Family Problems Need Advice Before I Go Crazy.

You are not responsible for how your mom acts. You need to think of your kids and future husband before what she wants. That is your family now and has to be your priority. I would just tell mom to either shut up or leave (nicely). Plus, it is your home so it should be what is best for you, not her. I know you love her but you can't make decisions based solely on what she thinks is the best. If your mom can't handle that, it is her problem, not yours. Stand your ground and make the decision that is best for your family. Hope that helps!!

T. :)

Hi! Just another voice completely agreeing with what these other wonderful ladies are saying!!

S.,
it might be agood idea to invite your mother into a conversation, ask her what her concernes are write them down and then one by one address each of them. when you are alone look at your mothers list. find the truth is he more interested in the computer than spending time with the family? if their are things on the list that you need to negotiate with him do it! go back to your mother tell her that you appreciate her concern and insite and that she makes you feel very defensive when she tries to take control and over power you. that you are willing to listen if she can find away to present it as advice. lovingly, let her know that you are going to make some mistakes and that she has to be willing to let you be in charge of your own life. and then continue to inforce the boundery that you have set. good luck

I think your mom wants you to break off your engagement. Don't do it, you can't live for her. It's your home and you need to let her know that if she wants to stay with you she needs to respect your choices or she'll have to go. You are 25 and grown now. You deserve to be happy and have the life you want for yourself. I have cousins who allowed their moms to run their lives and they are no better for it.

I know its hard because Moms can be really tough to deal with, but you are strong enough to have a heart to heart with your mom about how she's affecting your realtionship.

I'll be praying for you...

Tell your mom she has to get some help or she has to go.

Hi S., you need to think of yourself and your family. It isnt good for your 2 boys to be around mood swings and to hear their grandmom criticize their daddy, that isnt good either. Your sister had a reason to not let her stay with her, you also have good reasons, your family could fall apart if she stays. If you ever need an ear, I'm here. Take care and think of your soon to be husband and your boys.
K.

You and your family have to be #1 in your book. Mom is going to have to deal with it. Talk to her, tell her like it is and if she can't deal with your fiance, then tell her she may have to find somewhere else to live.

Hi,
You need to sit down and talk to your mom about your feelings. and if she's not happy then she's needs to find other living arrangements.My mom lives with my husband and my three children and I had to put a stop to her mood swings I had to let her know she's living under my roof and not helping pay any of the bills and she needs to get a grip and respect my husband and my rules.

First of all do you have children with him? If you do, why did you not marry him?
Your mother is living with you and it seems that he isn't respectful. You see that she needs that respect because first: she is your mom and second she is the granmother of your children. She is acting out beacause she most likely doesn't feel good around him. If you want your mother to change...You and your boyfriend need to change. He can be more aware of her when he comes home from work. He can compilment her on her cooking or what she is wearing. Something to have a more possitive atmophere in your home. It is good for your children to see this. Also, if the children are not his ..Do your boys see their father on a regular basis? It is important that they are close to their natural fahter. Make an effort to make things right in your family. She is your mother and you need to make sure she is being taken care of.