Ok this may be a strange question and kind of out there I know. Please no posts that call me loopy. I guess I am looking to hear from mom's that have an open mind with this type of stuff. Thank you in advance.
We have two children. Not sure about being pregnant because of my age. Turned 40. No negative comments please. I decided I was done, but dang it I have this nagging feeling like someone is missing. I can't shake it. Did anyone have that with their kids? I get these weird signs.
1. I work in education and saw a student that looked like princess Jasmine from Disney. I thought oh how pretty. Didn't think much of it. So the next day I am doing yoga and the name pops up in my head out of no where. Like I heard someone say it. Two days later my husband tells me he had a dream that we had a little girl and named her Jasmine. Described how she looked as a baby and made my heart melt. He said if we ever had another daughter that is what he wanted to name her. I never told him about my instances with the name cause there wasn't anything to tell. He has always dreamed of our children before they were born. The thing is, I'm scared to be pregnant, but literally feel like someone is wanting to be born. Just a feeling I have. I had a difficult pregnancy with my last daughter that I don't want to repeat. Needed a cerclage.
2. This is out there. I was walking down my stairs and out of no where a pajama bottom was thrown at me. My oldest was in her room playing and my 2 year old was sleep in her crib. These bottoms had been sitting on the railing for about two days folded. It didn't fall it was thrown at me. Not hard or anything. Landed at my feet. No one was there. Hubby was at work. Weird. I felt like someone was there trying to get my attention. That was about 2 months ago.
3. This week I talked to a student who's name was Jasmine Born. That threw me.
So yesterday my husband I were talking and I said ok, let's go for it. I kid you not, the weirdest sense of calm came over me like someone was telling it will be ok. I didn't feel uneasy anymore.
Has anyone dealt with this feeling before? Like a little one on the other side is saying - Hey what about me! But I'm like Hey I'm done! Feeling like something bigger than me is at work here. I don't know - just curious.
Well then, have fun trying to conceive Jasmine anyway! I hope she doesn't turn out to be a boy!
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There is a phenomena (I can't for the life of me remember what it's called..ahhh!) in which when you are thinking about something certain...you see that thing everywhere. For example, there is a band called Silverchair. They haven't been around here in the states in many years. They aren't even a band anymore. I was thinking about there music the other day. All the sudden, they are on the radio! I saw something about them on TV!! I saw things on the internet! I saw a small article in a magazine!! Now, these aren't signs that I am somehow intertwined with this band. It's just they were in the forefront of MY mind. I was hypersensitive to any information
about them. Also, we often dream of things we WANT. We want all kinds of things, that we don't subconsciously recognize. Plenty of people are named Jasmine. You can find a sign in anything, if you are looking for it.
I am a true believer, in that WE create "signs" for ourselves. That when things are on our mind, or there are desires in us...we conspire with the world and mold our experiences, to fit our thoughts. I seriously doubt you are having paranormal instances, trying to convince you to have a baby. Sorry. That's more then far fetched. To more specifically answer your question, no, I have never felt that way...
(I hope my answer didn't come across as rude, I didn't mean it to be.)
I totally believe in God, fate, destiny, whatever you want to call it. I don't believe in coincidences anymore. I believe we move along a path and if we pay attention there are clues left for us all the time and everything is connected in the most amazing ways. I think you should give into whatever this is and let it take you where you are supposed to go. I have found when I do that hindsight always shows me that I am so much better off than I could have ever justified or reasoned beforehand. I had both of my kids at 36 and 38 and would have kept going if my husband wanted to as well, so as long as you are in good health and your doctor doesn't have any reservations about having another child, I think you shouldn't let 40 stand in your way. Good luck and God Bless! I love the name Jasmine!
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Yes, of course I would believe that! So many things have occured in mine and my family's life. Signs are always there, but yours are very strong . Go with it.
I have never had anything quite so apparent thrown at me, but I will tell you this: intuition is a very strong & REAL thing. The older I get, the more I realize I've done myself a great disservice numerous times over the years by ignoring my own intuition.
People call what you're going through different things: God, Fate, Angels, Destiny, Intuition, Spirits, though all different terminology, they are essentially the same thing.
