Desperate Mom Needs Help!

I am a protective mom, just as much as the next mom, but I don't think it's fair to jump to the conclusion that the sitter might be at fault. My nephew did the same thing when he was 5 years old, and like the post before me, it was basically because he just didn't "like it" there, not that anyone was neglecting him or being mean. Now he's in soccer and after-school Spanish lessons and is thriving. My brother did the very same thing, only more dramatic: he'd get sick and have bad stomach aches and act out, and when it came down to it, he didn't like the white walls and felt "stifled". With little guys that age, they really are just learning what they like and dislike, and they want to communicate it but sometimes that communication is acting out. I'm sure your sitter is doing the best she can, and she's acting responsibly by turning in notice since realizing there's a problem she can't fix.

D.,

I don't know why he would do that. But he may just need some extra attention right now. It is an age where they get more demanding of our time.

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T.

I would listen to your child. The only way that they have to communicate at this age is through crying. It sounds as if something isn't right...I would find other childcare and "see" what happens.

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i had the exact same problem. she was perfect, holistic, organic, elder, no pricey, good hours. Is she in missouri city????? and then I started checking in at different times when i started hearing the same as what ur saying. my son was being neglected,same diaper i dropped him off in 4 hours before, toys never used in front room, and he was in crib. he was with her from 3-6 months. I found a new place, warned them that he may scream and he never did. He has been with them since, actually i tried another palce for 2 weeks about 3 months ago, he was 17 onths, he screamed and cried when i dropped him off and cried when he saw me. so he went back to palce number 2. smiles and wiggles his way out of my arms in the morning. he just may not be happy or some things arent as they seem.

D.,

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M.

I agree that at certain ages, they require different things... perhaps he can SENSE her apprehension at the though that he might be fussy and he feeds off her... I mean, face it, NO ONE can replace mamma...and they don't get 100% of the attention at daycare... they just don't... there's only one child care provider for "x" amount of kids... hopeuflly it'll just be a phase that will pass but... sounds like she's already made up her mind as to what's going to happen.

And, you don't want a stressed out sitter -- bad things can only come from that... take a breath... think about your baby's face... and take it one step at a time finding someone new... you can do it -- won't be the most convenient but you have to do what's right for you all.

Sounds to me like he has Separation Anxiety. Both of my kids have been like that. Just fine once I pick them p and hold them. SCREAMING BLOODY MURDER if I'm not right there with my 7 month old son. My daughter is 2 now, so it's not that bad anymore. GOOD LUCK!

sounds like the babysitter is the problem. I could be wrong, but why chance it with your child. You never know what she is doing. It might be fine to her and other children, but your baby might not like it and he is letting you know through crying. What hours are you looking for someone to watch your son and how much are you paying the woman who has him now?

I'm not saying all the answers are wrong I have a 4 1/2 yr old boy also Who act similar to what you are going thru My problem was he was bored He did not have enough things to do with his sitter I enrolled him in martial arts and also put him in school for 3 days a week...He is 100 % better I still question him about why he act or was it the sitter...He stated it was not fun being there.!!Take that into consideration..Hey maybe we can do a playdate also in the future!!

he may have an upset stomach... like gas
do you breast feed?

he eats what you eat....lol

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I know at a certain age all she wanted was me all the time. They start to realize who is around them and if they don't feel comfortable with them they let it known. I would maybe test it out with say someone else for a day or two to see if the lil one acts better with them. Maybe a friend your baby does not see every day can watch him for a day to test it out. But I think in my opinion your lil man does not like his babysitter. Good luck!