One Birthday Party or Two

I think each child should have their own special day. My son has a cousin only 4 days older than him and we discussed having a joint party when we lived near each other but decided against it. Every child has their own personality and likes and dislikes. Besides, by combining parties, you miss out on that big 1ST BIRTHDAY bash all his own.

My daughter was born 6 days before my sons birthday and uo too my daughters 3rd birthday and my sons 6th birthday I did them together, but now I started separtating them because they are so opposite now that they are older. I think it is fine though at the beginning to do them together
H.

I would say one party for the big boy this year and when the youngest is old enough to understand, 2. I mean, you can incorporate 2 parties in one and make them both feel special at the same time. Its tough when you have two so close, but it can be oh so fun at the same time! don't think so much and believe me, it will be something they both will never forget!

I just had a double birthday party for my 2 girls. One just turned 6 and one turned 3. They love having a birthday party together. It saves soooo much money. and more people do show up. I had them seperate one time and it was so much hassle! Half the people who showed up for one didnt show up for the next. I would advise having seperate cakes though. or cupcakes. Because this year I decided to have 1 cake for both of them and the older one blew out the candles first because she was quicker. Well the youngest did not like that til we relit them!I made them both little chairs to sit on to open presents and made sure I made everything as equal as possible. It turned out great and I saved alot of money. Although, I'm sure when they get older they'll want thier own. So you might want to get in as much money saving as possible while they're still young! Good luck and Have fun!

Hi S.,

I have two girls one whose birthday is January 25th and one who birthday is February 17th, not as close as your two. Except for my youngest 1st birthday (which is special) I have had the party's combined. There is 3 years difference, but my older child hasn't really cared up until this coming year. I think it will be fine to do birthday's together, until the older one really vocalizes that he/she would like to have their own. You will also need to consider the the theme of the party. One year when my youngest was turning 2 we rented Party Pony's. They brough 5 pony's (the ones they use at different events that they hook up and they walk in a circle) for two hours of riding. I had over 30 children between the ages of 2 and 5 in and around my house. It was great, but I didn't consider the fact that everyone would show up. We also had a party last year at Pump It Up, it is an indoor facility that has the blow up things they jump, crawl and run in. It went really well and was fun for all ages.

I would have their parties together while they are young, (Except for the 1st birthday). As they get older they may want to have separate ones.

I think my days of having my girls together are over. My middle child will turn 8 and wants to have a spend the night party and the youngest will only be 5. It has been nice and yes it can be cheaper. You just need to consider how many you want to invite. It will be double the children at the same time.

Congratulations on your baby!

R.

My children's b-days are 3 days short of being exactly 2 years apart. I completely understand. We came home from the hospital on my daughters 2nd Birthday & I felt so guilty b/c everyone seemed more interested in the new baby. In my opinion celebrate all the major b-days seperately like the 1st & the 16th & the 18th. As far as the others go I think it would be more than ok to celebrate them together. I don't think toddler aged children even remember their parties, and also you will have the benefit of being able to ask them what they want as the get a little bit older. I hope this helps u out. Have a great day!

Hi S., I'm in Maiden too! Anyway, I have a cousin who has the same birthday as me. We used to have our birthday parties together all the time. It was a time for the family to get together, and we would both have our own friends there also. Sometimes we would have seperate cakes, but sometimes it would be shared where it was split in half by icing and it said happy birthday to me on one side an happy birthday to him on the other. I don't remember having any bad feelings about it. As he got older (he was 4 yrs older than me) he decided he wantes his own parties and what not, especially because of the age difference. I think when they are young it probably wouldn't matter if they have it together, especially if they are only 2 days apart. If the next one is a girl, I'm sure eventually (around 8 or so) they might want to have different parties. If the next one is a boy, for the most part they probably will like having it together since they will have the same friends anyway... and like you said, it would be easier for family and friends to make one party than 2. I hope this helps some! Congrats on the new little one!

