Broken Spirit

Oh NO! But please DO make the short story LONG, we don't mind. A lot easier to offer encouragement when we know what's wrong, you know?!

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Like Theresa said, if you're willing to share, by all means, please do. Not trying to be nosy, it just helps us help you! :)

Since that's a pretty general post, I will say this... if you feel like you've hit rock bottom, the only place to go is UP!! Make yourself a list of things you'd like to change, then be proactive, do something about it!! Whether it's getting an honest job, furthering your education, losing weight... only YOU can make it happen. Give yourself a timeline, like, you want to accomplish 'x' by this time next year... or make a small goal, like you want to clean out your basement in the next 2 weeks. That will give you a huge sense of accomplishment!!

Chin up buttercup :)

When my spirit was broken, my best friend told me this: "Just like when you are sick & you fill your body with good remedies, you must do the same now. Surround yourself with positive movies, books, words, music, & people. Fill up on positive."

His advice was so simple, yet so profound to me. I did just that. I took in as much positive as I could. It helped heal me greatly.

It wasn't easy by any means. Some days, it was a down right struggle. For those days, he told me "Manana sera mejor." Again, he was right.

Peace to you...

Depending on your background, you might want to talk to a therapist. If you have healthcare, a certain number of visits should be covered.

And count your blessings daily!

prayer works for me. and talking to my mom. i dont know if you have someone close that you can talk to. if not, and you're up to it, I am here!!! I have had some really crappy childhood experiences and have been through a lot. so you can talk to me if it would help. I pray, sometimes i just sit and talk out loud or in my head to God, and i feel so much better. sometimes i just pray for help and that's all. counseling could help maybe, but i think the fact that you are reaching out for help is very good and shows that there is help for you!!!! i'll pray for you!

Therapy for sure. Some people really struggle until things start looking up. I am sorry you are experiencing the "valley" in your life. Are you religious? Sometimes calling out to God in addition to some practical counseling can be a life saver. Hang in there and sending hugs and prayers your way.

My advice is to write down every little thing that is good in your life. Even if it is small like "I love my fluffy towels" or medium "we have a place to sleep tonight" or big like my "daughter is alive and fairly healthy" There are mothers who have lost their children to disease, accidents, kidnapping, etc. There are mothers raising children too handicapped to ever live independently. There are mothers trying to mend children who experienced horrible traumas. there are children around the world who dont have clean water and antibiotics, who dont have parents or loving caretakers, children who become soldiers or prostitutes at young ages. I'm not belittling your sadness, I'm just saying write down you are grateful for any one of these you haven't experienced. Every night read your list and see if you can add something. It really reminds me to focus more on the positive. Praying helps me too, does it help you??

I like the idea of a journal and a therapist. When you journal you can also work on writing positive affirmations to yourself, and repeating them in your head while you take a walk or some other physical exercise. Affirmations can be a simple as... " I am a strong and peaceful person." ( Always start with "i" statements). You'll be surprised at how much better you feel when you start focusing and believing in yourself.

And this site is can be wonderfully supportive. If you willing to share, there are lots of resourceful and wise women who love to help through their own experience and advice. (There's some snarky ones too, but we just ignore those :)We all have times in our lives when were down... sometime sit helps just to get connected with other people and know that you aren't' alone.

Sending you a hug~

I would recommend seeing a therapist-start there.

Get a journal and make yourself write for 20 minutes (or as much as you can give) every morning, as soon as you wake up. It doesn't matter if you write "I have nothing to say"... keep writing about anything, the birds, what you'll do today, etc. and eventually you will find yourself working out some things you didn't know how to express before.

If you haven't seeked professional advice, you should. You could be depressed. Also, get moving. Challenging yourself physically will improve your self image. Find new friends that have a positive outlook on life. If you have friends that bring you down, you have to stop hanging around them for your own sanity. Join a volunteer group. Life is a wonderful opportunity. If you are lucky you will get 80 years to smell the grass, listen to the birds, and feel the wind on your face. Don't waste another moment looking back at a pass that wasn't embracing. You have today. Live it.