Birthday Party Confusion

How old are your step children? I really dont see how that's unfair. If you sit your children down and you explain that they ALWAYS get 3 parties, and the baby has only had 1, and that he has a right, just like they do, to have a family party and a friend party. They are still getting an extra party, that your son wont. I think it's pretty unfair for your youngest to only have one party. It's not his fault that he only has one side of the family and not 2. I see nothing wrong with it. I know that this sound alittle off, but what if your husband threw in some money when the other kids have there friend b-day party? That might make him feel like he's giving all the children the same treament. Good luck, it's never easy when you have two diffent families joined into one.

I agree with the first poster. I also have a step mom who had double standards for her kids over us and we have never had a great relationship since. My mother passed away so we weren't going to different houses, but if you have set a rule in your house for the kids it should go for everyone.

I have a step mom and if she told me that I was only allowed one party at her place but her kids could have two, I'd be pissed. Stuff like this actually happened so I still have hard feelings towards her, but for more things than just that. Sure they get multiple parties from their mom but that's not the rule in your house. I do see it as a double standard (sorry to be blunt).
As far as when to have the party, the kids tend to have tons of stuff in June with everyone else's parties that it may be worth it to wait until July. Wait and see what it looks like.

Why don't you try having a party for all the kids to invite some school friends.If it's just a end of school party or ready for summer party then everyone will be included and you won't have any hard feelings. At the party make sure to get the phone numbers of the friends of your son to keep in touch with in the summer and invite them to his real birthday party in july with the family. Hope this works for you !

As a girl who grew up with step parents, I think it's pretty important to keep things equal between your biological kids and your steps. It's hard, I see both sides for sure, but esp the 11 year old, yikes, I can see her being very resentful. Maybe you guys can do something low-key with the family and like 1 friend out at a restaurant or a park so you're not always cleaning up and planning a party. My step parents went above and beyond making me feel like their real daughter, and my stepdad even calls me his daughter to others. It makes a huge difference. Otherwise, I'm afraid you will be resented for giving your son his own party. I'm sorry...good luck.