I have five kids close together and two of them have birthdays less than two weeks apart. We did the first birthday for our daughter as a big bash then did another party for my son two weeks later. But after that first year, we have always done a party together with two different cakes (letting them both pick the cake they wanted like chocolate spiderman cake and white strawberry shortcake cake for example). We just did decorations that blended with both like everything red in this case. More people were willing to come to one party than two parties close together and they both got to open gifts together. They had a ball! My sister's birthday was only three days before mine and we grew up having birthday's together. My parents just was able to put more money into one party so we got bigger parties at skating rinks, fun places, zoo, ect. It is even easier if both kids are the same sex.

We are fixing to celebrate my daughter's third birthday with my son's fifth. So we are doing a My Little Pony/Cowboy theme. We are renting ponies for the day and buying hats from Oriental Trading for all the kids, getting them seperate cakes, ect. But it doesn't have to always be big, with kids that close and still young, having it together usually makes it more fun. But when they get school age they may want seperate parties so they can invite their seperate classmates and friends. So enjoy the joint parties while you can! Hope this helps.

I have two stepsons and one son. Their birthdays are 2/3, 1/22 & 1/18. My stepsons being the first two. They have their party together. While my son's is separate because of their different families

I think one birthday party could work. However, if the family is really seeing the baby for the first time, and since she/he will be a newborn, please make sure they understand that this is for both of them and that all the attention should not be on just the baby. That is the only thing I was concerned about. I know how easy it is to be carried away with an infant...I just don't want your son to feel left out

Hi S.. I would say that having one big party wouldnt be a problem because they are so young. You can probably get away with one party for a few years, atleast until your oldest child starts wanting more independence from his brother/sister. My sisters birthday was a week after my Aunts and we always through them a party together. However, like you said it is a bit soon and they say that it is rare for a child to actually be born on their due date. So I would try to wait and see what happens first. I wish you the best!

I gotta tell ya, doing 1 b-day is wonderful!!! My 2 girls are 5 yrs. apart. July 2nd & 6th. My youngest is 10, oldest is 15. I have had the biggest b-day party on the 4th of july for 10 yrs now. But, on their actual b-day, we have a small "just family" cake night. Every one is content with this. I hope my story helps!!!

My thought on this is for the family do one party, but then let them each have a special day to invite their own friends over. Even if they just have cake and ice cream and play a few games with their friends they will each feel like they have a special day. I have 2 year old twins and so far they do have birthdays together but we will start separating them when they have their own friends, but they will have the choice to celebrate together if they want to.

ME AND MY SISTER SHARE THE SAME BIRTHDAY 9 YEARS APART. I THINK EVERYBODY WANT THEIR OWN TIME AND DAY.

My sister I have birthdays about 3 weeks apart and my best birthday memories are the ones we shared. Even though we were 4 years apart in age we shared some friends, and many of our friends were siblings as well so that saved the parents from coming to 2 parties 3 weeks apart. There were also some years where Mom gave us the option of having a big party or getting a big present. Of course we still had a cake and small celebration at home on our day.

Hey,

My sister's birthday is 2 weeks before mine... we are about 2 years apart. We always had a joint birthday party. It was great because we always seemed to have the same friends. It meant we could invite more people and all celebrate at once. I'm sure it was easier on our mom and we loved it. It's a great idea, at least while they are little. I'm sure they will help you with that decision later in life! :-)