I say if you truly feel it & your husband does as well, go for it! Much love & happiness is being sent your way!
Yes, I do believe children are little spirits waiting in heaven to be born, and sometimes, if we are very sensitive, we can feel them reaching out to us.
My husband and I have a really neat story concerning our son's name, where we both we 'told' the name at the same exact time. I had actually written it down b/c it impressed me so much. A minute later, my husband leaned in my ear and whispered the same exact name. It was a slightly uncommon name neither one of us had ever considered or even thought about.
I have never experienced anything like this, but it certainly sounds like your gut is trying to tell you something. Glad you and your husband decided to go for it. I agree with the previous poster who said that you can make signs out of anything or that you notice things more when you are thinking about them or looking for them.
As a side note, I don't think the poster who wrote "No!" was really being rude. She just answered the question you posed in the title of your post. She didn't put you down or comment negatively on anything you said. Part of being on a message board and asking a question is getting answers from different points of view.
I hope that you conceive a healthy baby girl and name her Jasmine (that's my best friend's name)
That's an interesting urge surge. Maybe you could adopt a Jasmine instead? Or get a pet and name it Jasmine? Maybe one of your kids is going to have your grandchild and her name will be Jasmine? Maybe you have a ghost in the house named Jasmine? Maybe you need to have one more baby and if its a boy you can call him Jasper and tell him the Jasmine story?
It does sound like you have some sort of calling tho, I'm not doubting that. Since your last pregnancy was scary I'd pray on it for awhile before going for it, unless you have already made up your mind. If so, congrats and good luck.
well, i dont know if its exactly what you are talking about, or maybe my eye? isnt quite as open as yours... but.. i clearly remember in the minutes after my daughter was born (i do mean the minutes, that amazing place where you are holding them wet against you) and this feeling came over me and i just knew i wasnt done. we really hadnt talked about it, we were both "older", and i was laying there all gross and thankful and amazed, getting her to nurse for the first time, and i suddenly just *knew* i was going to have one more. which i did, thank Gd thank Gd thank Gd....
I'm curious to know if you do get pregnant and have a little girl.
I just knew that it was time to expand our family... Not crazy, but a girl just knows these things...
As for being nervous about being pregnant at 40: I had my daughter at 39. No problems (with her or me). I think you need to look at your overall health instead of focusing on your age. How's you blood pressure? Hows your weight? Are you on any daily medications? Are you active? How's your bone and muscle health? --Because, honestly, someone at age 30 could be in a worse health condition than someone else at 40; it all depends on how healthy you've been in the decades beforehand.
I think this is sooo cool, and I totally buy into the thought that you intuitively knew someone out there was telling you something... I had a similar experience when I was pregnant with my son, who is now 5 1/2. But in my case, it was my mother who had experiences similar to yours... I recently posted this in response to another question, so I copied and pasted it here...
My mother knew I was pregnant with my son (he's now 5 1/2) way before I told her, possibly before I even conceived. She didn't exactly know she knew, but she knew... let me explain.
My mother and I are really close... I was living with my boyfriend at the time, but I'd visit home most weekends and stay with my parents. I was about 10 weeks along, and hadn't told ANYONE but my boyfriend that I was pregnant. I was doing what I thought was pretty customary, waiting until the first trimester had passed. I was not showing at all yet, still comfortably in my regular clothes.
Well, at times, I'd ask my mom to come sit in the bathroom and talk to me while I soaked in the tub (weird, I know, please don't judge! I liked the company and conversation! LOL) So anyhow, she began telling me about these weird experiences she had been having. My mom was only 19 when I was born, so at the time I was pregnant with my son, she was 51, and not in menopause yet. She was telling me about some recent overwhelming feelings that she was pregnant. She was having dreams that she was pregnant, which were totally freaking her out. She found herself acutely aware of baby things while shopping, when ordinarily this wouldn't have caught her attention. She even had a late period (which could certainly have been menopause, and probably was), but she knew she was still having periods, so she knew she could still get pregnant... so she even went to the extent to take a test, which was negative... then the period still didn't come, so she took another... she prayed about it, basically saying to God that this certainly isn't what she was expecting, but if this is the plan He had for her, she'd accept it! She had just been overwhelmed, plagued by thoughts of a baby coming... And on, and on, and on... until finally, I couldn't take it anymore and finally told her, "Mom, it's not you, it's ME." She nearly lost consciousness. She never even considered that it might be me, but she definitely KNEW a baby was coming...
