Diaper Change Refusal

I think you are doing great that at that age she wants to try the potty. It is not unusual for them to be afraid to do #2 on the potty. At her age, I, myself. Would not push it. She os yoing yet. If she were closer to four, I would have some concerns about it. At this point, it is experimental to her. As far as changing the diaper, mom, you are in charge and need to assert that. At the same time, explain that it smells bad, not good for her to sit in it and she doesn't want a bottom that hurts. She may be afraid that you are going to push the potty thing so tjis is her way of asserting independence. They all test us in way or another, but this is where, you as mom, can take control and just do. She will be fine and it will all be good. From a mom, with two out of diapers, I miss those days! I know it is a struggle to change her, but there are ways for you to do that without the power struggle. She kust needs to know, you are in charge. She thinks now that she is controlling that situation a bit.

OMG I have heard of this, have a 2.5 year old son who will not even go into pullups yet, and am really watching to see what responses you get. I have heard it has to do with them feeling it is a "part of them" for lack of a better description. They don't want to lose it, flush it etc because it is sortof an extension of them..? Will be interested to see if anyone else has heard that...
Best of Luck!

Steph

I was told by a friend of mine who used to run a daycare in her home that most kids aren't truly ready to use the potty on their own till they are 3 even if they do start earlier. I would just keep that in mind and be patient with her.

Hi Tija!
My son is the same way! He's been interested on and off w/potty training since 18 months and he is now 28 months. Since Thanksgiving he's been going pee on the potty 4-5 times a day. He doesn't like to wear a diaper or pull up so I let him run around the house w/out one. We've had a few accidents but those have been few and far between lately. I do the same thing w/naps and bedtime. He has to wear a diaper when sleeping and when we go out. He doesn't like diaper changes either after he poops. It's always a struggle but just lately he asks to see the poop after I change his diaper. Strange but I go with it and show him. Since I've been showing him his poop in his diaper he's been more cooperative when I change him. Weird but maybe it has to do w/what the other mom said about kids not wanting to seperate from their bowel movements???

Anyway I've been given lots of advice on potty training and the best I've gone with is just being laid back about it and letting them take the lead. Good luck it's a long road ahead of us but they'll get there!