Thank you all for the encouragement. I took a look at the website to where we'll be staying and I got all excited. Also, I found out on one of days we'll be there (Miami), my husband will have a meeting for about 5 hours. That means I can do whatever I want! That, my friends, excites me!!

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J.N.

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Honey, you need the time away! It rekindles the marriage. Remember going to dinner with out a child, sleeping in, having a few drinks, laying out at a pool with a book and not having to keep a watchful eye out on anyone. My hubs and I just went a way for 3 nights and it was GREAT!!! And when we came back, my boys were thrilled I was home, fun to play with and I felt recharged and felt like a better mom because I had a break.

On a side note - Where in WC?? my boys are 3 and almost 1.

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M.B.

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Margaritas ;). I know you will miss him, he will be fine, GO!! You will have a fabulous time with your hubby!

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A.F.

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GO! He is 4 years (not 4 months) old! You should have a break with your husband and be able to celebrate together. 4 days is not too long...it is just enough to enjoy -- it will all be AOK. Do you have someone to watch him? I had my mother-in-law and our au pair watch our kids (who were younger than yours) when my husband and I went to Aruba last January -- though we missed them TERRIBLY, it was good for our marriage to get away!

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D.M.

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I totally understand the pull. It's hard. I still struggle sometimes when I'm away. HOWEVER, it's very critically important that you and your husband have time together as a couple. The stronger your relationship is the happier you two are and the better parents you can be. Ultimately it's best for everyone. AND it's fun! Make sure your little guy has a safe place to stay (grandmas?) and enjoy enjoy enjoy!!!! Also, you can plan some fun activites for your son while you are away that he can look forward too... Go, you won't regret it : ).

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M.M.

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Can only agree with the other ladies here.. GO!! Have family or friends that you trust and go and have fun with your husband.. It's hardest at first, but try and relax and have a great time. strengthen your bond with your husband sort of a second honey moon thing.. really important when you have a little one. It often turns all about the child and the relationship can suffer or become more strained.. Please get away and have fun...

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C.M.

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The best way to do it is to "Skype" 2x daily. It's free; you just need to register.

You will need access to a PC as will your son's caregiver.

Seeing my DS at breakfast and bedtime allowed me to enjoy myself knowing I could see him...to know he's okay when we're not there.

Good luck!

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The best way to do it is to "Skype" 2x daily. It's free; you just need to register.

You will need access to a PC as will your son's caregiver.

Seeing my DS at breakfast and bedtime allowed me to enjoy myself knowing I could see him...to know he's okay when we're not there.

Good luck!

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T.V.

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Hi T.,

It will be difficult and separation anxiety is normal for parents and children. However, your husband wants to take you away on a nice trip where the two of you can have some "alone time". Try not to bring up the subject of missing your child,pets, or home.. because no doubt you son and home (pets if you have them), will be in good hands (right)? Instead make your husband the focus of the few days you will have in Miami and I'll bet he will return the favor.

Keep us posted....Blessings...

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C.B.

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I agree with the other posts, 100%. Please go!

Here is a different perspective. Think of how much fun your son will have because now he's a "big kid" and old enough to stay away from you for a few nights.

The skype idea below was brilliant. I used to also hide a special gift either in my daughter's suitcase or in her bed with a special note.

Go and enjoy yourself.

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W.H.

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What would YOU be feeling if your husband didn't want to go on a trip with you but instead spend time with (work/baby/his new secretary/his game box/whatever) ????????

Go! Baby boy WILL survive! You need to make your marriage thrive!

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T.L.

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I 2nd you going. It is really difficult to leave you little one, but if Mommy and Daddy don't have alone time it can lead to other troubles. It is also better to leave you son on a good note for the first time. It would be horrible if something happened and you just had to drop him off for a few days somewhere because of an emergency. My hubby and I leave the kids at Grandma's one night a month so we can have alone time and both sleep in on the same day for a lazy morning. I never regret these nights even though I do miss my kids.

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H.C.

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Go and have a great time!!! It is so important to reconnect with your husband and for you to have a short break. You will miss your son and worry about him but I think you will also find you will really enjoy the freedom of only having to worry about yourself for a couple days.

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