Hi, K.:
I understand your dilemma. Give the mother some time to clear her own feelings. Then you too can restore your friendship, if she is a compassionate person.
When you get the girls next time, call a circle dialogue and ask these questions to the visiting girls whose behavior is upsetting to you.
They need to learn that their behavior is affecting you and others. What ever occurs, follow the same procedure.
For example:
In the circle, you start of by saying that you were upset about witnessing them going over to anothe table and turning their back on your girls.
Ask each of the offending parties these questions
1. What happened?
2. What were yoou thinking of at the time?
3. What have you thought about since?
4. Who has been affected by what you have done? In wat way?
5. What do you think you need to do to make things right?
You and the other girls, you answer these questions to them yourself, and then you ask these questions to the other girls.
1. What did you think when you realized what had hapened?
2. What impact has this incident had on you and others?
3. What has been the hardest thing for you?
4. What do you think needs to happen to make things right?
The last thing you need to teach all the girls and yourself is how to apologize.
For Example:
........, May I apologize?
yes,
May I apologize for:............? (Name what it is.)
(If apology is accepted Yes, I accept your apology, or no, depends on sincerity.)
The offender Asks: Do you need anything?
The offended one: Reiterates what was said in the agreement or adds soemtthing else needed.
The session is ended with a handshake or hug.
Good luck.
D.
Resource guide: www.iirp.edu
Updated
Hi, K.:
I understand your dilemma. Give the mother some time to clear her own feelings. Then you too can restore your friendship, if she is a compassionate person.
When you get the girls next time, call a circle dialogue and ask these questions to the visiting girls whose behavior is upsetting to you.
They need to learn that their behavior is affecting you and others. What ever occurs, follow the same procedure.
For example:
In the circle, you start of by saying that you were upset about witnessing them going over to anothe table and turning their back on your girls.
Ask each of the offending parties these questions
1. What happened?
2. What were yoou thinking of at the time?
3. What have you thought about since?
4. Who has been affected by what you have done? In wat way?
5. What do you think you need to do to make things right?
You and the other girls, you answer these questions to them yourself, and then you ask these questions to the other girls.
1. What did you think when you realized what had hapened?
2. What impact has this incident had on you and others?
3. What has been the hardest thing for you?
4. What do you think needs to happen to make things right?
The last thing you need to teach all the girls and yourself is how to apologize.
For Example:
........, May I apologize?
yes,
May I apologize for:............? (Name what it is.)
(If apology is accepted Yes, I accept your apology, or no, depends on sincerity.)
The offender Asks: Do you need anything?
The offended one: Reiterates what was said in the agreement or adds soemtthing else needed.
The session is ended with a handshake or hug.
Good luck.
D.
Resource guide: www.iirp.edu