FB Question - Wallingford,CT

L.:

Your wall is not your news feed. If it is showing up on YOUR WALL (difference being this - when you are in facebook - to be on "your wall" means that you have clicked your name and are on YOUR WALL...however..if you clicked "HOME" then you are in your newsfeed and can see what your friends have posted - does this make sense?) then you were tagged in the post...

If however, it is showing up at "home" on your news feed - you will see what your friend has been tagged in. If it shows up on YOUR WALL - then you were tagged in it.

On FB, you can tag people in posts, not just pictures. The friend of a friend probably tagged your friend either because they're posting something that involves the friend ie "at dinner with _____" or because they are posting something they think your friend is interested in in some way. ie "making blueberry muffins yum. Tag: _____"

Also, if your friend "likes" or comments on a post, you'll see it unless their privacy settings are set to block that.

The friend who is getting tagged isn't the one tagging, and as far as I know there is no way to push it to a specific friend's wall, so I doubt they are making a deliberate effort to make sure YOU see what's being posted.

If it's bugging you, change your settings to see "less" of this friend.

L., when you say your FB homepage, there are 2 main things -

1) Your wall - your profile - your page ->
This has all posts and pictures that you post and share. It also shows any posts that any friend of yours made on your wall. Totally yours, and your interaction with your friends.

2) News Feed - latest updates and news of all your friends, and yours ->
This is the page that is shown to you, which contains all the latest 'news'. For you to get a glimpse of what all your friends have been up to. Posts they made, statuses they updated, pictures they posted, comments they made on their friend's posts/pics, articles they read, etc.

This second News feed page, is however highly customize-able. Both by you, and by your friends.
For each friend of yours, you can edit your settings as to what news of theirs, is shown - Only important updates, or Most updates, or All updates. This differentiates between what all activity of your friends, can you see, on your News feed page.
For eg., if you set Friend A's setting, on your News feed page as 'Only important', then you can only see their latest status updates and their pics. Not what they wrote or did to another friend of theirs.
If you set Friend B's setting as 'All updates', you will know about their each post, status update, likes, comments, articles, games, etc.

Now, this settings work two-ways. You can also manage settings for the visibility of your own activities, as to how they appear on other people's News feeds. Read more on the privacy settings, and how you can make it 'Custom'.

So, if you are seeing what your Friend X is doing on his/her Friend Y's wall (not your friend), then it is probably not that Friend X wants everyone on his/her friends list to see the activity. It just gets added to the News feed, which is visible to all of X's friends. If you are not interested in following those, click on the right corner of your X's updates on your News feed page, and change the setting to 'Only important'.
If you do not want to see any regular updates at all, from another friend Z, you can even select 'Unsubscribe'. This will only stop their updates from appearing on your News feed page. You will still be able to go to the person's profile to see what they are upto, and it will not de-friend them or anything of that sorts.
Also, all of these settings will not be known to your friends. So, you do not have to worry about anybody feeling bad. :)

Your profile page is different then your news feed. The news feed is the page you see that has everyone's updates, pictures, status remarks in them. Your profile page, what everyone else sees, is when you click on your name next to the home button. When you see on your news feed updates from other's to your friend, they probably have their settings as sharing with friends of friends. The pictures that don't show up could be that they have them marked with share with only friends. It would also show the status updates if they mention one of your friends names in it, tag them in pictures and if they are friends of yours also. I hope this helped.

If your friend commented on their status, it will show up on your feed unless you set it not to show you your friend's likes and comments.

Go to your home page on FB. Find a post by "YOUR" friend.

Hover your mouse over their name.

When the box comes up hover/click on the word "friends" that has a star beside it.

Go down to the word settings under "Show in Newsfeed".

make sure that Most updates or All updates is clicked.

Unclick everything in the bottom half except "show status updates".

Each of those items you have clicked allows that friends various posts to show on your home page.

For instance:

If I want to know what music and videos this person is posting and commenting on then I want that clicked. I have one friend who likes some amazing music. I have never heard of most of the groups so I keep that clicked on her. I don't on anyone else because I don't want a hundred posts per day of "listening to some music and thought I'd share this youtube video of a dog singing".

If you want to see every comment they make on ANY PERSON's post they happen to comment on then keep that clicked. I really don't need to know that my daughter liked her first grade bff's dog picture that the friend posted.

Same with Photo's and other things. Every thing they do will show up on YOUR home page. That means that you will have hundred's if not thousands of extra posts on your home page every hour.

I keep games clicked on the people that play any FB games. I DO click on the right side of the game posts that I do not play and click do not show this game on my home page. That way I only have it blocked from my home page and not from my account.

If you are getting articles, pictures that you don't like that are shared on their wall, stuff that you just don't want to see then that arrow on the right side of EVERY post is your true friend.

Do not mark stuff as spam, it gets the person in trouble with FB and they can lose their account and all sorts of stuff. One of my friends got blocked from his business account for 30 days. He lost business due to this sanction. He did nothing wrong, The person who reported his had requested the posts but hit the wrong button when doing a different option. It was a costly mistake for the friend though.

Each and every person you are friends with have these options and you should do this to every person's name.

I have very few people that I do mark to show every post. I like what my hubby and my ex have to say plus my daughter and a few other people. Most everyone other friend is

Everyone is checked for status updates. A lot have games checked also.

No one has comments and likes and no one has photo's. I have no need to see what they say when their great uncle's daughter posts a picture of her little kid on Halloween.

FB can be daunting so take some advice from someone who is finally "getting it".

The more you minimalize the options on each or your friends the less junk you will be dealing with on your home page.

The control is in the friend tagging her. For whatever reason if you are tagged by picture or tagged by that thing where you are typing out their name and it fills in a link, it will show up on everyone's feed that is friends with them. Your friend has no control over this process.

Sounds like it is your settings for what updates you want (in addition to their privacy settings or lack of). Take a look at those settings.