OK WE HAVE ALOT IN COMMON MY SON'S BIRTHDAYS ARE CLOSE TOO THE OLDEST IS DECEMBER 25TH AND MY YOUNGEST IS JANUARY 4TH SO I HAVE 2 PARTIES I USE TO HAVE THEM TOGETHER BUT WITH THE AGE DIFFERECE I STARTED HAVING 2 PARTIES...SINCE YOUR KIDS WILL BE SO CLOSE IN AGE I WOULD SUGGEST 1 BIG PARTY FOR BOTH TO SAVE BOTH ON MONEY AND TIME BECAUSE ALOT OF MY FAMILY AND I DONT KNOW ABOUT YOURS THEY DONT WANT TO COME TO 2 DIFFERENT PARTIES WITHIN SUCH A SHORT TIME FRAME AND I HAVE COME TO FIND OUT THAT THE BEST PLACE FOR PARTIES FOR THE MONEY IS AUTUMN LANES BOWLING ALLY THE KIDS LOVE IT AND SO DO THE ADULTS I ALWAYS HAD 2 SMALLER CAKES FOR THE KIDS WHEN I HAD THEM TOGETHER SO ONE WOULDNT FEEL LEFT OUT AND EACH COULD BLOW OUT THERE OWN CANDLES....I HOPE THIS HELPS AND SOME ADVICE BUBBA'S FUN PARK IS VERY VERY EXPENSIVE TO HAVE A PARTY AT FOR NO MORE THAN THEY PROVIDE FOR YOU SO I WOULD SUGGEST NOT USING THEM THEY CHARGE WAY TO MUCH FOR THERE LACK OF SERVICE....IF I CAN HELP YOU ANY FURTHER PLEASE FEEL FREE TO LET ME KNOW....M.

I feel you on this one. Keep in mind just because you are stressing over it, the birth won't come until two weeks after the due date..LOL I just gave birth to a little girl on May 26th, we also have another daughter who's birthday is May 28th. We always celebrate a little gathering of just us at home with the kids for their birthday, then we always have a bigger gathering of lots of family and friends to share both birthdays, instead of asking everyone to come on two seperate occasions. To be honest the littlest one won't understand the concept of a birthday party until later on. Depending on the age of your first child... they might be old enough to not really even care if it is shared or not. Hope this helps some...

S.

I am having a party for my granddaughter who is turning 8 and she has had most of her birthdays together with a cousing who's birthday is one day after hers. This year she asked if she could have her own and I said yes. It has become important to her so it's fine with me but it was nice to share the cost and work since the same people would come anyway. As long as they were fine with it that was cool. Maybe next year they will want it together again, we'll see.

one i can help with..my birthday is oct 26th my sister is oct 25th..we were 10 years and 1 day part, but we always had 2 parties, cause one would feel like the other one had more attention and your b-day is your day, you shouldn't have to share it unless maybe your twins then twins want everything together aways...trust me, just go ahead and have 2 parties, cause they will have different friends and diff wants for cakes and things..

I agonized over this one too before my second was born, five days before her sister (almost two). Now 2 and 4, we've happily shared B-days every year without consequence... Although this last year I made cupcakes on on what was coincidentally the baby's b-day, expecting the batch to be something special they could enjoy the whole week... then her big sister expected her own batch... So we ate a lot of cupcakes. As with a lot of things you worry about when you're waiting for number two... this one kinda solves itself. Next year will probably be the first year we might have trouble, as both kids are starting to develop their own circle of friends and personal interests... But I figure it saves money to have one party and it can be a better (bigger, more extravagent) party, so as long as they don't mind, I'm sticking with one party.

Hi S.. I am N. single mother of one daughter. But my sister has four children. Boy 6, Girl 7, Girl 9, Boy 11. When it came to the girls. We've always had their birthday parties together. They've never minded. But this year it was different. They wanted seperate ones. But otherwise. Its was always good to do a party together. And they enjoyed it.

N.

With such a young family go for the "one party" option for now. You'll build their bond and create memories. Always have separate cakes tho. Once they get older or are in different schools because of their grade level then separate them. I'm sure the older one wouldn't want elementary kids at his party if he's in junior High. As close as they are in age one party will be sufficient since they will probably have the same friends. Don't stress yourself over it. That'll be the least of your worries. Concentrate on the bond that they are to build.

