Hi B.,
I am so sorry for you experience with your photographer! I am a mom of 4 girls and a wedding photog my self. Here is what I suggest: Go to your contract if you have one, Find out exactly when and what she promised you. Send her a certified-return reciept letter with a copy of the contract with her responsibilities highlighted (she probably lost hers) and tell her what you want, A- your money back, or B what she promised, plus your negatives back! Give her a time limit, 10 days or less. Then tell her, do not ask, Tell her if she does not complete what she promised, you will be taking legal action. Keep your records together. Get out your phone records and try to write down every time you have called. It sounds to me like she does not keep good files. Report her definitely to the BBB and local chamber. You can even post comments on the knot to save someone else.
I always sit down and explain to my brides exactly what they are getting for the price discussed and I promise pictures in 4-6 weeks, and it is all in writing.
If you really don't like ANY of the photos, talk to your family and friends and have them all send you copies of theirs! Everyone sees different beautiful things, and even though they may not be "professional" photos, they could be just as lovely because they were taken by those closest to you, those who love you and know you better! Have a picture party, ask eveyone to bring you thier cd's or favorite photos, get a big beautiful scrapbook and build you own book with the love of your friends helping you! Then it will be a labor of love, created by You and the people who care about you the most! That will be more meaningful than any obligitory photos that make you cry! Please please have good luck with this and make this a happy memory! The best photos make you feel happy, it sounds like you friends pictures might be the best ones of all. Best of luck and let me know if you need any help!
-from C., new to petaluma and the mom of 4 very beautiful girls, 13, 11,9,5