BM Potty Training

I like the toy idea. I like what PB&J did and had him pick out the toy, carry through the store, bring it home, and then put it on the back of the toilet. He'll want that toy that's just staring at him in the bathroom! Although it thoroughly grosses me out to think of a 4 year old cleaning out their own poopy underwear, I think you may need to try that too...with an over abundance of antibacterial hand soap after! But whatever you do, stop enabling him by giving him diapers!

Ugh this is frustrating my now 24 year old daughter did the exact same thing. Finally I said enough "you want to poop in your pants, then you can clean it up". She looked at me as if I was insane. But after cleaning herself 2 times that was it. No more pooping in her pants. She still remembers that. And asked why didn't you try that sooner. LOL

You need to be firm. You need to tell him that he will use the toilet from now on. Toss the diapers. If you need to get a kids potty, that may help. Less intimidating. If he has a routine (pooping every night) then sit him down and do not let him up until he's gone, you mentioned 15 mins, then you wait with him 15 mins. Bring books, toys, sing songs, dance around for him if you have to. It can help him relax and let it happen. You can even try a warm bath before bed to help him relax. If all else fails you can have him clean out his underpants, at four he can run the faucet just fine and should be verbal enough to understand that it is no longer acceptable to go in his underpants.

You need to make him super proud of the potty. Make a big fuss, sometimes a simple bribe can work. My daughter got candies, one for pee and two for poop. She got to pick them out at the store every week. It helped because she was excited to get them and willing to work for them.

I see a couple of others say that if he poops his pants he needs to clean it himself. Go with that. Get rid of the diapers completely, and make him wash out his own underwear. I know a lot of people that worked for.

Sit him backwards on the toilet and give him a hand held game thing, Iphone, android phone, DS, etc....encourage him to sit on the toilet for half an hour even longer. If he gets his mind of pooping he may go accidentally and then be okay.

You need John Rosemund's help - google how to poop train an older child with his name in the search

Is there some toy he really wants? I'd just tell him that once he starts using the toilet for his poop, you'll get him the toy. Don't say anything else. Don't even mention it again. Tell him that after he decides he is done with the diaper and uses the toilet, you'll give him the toy.

I might also mention to him to watch for the feeling of pressure, etc

My son didn't want to, either. We tried so many things. What ended up working for us is this. We went to the store and I had him pick out a toy. (It was a monster truck.) I told him it was his special prize and he would only get to play with it after he pooped in the toilet. I let him hold it in the store and carry the bag home. I kept it in the package and put it on the back of the toilet where he could see it and touch it every time he went in there. A couple days later, he got his toy! Haven't had any more problems. .