I would say for simplicity sake, and God know you'll need it for the first couple of years that one party would be fine. My oldest son didn't quite "get" the birthday party thing until this year..his 6th. So unitl the oldest is about 5 or 6 he will not mind. After that you may need and want to separate them even if just one one weekend and the other the next..for identity purposes as well a jealousy. Everyone wants to feel special, and since birthdays are the only time you are truly speacial for day, that day should not be shared all the time.

My sister and I are seven years apart. Our birthdays are July 29 and August 12, respectively. My parents have numerous pictures of the two of us blowing the candles out together. However, my Mom always makes birthday special so I really don't have any hard feelings about sharing a party anyway.

You could do three celebrations. on the first kid's bday do something special with him or her that day just the family. then the other kid's birthday do something special for him or her that day just the family. then at the end of the week or birthdays you can have a celebration involving family and friends for the both of them. as the kids get older let them take turns planning what theme they want the party as. so one gets to chose one year and the other the next year.

My children are 5 days apart, and I wouldn't dream of doing theirs together.
I do them one weekend apart. It's really not that hard to do it that way!
Good luck in whatever you decide!

As a big sister who had to share her baby brother's birthday party I can tell you it sucked! One child is always going to feel like the other is "more special" and get jealous over it. My brother's birthday is 8 days before mine. My step-son's is 6 days before mine. Do we have seperate birthday parties around here now that I have a say? You better believe it! A birthday party is to celebrate that one person (or people if it's twins or more) and I feel to lump sibs together unless they are born on the same day is disrespectful to both.

I would suggest having one party for the first coule of years. They probably won't notice the difference. And then when they get old enough to want their birthday to be their own special day, do two.

Hello! One party for the 2 of them would be fine and yes, practical while they are little. But once your oldest enters 1st grade...the parties should be seperate. birthday parties are a big deal for elementary kids. they want to invite their classmates and of course the theme your oldest would want, would not be what your youngest would want. Of course you could always do a cake and ice cream gathering for just family and combine it...just remember to have the "friends" party seperate :-) However, only you know "your children". If they are both boys, and very close, they are close in age somewhat and may want a combined party. You could let your oldest make the choice.
L.

I have a six year old and a four year old whose birthdays are three weeks apart and I have done all of their parties together and they love it. For me, it is alot easier and alot less money to have them together. I also just had a baby in March on my two year olds birthday and next year they will start having their parties together. There will come a point where I'm sure I'll have something for them seperately but, while they are this young having them together is just more practical. Good luck!

I say share a birthday party; until they are old enough to plan and prepare for the event. I would however make a distinction in your family. Maybe do two separate special dinners where the birthday boy gets his favorite meal and dessert or gets to go to his favorite place to eat, and then on a separate night do the same thing for the other one. And never never never, get them a shared gift. I have a brother whose birthday is on Jan 9th and mine is on the 5th, but fortunately for us we are 12 years apart so there was no sharing. However we have both experienced the Christmas/Birthday gift and that is terrible, I would rather two smaller gifts than one big one. Just some side advise. Congratuations on your new little one.

My niece and nephew have BDs only a few days apart. My sister always gave them there own birthday parties so that they each got individual attention.

I have a friend who's kids have the same birthday only four years apart. She had one party. On one side, she had decorations for a girl and the other side of the dining room was decorated for a boy and she had a cake for him and one for her. Probably one party is fine until they get bigger and they want to start having their own. Good Luck!!

I am 2 years younger than my brother. Him being born on 11-04-1965 and myself 11-03-1967. Our mother tried the single party for 2 and believe me it didn't work. To this day we have a special meal on our birthday and we request the menu. Mom said the cake part was tricky but she made small cakes for each of us and we were tickled that we each where celebrated as an individual, on our special day. While your children are very young, having the birthdays together may not be a problem but let your children tell you which they prefer as they get older.

