Custody Issues - Middletown,CT

is it in the decree that no over night visits are allowed with someone of the opposite gender, if so, there is nothing they can do. a lot of decree's are having that listed these days. I'd make bf move out before you take him to court, my husband was holding that against his ex wife and she lost a lot of her case (that is still going) because of that reason....the court systems frown on that about as bad as not paying child support BIG TIME.

over night visits at that age are not bad. i left my exhusband when our daughter was only 3 months old, and well, judge saw no harm in it mainly because i was no longer breast feeding.

i'd surely call an attorney and talk about your rights but with joint custody, he has just as much say so as you do, that's what i have with my ex husband...what they enforce is up to them.

MAKE A JOURNAL of what's going on so when court date arrives you can tell exactly when what happened. and let him keep making the "wrong moves" holding her hostage or what not, it'll make him look worse and worse. i had to go through all that with my ex and he's now set himself up that i now qualify to take him for child support and possibly custody too (took 8 years but it worked itself out)

Wow, I'm sorry, it sounds like your life is very messy! The police are suppose to be there to enforce orders and if it is past his your weekend, she goes back to you. Stand your ground, be persitant, do not give up, go higher up in the department and ask for an emergency hearing. Unfortunately since he is the father, he will be entitled to time with his daughter. You have a long future with this man. He sounds very scary.

You take your court order with you to the police and tell them that your ex is violating the court order which is the same as kidnapping your daughter and you want them to retrieve your daughter for you. If they won't, you talk to the supervisor. If that does not work, go to your local family court and see what they say.

As far as the babysitter issue, if your ex has a problem (and it is not legitimate one) there is really nothing he can do. He can petition the court but if not a legitimate reason, they won't do anything. I speak from experience (in Delaware). We were actually told that it was none of our business where our child was when it was the other parent's visitation/custody time.

The only thing i can suggest is to first pray and then communicate to the courts when you go how he will take Jayla out of her enviroment with you in order to communicate what he would like to happen, that has to be upsetting for your daughter. Sorry this is happening!

If he is violating the court order, can't the police do something about that?

I know that you must be really frustrated. I would be too. There may be low-cost or free help at family court that can help you. I'm perplexed that if your husband violates a court order the only remedy is to wait for a distant court date to resolve it. You need to remain calm and get some help. Good-luck.