To this day, we believe that somehow, subconsciously, she just knew. Call it motherly intuition, divine guidance, cosmic connection, whatever, but somehow, she knew. She was misinterpreting what was going on with her, making it about herself, instead of me, but she KNEW.
I sometimes have weird things happen like you suggested. Like a strange word will pop in my mind out of nowhere, and then, that same day, it will be said to me, and I'll see it in writing, then it will be on a billboard or something... I know that's not a great example, but as I was reading your post, I was thinking, "I know what she means! This happens to me too!!" They're not premonitions, exactly, but just weird intuitions, or thoughts that seem to have more meaning than what's on the surface...
Best wishes with Baby Jasmine. PLEASE, keep us, or at least me posted!
I didn't have anything quite as drastic as that, but I did feel that our family wasn't complete until after my third child was born. A feeling that we just weren't all here yet. Now, I feel rather calm about the fact that we are all here and my family is complete.
Well kind of. I had a girl and a boy and said I was sooooo done! I did get baby fever when I saw other babies though.
When my sister was pregnant 5 years ago, she didnt find out the sex of the baby, so my mom bought her and boy and a girl "coming home" outfit. She had a boy so she clearly didnt need the girl one.
I was in my moms laundry room last year (she always has extra clothes of the kids) and I saw the baby girl outfit hanging in there, 5 years later???? I didnt remember seeing it in there before. I remember thinking, if I ever get pregnant again (which is the last thing I wanted at the time) I said it will be a little girl and she will wear that. For some reason I knew if I ever got pregnant again it would be a girl.
Sure enough, got knocked up, baby girl, and she wore that outfit!!!
I understand this. I had been dreaming of a son for years. I dream of a boy at all ages and the only boy in my life is my grandson. I believe that the boy I have and still dream about is him.
While I was pregnant with my 2nd daughter I kept dreaming of her at various ages. The girl in my dream WAS her exactly. ONLY, many years later my 4th daughter came a long and she is the spitting image of our 2nd in so many ways.
I don't believe in ghosts. But the Bible says that he knew us before we were ever conceived. I believe that God has chosen you for the spirit that's not yet conceived and that he is telling you both what to do.
WHY NOT give it a go? Really. I say with very strong feelings you have, find out. If it was meant to be, it surely will become.
I have not specifically had feelings like this for an un-conceived baby, but I have felt similarly about other happenings. I do believe in spirits- with all the experiences I have had, They are 100% "here" as far as I'm concerned, I don't think you can make up stuff like that.
yes, I do believe that happens. i believe in a pre-existence and definitely believe that you can know when it's time for another one to arrive. sounds like you have another one waiting. i don't think your age is an issue. Not saying there's no chance something will be "wrong" if you had another child - but anyone of any age can have that happen. With the calm feeling you describe when you think of having another, I think you should go for it!
Hi marie-
I have had premonitions...but not regarding my kids.
I DO, however see the 'signs' that made me 'uniquely chosen' to be shannon's mom...in hindsight.
I had done a semester in college in a 'profound and severe' pre K classroom (this was late 70's...terms have changed!).
In the context of another job, had to become a certified CPR/first aid instructor...
My dad had to have a triple bypass and heart valve replacement...and recuperated with our family...
I was the director of a child development center thru first three kiddos...
I had 5 children already when we had shannon and megan...
My prior experiences had exposed me/prepared me for so many challenges regarding shannon...
It was NO accident!
Best Luck!
michele/cat
It depends on your religion, but in ours we believe that you are a spirit and you have a body. When you make a baby, a spirit enters the body. When that person dies, the spirit leaves the body.
There are spirits in the world looking for families. Perhaps one has found yours! Some people in our religion even remember picking out their family. So feel lucky that someone has "chosen" you :)