Hi as a mom of twinsAnd two other children withbirthdays close I understand your position.This is how we did it.When they were young (below6) we had one large get together for friends and family.A cook out is great for this or one of those party at the park type gatherings.BUt as they got older they wanted a party of their own to invite friends to.We had to limit it to just a few friends because of the expense.But had a family gathering for both as well.If you have a big family it might be a good idea to includ others who have occasions that month too then make it pot luck and everyone can help out!! good luck L. p.s. as they got older they went back to shareing the party again as the friends were more common.

I have 2 sons and there birthdays are in the same month. They are not quiet 13 months apart. One is a t the beginning of the month and one is at the end. So I was having 1 party in the middle. It works well but now that they are older 3 and 4 I will need to have them seperate because they are aware of the difference and want different themes. Since yours will only be
a few days apart I suggest having them together until they let you know otherwise. C. W

S.,

My sister and I are 6 years, 2DAYS, 17 HOURS apart. I also have a little one myself whose birthday is really close to Christmas, so I know the agony of trying to do two things at once! Since your little ones are going to be closer in age than my sister and I were, you should have an easier time of it than we did. For what it's worth, my thought would be to have joint birthday parties until they are old enough to both be in school and have separate peer groups. It's easy to have 3-year old friends and 5 year old friends together at one party. But when they hit school, they can each have a party with their own school friends. That gives you a few years to get really good at the party thing before you start having to plan two!

The other thing my folks did was that the parties got set up for different weekends - so if my birthday was Tuesday, my party was the Saturday before my birthday, my sisters was Thursday and her party was the Saturday after her birthday. On our actual birthdays, we got to open one present and pick what we wanted for dinner. Unfortunately, I've got no insight for you on the family thing - I grew up in Alaska, so family just called long-distance to sing the Birthday song. :-)

And oh yeah - be thrifty about it! My mom would buy a white plastic tablecloth and a huge bag of white (or pink - 2 girls) balloons, and then just buy the plates and napkins for whatever my party theme was. The table got wiped down, a few more balloons got added, and my sisters theme got added, and look - new party!

Good luck to you!

K.

I think till they are old enought to want two and request two partys then sharing should be fine. I would make sure they had their own cakes but I'm sure you though of that. My brother and sister always shared a party and so many more friends and family were able to make it to theirs but not mine, so I think for that reason alone I would do that. When they get older too, my parents let us pick what or where we wanted dinner on our actual day and then we opend a gift from them that day too, so it is not like they didn't have their own bday time, the party was just joint. Good luck and congrats on the new baby!

I do one big party. My daughters birthday is Jan. 23rd and my sons birthday is Feb. 9th They are 5 and 3 right now so while they are young and it's mostly family and our friends that have children that we invite I just do one big party. When they get older and have alot of friends from school they might want to invite that's when I'll let them have their own party. That this age they don't really mind and long as their getting gifts.

My brother and I are only 1 year and 9 days apart and we always had parties together. We never minded especially when we were older because with more people there we could have better games, and alot more fun. So by all means have one big one. Hope this helps your decision.

My sister and I are two years apart with birth days spaced 2 1/2 weeks apart. Let me tell you, not only did my parents get tired of having parties so close together, they got tired of having to give us BOTH gifts at each others birthday! I remember sharing parties and presents and NEVER remember feeling slighted or left out! Good luck!

Reading this is so very helpful.
I have a daughter who will be turning 3 January 8th and our son will be turning 1 on December 30th. I have been thinking about throwing one big party for the both of them in between their b-days. I read some of your responses and it looks like it is the right idea to have one big party with seperate cakes of course. I wish you the best and I am feeling better about having both parties on the same day for the first time!

~M.

Hello S., I am 28 years old and the younger of two girls in my family. My sisters birthday and mine are 1 day apart(2 years apart) and we always had our parties together. In fact there was another little girl that had the same birthday as mine and she would have her party with ours too. I thought it was fun, as long as you make each one feel equally important. As far as I remember we opened presents from our family on our birthday, and from everyone else at the party. As far as sharing the party with another girl from school, it kept people from having to choose which one they wanted to go to. Hope this helps!
A. C.

