Apology

Wow, awesome post. I can't remember when I've seen someone- on this site or just in general- admitting their error in judgment and feeling badly for it.

Not an easy thing to do, and not many people are as self-aware as you and willing to own what they do.

I'd say THIS post is the one that shows who you really are. Nice job. Have a great weekend!

J., I too have found myself responding to a question in a rude manner, sometimes I re-read what I've written and then delete and re-write. Unfortunately there are times that I've just posted what I wrote without thinking. Happens to the best of us. Have a good Friday and a great weekend.

M.

J.,
I have yet to meet anyone who is perfect! We all have flaws. Dont let rude posters get to you?

Everyone has an off day every now and then.

Cheer up and have a great Friday!

Dear J.,

I didn't agree with your earlier post regarding spelling and grammar, but I REALLY disagree with the practice of creating whole posts just to trash someone. That is bullying in every sense of the word, and it's beyond unacceptable. I'm so sorry it's happening to you.

We all make mistakes, but not everyone has the grace and courage to apologize. You do, and that says exceptionally wonderful things about you.

Have a wonderful weekend!

Mira

Ah, Responder's Regret, been there myself more than once.

:(

You sound like a nice person. Don't worry about it...

Wow, there is a song playing in my mind...ahh yes, You're so Vain. Not saying you are vain mind you but nothing about that post brought you to mind until you started this question. I was thinking the part, you probably thought this song is about you...bit. There were actually several people who picked at her English. Why do you think that post was just about you, an attack on you?

Most of those responses were probably directed at people like me, not that I saw that as an attack on me mind you since I didn't answer the first question because I couldn't understand it.

Heck the first responder lives to call me a big meanie, maybe not but she always seems to be around to post things like "Sorry you are getting pounded. I think it's funny that so many people are supporting her sometimes nasty responses. Don't let it get to you...opinions are like *ss-holes and some turnips are too." in a post that was titled my user name at the time. Yeah, you want proof a post is attacking you, they use your user name!

So why exactly did you think that post was about you?
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One person referred to the first poster! and I couldn't remember who the first poster was and I checked, and your post had been removed long before that comment was made so I assumed that was a dig at TF.

I actually saw your response yesterday and thought that isn't like her.

I always try to remind myself, this is only an "online" forum.
Some days are a burn out.
Some days are great.
Some days we are just so full of personal problems we can't mind our own grammar or writing style or intelligence. Because we have real hardships in our heads/emotions/life. And we may vent here or not sound real coherent.
Aren't we all human?
Flawed?
No one is perfect nor the most intelligent.
And it is not a "contest" or a tit for tat.
But somewhere someplace, there are people who are just really not having a good day. And they may be here.
And so, I always try to remind myself, that this is only an online, forum.
And it is not a contest about who or what is better.
And we all come from different parts of the world.

And whenever we want, we can just "logout" right?

I hope you have a great weekend and I think it was pretty nice of you to post this.
Many blessings

You weren't the only one who said something about that post & the bad grammar, no sentence structure, whatever. I did, too, as did a few others.

I'm not apologizing. It wasn't "ovbious" English was a second language - many individuals with English as a first language write like that. And I personally didn't find any of the grammar comments snarky or rude. If no one said anything, how was the original poster supposed to know there was a problem and fix it?

The person who made the "Why are people so rude?" found the grammar comments rude but had no problem admonishing and lecturing a whole group of fellow adults ... so ask yourself, who's really being rude here? And don't let it bother you.

Chin up! :-)

Sounds to me like you read the post and assumed it was about you - and who's to say it was?? Sometimes people just get fed up with the overall rudeness and comment on it - doesn't mean it was about you.

But you regret the tone you used, you apologized, and now you can move on.

You'll double-check your posts in the future and that's all anyone can ask.

I too have had trouble reading some posts, sometimes because the person is not a native English speaker but much more often because native speakers write the way they talk ("Well, so anyway, on Monday I did X, know what I mean?") and they type so fast there are errors in spelling and grammar and punctuation, so those reading it have to do so multiple times just to figure it out. Misunderstandings develop, then everyone gets testy about their time being wasted.

So let's all take a silent vow to take things up a notch.

I think what people have to remember is how answers etc can pile on. If yours was the first post but the only one like that, it probably would have been ignored. So I doubt you were being singled out. It's just there was more than one. I've had a hard time the past couple of days with being called mean when I feel I was reacting fairly to a series of responses that were implying or saying I was being a bad mom. It's hard not to get defensive. Perhaps I owe some people an apology for taking out my frustration on them when it wasn't just one or two people. But they were last... One reply was pulled bc it really was harsh on me for no reason. I never dreamed my question - basically taking a survey about ages - could turn so controversial. Then I'm accused of having a poorly worded question when I went back and tried to be very specific what I was asking... No problem for people to give more thoughts surrounding my question in a nice way - attacking me when I hadn't even asked for "advice" and they were misinterpreting my actions anyway is hard to take. So then I'm mean for getting upset... I think I'm just going to take a break for a while. I'm not sure if people realize that harsh responses can get to people and in a way, all the person posting this morning was trying to do was point that out. But then your feelings are hurt... It's just not worth it. Like I said, I'm done here for a while.

Cheer up! We all have bad days.

We all have those moments. Sometimes it's hard to realize you were being harsh or plainly rude. But I recall reading that post, I couldn't read it or follow it. So I just clicked out of it, as to not bother with it. I did think about saying I couldn't follow it or read it but I just didn't feel up to it. I'm sorry there bashing you, that's uncalled for and very unnecessary!!!

Keep your head up!!!! We all have those days!!!! :-)
Seems you know wen you can be alil harsh and admit your mistakes or wen others think so. Your a Good Person!!!! :-) Have a Good Day Girl!!!!

I didn't see your response. It must have already been deleted. You certainly were not the only one though to comment on her grammar.
This post speaks volume about your character though.
for what it is worth... I certainly don't think you owe me an apology or even an explanation. Have a happy weekend!!!

Very nice apology J..

I think we've all had our less-than-stellar moments on this site.

I actually didn't see yours. I thought the poster was talking about another woman (not Rathna) who was belittled for her spelling and grammar. Are you sure you are the one that the lady was talking about?

And you're right, there is plenty of snarkiness on MP, especially where trolls are involved.

No hard feelings. I've spoke in haste and regretted it also.

I believe I saw your post and I didn't think you were rude you were just upfront with your opinion. Don't worry. There are many of us who appreciate you!!!

Can't we all just get along?

Wow. Lot of drama on this board. I don't even see a post from you on the question under dispute so maybe this isn't about you or at least not only you... But maybe I don't understand how answers are posted.

I agree with Mira. A whole post to blast someone and then flowers to those who co-sign on the bullying. Tacky, mamas.

Just because people are rude on this site doesn't mean you have to be. I am a member of quite a few many online forums and I get rude responses and see them in other posts, yet I always stay polite.

Thank you so much for your apology! It took a lot of courage to post this. I did not read your "rude" post, and don't often reply, but I find that it is a breath of fresh air to know that there are good people like you out there who try to be positive and helpful. :)