Death at a Young Age...It Happened Again!

I definitely understand what you're saying. I lost a lot of family & friends at a young age, including my brother, and now that I'm a mom it has made me a bit paranoid and overprotective. I see a therapist now and that helps a lot, she's helping me to focus on the things I CAN control and not dwell on things that are out of my hands. You can make this work for good, you will be a more attentive parent than people who have never experienced loss. You should try to find a good counselor so these worries don't build up on you too much.

Here is the way I look at youthful death, and yes I have lost including my own child ... they were overacheavers and learned what they were sent her to learn and tought what they were sent her to teach and touched those whom they were sent her to touch quickly and with ease. Now they get to go home to rest a while until other lessons are needed. Personally I am happy for them that they accomplished this so quickly. Yes, it is ok to be sad and to reach out to those who are immediately stricken but this is what they are faced with in life and they will strive and live the lives intended for them. We all have lessons to learn and teach some are harder than others. Again, this is how I look at it and understand it. But this last statement is all encompassing ... if you allow yourself to dwell on this then you will not be able to move on and that is selfish when there is a whole world out there that needs you to be active!

I completely understand that feeling of "What is happening?!" Especially when you are a tight knit community that loses people young. We (hubby and I went to same high school) were just talking about all the untimely deaths of people we knew following the third death in a year of someone we know.
What we have to take comfort in is the reality. . . death is a part of life. And, depending on your religion, it is not the end, but a beginning.
So your list, while longer than most right now, is not unexpected or uncommon in today's world where so much happens.
If you are just wondering if common - sadly, yes.
If you are feeling anxious about it, you should go speak with a priest, counselor or pastor.
Hang in there!

Whoa...so sad..I don't know what to say, maybe it sounds like too much for you because you keep good track of them? Could also be that you know a lot of people..I don't know, I am sure there are millions of premature deaths everyday in the world. Sadly some could be avoided (child drowned= negligence of caregivers?) but some...you really can't foresee. I guess all we can do is love hard and enjoy our life while we have it.

You know I've been feeling a similar way about children that have passed so young and sometimes under horrendous circumstances. For the life of me I can't even wrap my brain around why and how some of these sweet lives are taken from us. Being a mom I can identify how great such a loss would be. I think that you too can identify with the losses that you have been close to. It's a very sobering thought to think that it could be you or your children. I think it's healthy to a point and keeps us humble in our relationships but we have to keep a balance and become obsessed with it. Not sure if you have a personal relationship with God but I know that with the reality of pain and grief on this side of eternity I have peace in knowing that God understands even when I don't. I also trust and pray that if my life ends short my family well be cared for by him much better than I ever could do myself.
Hope by bringing God into my post does not offend you or seem flippant or insincere. I know that to some it seems that God is the answer for everything. Well I'm not saying that I know and understand everything because I know God but I do have a peace that passes any understanding that I could have about this life. I wish the same for you.
Best Regards,
C.

It's really a reality check and hopefully you have life insurance and other things in place for you and your family. No one knows when something is going to happen and unfortunately, most think "it won't happen to them". I'm sorry you have gone thru this.

That's a lot of death. Sounds like it may be affecting you. You should maybe speak with a counselor.

I guess I'm like Patty. It inspires me to live life at it's fullest every day.

Sending you positive thoughts!

:)

Death is the only inevitable in life. Early deaths can happen. I have been exposed to many. Too many. Please try to not be preoccupied with it. But if you find you can't stop thinking about it you should mention it to your doctor. The stress you could bring upon yourself is not healthy for you or the baby.

I'm so sorry for your losses. When we lose loved ones, it makes us really consider these things. Man knows not his time here on earth. We don't know if we have 50 years or 50 minutes left to live. People die at all ages, and that is normal and common. Where do you find your peace through it all? I guess that is the question. Do you have peace?