I have a three and 4 year old and their birthdays are in aug and october. I have a mutual big party in Sept b/c the weather is nicer then. We can be outside and not have a lot of kids inside. I do make them individuals on their actual birthday. My husband and I buy lots of small presents so it is a big deal that they got an individual "birthday". We make a small cake and have their grandparents over. Hope this helps!

My sister and I have our birthdays two days apart (9 year difference). I would say that one party is fine, but on each child's birthday, let them pick what they want to do, dinner and what type of cake they want. You are going to have a lot of cake/pie, but it will cut down on arguements between siblings. It's important for both of them to feel that they have a special day all to themselves. I remember several times my mother would just have a party on the day in between. Also, you may be a bit premature in worrying. I have yet to meet anyone that actually had their baby on their due date, unless of course it is a scheduled c-section. Good luck and congrats on the upcomming baby.

I have an older sister that is almost five years older. I was born in June and she turned five in July. Our grandparents/family all lived five hours away so for the most part we had seperate Birthdays unless the family could come and then we had a big bash! Now I have 5 children of my own and face this dilemma myself as our 3 yr old BB twins just shared their Birthday with their one yr old sister (only 11 days seperate their Birthdays). We live in NC while both our families live in Florida. Seeing as how they have never missed a first Birthday they all came for hers and we had a seperate cake just for our twins at the same party. When they are little I don't think they mind but as they approach the 4 or 5's start having them seperate, if it's having friends at the party. Maybe have a family only Birthday celebrating both, then the seperate ones just do cake without the meal/bbq thing. Good Luck! Congrats on your soon to be new one!!!!

My husband and his sister shared a b-day. December 20th so double wammy with it being so close to Christmas.

They did one party, but my husband always felt that he was neglected as a kid b/c the sister got so much more attention. I think the one party is the way to go, but make sure one doesn't get over-shadowed by the other. If you sense that this is becoming a problem (example: 1st b-day is a big deal with the cake and all) you might want to be flexible from year to year. As they get older, definitely ask which one they would prefer. You could even spread out the "celebration" a bit to break it up.

My brother has 2 girls who's birthdays are about 20 days apart but in the same month. He has been doing their birthdays together since then were little girls. It's always worked great for him. The oldest is getting older (she's gonna be 10 next year) so he's going to do their parties seperately, which I think is a good idea. Good luck with whatever you do and all in all, have FUN!

Hi S.,
I am a mom of 5. I have 4 boys and most recently I had a little girl. I do single birthday parties all the time because..
My twins birthday is june 19. They like to do everything together anyway.
Then my 5 year olds birthday is January 23rd and my 2 year olds birthday is January 25th. They get single birthday parties allso.My 5 year old hates it because he has to share with his little brother and it was only him before but he will get used to it(i hope)
I think that U should do a single party with 2 cakes.It is fun and much less expensive. Best wishes.

Hi. My sister and I are two years apart. Our birthday's are only one week apart. We always celebrated them together as young children. We did not stop celebrating together until we both wanted friends to spend the night, then she had them over one weekend, and I had mine over the next. Now we celebrate a week apart also. When we were little we enjoyed the big bash!

My brother and sister had close birthdays and they hated it when my mom would do one big party. But as the kids get older, you could compromise and rotate out each year. Maybe have 1 party 1 year and 2 parties the next, or something like that. My husband and my daughters birthday are 7 days apart, and I had 1 party for them this year and just had all our friends and family there, and I just had my son a few weeks ago , and our birthdays are 2 days apart, so no more birthdays for mom and dad! Also as the kids get older, ask them what they want to do. Tell them 1 party means you could put more effort into it and maybe more presents because you are saving money having 1 party... Whatever you do, just make sure they are happy, or what's the point anyway? Hope you work it out.

