Divorce - Miami,FL

This happened with my ex also. Unfortunately you can't force someone to be a parent. My kids father disappeared 5 years ago. My oldest was 4 and the youngest 4 months. I took my oldest daughter to counseling because of her declining behavior. She was a daddy's girl and he bailed, of course she was going to act out since she was too young to know how to handle it. It took about 2 years for my daughter to learn to deal with the situation and even now at 10 years old she still asks hard questions and her behavior becomes difficult because of it. My advice is to go to the school and talk to the counselor yourself, maybe they have a mentor program where she can have a positive male role model. I wish I had more advice, but it may get worse before it gets better. Your daughter has to learn what works for her in dealing with the situation and every kid is different. I got my girls into Girl Scouts and community theater and it has helped a lot, that may be something to think about. Give her an outlet so she doesn't just think about it constantly. I wish you the best.

I'm sorry to hear that your daughter is reaching for her father and he's not responding. Have you talked to him? Do you know why he's not communicating with her? I would do whatever it took to get in touch with him and give him a little reality check. I guess for now all you can do is make sure she has some type of father figure in her life thats a good role model. Like a grandfather or uncle, someone you can trust to let her know that all men aren't bad.

My daughter does the same thing when she talks to her father. She has not seen him in over a year. Have you talked to the school counselor about this? He/She may be able to help you with this. If you do not receive help there I would seek counseling somewhere else. Good Luck. I know it can be hard.
R.

Maybe it would help if you called her father and left amessage and told him how his not calling has affected her. Tell him a little 5min call would mean the world to her.

K.,
I am so sorry for the ache you both feel. I think it's important for your daughter to know she can be angry and hurt and express those feelings through talking to you. Don't put her father down but explain he's on a different level. The two of you are advancing in life while he is stuck. Or something along those lines so she gets the sense of moving on by choice. The two of you are in control of pushing forward. Her father did not calling back just shows why mommy had to move on in the first place.
Most important is to allow her to express herself verbally. This will stop lashing of with behavioral problems.
Of course speaking on a level of "CRITICAL", God is key!
Turn to him and ask for his guidence and favor. Pray before you talk to her and ask that he give you the words to your tongue and that you make the correct choices in conversation. Talk to him about the whole deal. Pray for your x. Ask God to turn his favor to him and make him the father God intended for him to be. Pray and give it all to the maker of all things. God can and will turn this around for you. You have to ask him to. Trust in the Lord and he will deliver!
Pray for strenghth, wisdom, and understanding......then believe it will all come. Watch God move in your life, simply from asking him to. Don't forget to pray for your x as well. He needs guidence.
Loving you through the blood of Christ.