Does Anyone Else Have "What If'" Thoughts in Their Minds Frequently?

i understand...i really do....my what if's stem from deaths of loved ones...which make me a worry wart.....i just try to live in the moment and enjoy each day...do you know what your what if's stem from?

M.

i am the same way, it is all about your attitude, you have to try to be positive and look at all of the beautiful things in your life. easy to say, i know. try to make a conscious effort to be a glass is half full kind of person. try to talk at the dinner table about the things you are thankful for each nite. each person tells one thing. little things like that can make a difference. also, i pretty much stopped watching the news. so i am completely ignorant now, but it helped.

If it does not interfere with your daily life/functioning it's not to the level of an anxiety disorder. I think it's just about being a mom, content with how things are and not wanting something bad to happen to your family. It's normal, I have these mild kind of worries, and my frineds have said they do as well. I think it's ok as long as you don't obsess about them.

D.,

You are not crazy it is called an ANXIETY DISORDER. What you are doing is the best treatment keeping busy. Our minds are very powerful, we can talk ourselves in an out of things very easily. Many people have to take medication for this disorder because it can really cripple their life. However if you can try to turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts or better yet try not to have to much thinking down time it will pass. As women we go through so many hormonal fluctuations that I think it can effect our emotional well being at times. I had this happen to me when my kids were young and I was a stay at home mom. The responsibility of caring for my two beautiful children scared me to death trying to keep them safe. My husband was very helpful however he worked long hours and sometimes worked far from home so I think that contributed to my anxiety. I was very overprotective, scared of everything and nervous all of the time. Just remember if something bad is going to happen it is out of your control and there will always be a way to try to fix it. You can not stop living your life in fear that something bad is going to happen. If you are not intentionally subjecting yourself or your kids to dangerous behaviors then the chances of something bad happening are small. Just enjoy your life and your kids and stop worrying. Good luck!!

Hi D.,
"What if's" are a constant in my mind... my mom has told me that once you become a mom, they will always be there. Sometimes I can get so carried away with my thoughts that I bring myself to tears. I find that the one thing that helps is prayer. If my mind starts going too far, I will stop myself and ask God to keep my family safe and healthy. Now it's in God's hands and I'm not allowed to worry about it anymore. Of course, the next day the "what if's" start all over again...
Best of luck to you; I know how hard it can be!