WELL, OF COURSE FOR THE FIRST BIRTHDAY YOU WANT TO MAKE IT A SPECIAL ONE AND MAKE A REALLY BIG DEAL AND THEN DO ONE SEPERATE FOR THE OTHER SIBLING. BUT AFTER THAT I'VE ALWAYS HAD MY TWO TOGETHER!!THEY LOVE IT IT'S LIKE CHRISTMAS!!ONLY IT COMES TWICE A YEAR INSTEAD OF ONCE!!I BUY TWO HUGE SHEET CAKES ONE WITH PRINCESS' AND ONE WITH GI JOE OR WHATEVER THEY ARE INTO AT THE TIME.THEN WHEN I SEND OUT INVITATIONS I MAKE SURE I MAKE IT CLEAR THAT IT IS FOR RYAN AND KAITLYNN!!AND I'VE FOUND THAT EVEN THOUGH MY DAUGHTER ISN'T IN SCHOOL YET MY SON'S CLASSMATES ARE GLAD TO BRING A EXTRA PRESENT FOR HER!!!I ALSO DECORATE IN TWO DIFFERENT THEMSES OF THEIR CHOICE!!ONE IN THE KITCHEN AND ONE IN THE DEN OR THE LIVING ROOM!!!SEE, WE LIVE PRETTY FAR FROM TOWN AND WE DON'T HAVE REGULAR COMPANY AND MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN ON MAY 3RD AND MY SON ON MAY 26TH!! SO IT MAKES IT ALOT MORE SENSE TO JUST DO ONE PARTY!!!I DON'T KNOW ABOUT WHEN THEY GET A LITTLE OLDER BUT IT WORKDS GOOD FOR NOW!!!GOOD LUCK!!T.

S. my children are 12 months apart. July 31 and August 26 also with my anniversary on August 27. Triple whammy. We always had our parties together. We would have the birthday parties during the day and the Anniversary party at night the children would have thier own cakes though on their actual birthday. Seems to work for us. Not to mention it is during the summer so sometimes we go on vacation to celebrate all 3.

My oldest daughter will turn 8 on 1/7 and my youngest daughter will turn 6 on 1/29. While they are not as close as yours COULD be, they were SUPPOSED to only be days apart!(My oldest was 2 weeks early) I pick a weekend in the middle and let them have all their friends over together but make them each a separate cake with candles on their respective birthdates. It works and makes their days special. I hope all the advice you are getting helps. It really won't matter until they are older anyway! Good Luck!!

I have three children the ages are 7,6,and 4. My first two are thirteen months apart exactly and my second and third are two years and eight days. My son was born the day after Thanksgiving and my daughter was born the day after Christmas. So their birthdays are November, December, and January. I have one big party for them somewhere in the middle of their birthdays. That is so everyone can come. On their real birthdays we have a little cake and a couple of gifts and only invite the immediate family. My children seems to enjoy this and they like it. When they get older they can decide if they still want to do it this way or on their birthday it is up to them.
C.

I think the one birthday party is great and the kids will love it.

D.

I agree with the other post that a shared party is ok. I think you can make each of their days special and still have just one big party. I would do each a cake. (just do smaller ones) and sing happy birthday to each. That way they both have their "time" during the shared party. They will share lots of the same friends anyway as the get older due to being so close in age. It really makes it easier on the mom's. We have 10 children in our church that where all born with in 6 weeks of each other. I have joked that we all need to get together and have on large party because we are at a b-day party every weekend sometime 2 in a day for about 4 weeks. Good luck on your planning and best of luck with the new baby.

I had Had a double b-day party for my girls in July they are 12 months and 3 days apart I just thought why have seprate bdays for them when they are so close together who would show up at the other childs bday party when they just came last weekend to one you know all these this come to mind They had so much fun at there bday party this year we had it at a local park I have pictures on my myspace page if you would like to see http://www.myspace.com/mjandjay4life they are 2 and 3 and I cant wait until they are 3 and 4 for the next party !!