Anyone Can Help I Don't Know What to Do

Amen to Doris Day! Yes, tired of the trolls. At least other trolls take the time to weave a decent story. This new one is lazy and just shoots off one liners, making responders work even harder than normal to answer a fake question.

I'm sorry to be blunt here, but I am really tired of these questions with almost zero information, and then the poster adds something after being "lead" by a post or two. These "one-liners" are too much alike to be random. I feel like the same person is opening up different online names and making up questions.

It's not funny to pretend to be a mother with a child with disabilities, whether they are physical, mental or emotional. Anyone who takes their child to a child psychologist knows more than you are saying here.

I don't believe your story. If you are really a mother, then be honest on here. If you aren't a mother, go somewhere else to troll.

Let me suggest the ways that real, legitimate people use Mamapedia to maximum advantage.

1) Put something in the title that gives the subject of your question. "I don't know what to do" gives ZERO info, and most people aren't even going to see your question.

2) Put your question in the question slot! What you have written here is ridiculously short and devoid of information: "My 7 year old plays like she is dumb and I know better." That's not a question.

3) The "So What Happened" section is NOT for the details! It's for the results after you have gotten all the answers from responders. If you want to add more info to the question, then edit your question!

4) Don't make something into a long, run-on sentence as you have done in your "So What Happened" section! That's not a way that anyone can make sense of it. Use sentences, periods, capital letters, and so on. Like someone who went to school.

5) Never put your child's real name on an internet forum or website.

Now, as to the other comments are you are receiving:

We have had a whole lot of questions like this lately, which is why Doris Day and others think that you are one person opening multiple accounts and doing them all the same way - which is absolutely not the way that anyone else uses Mamapedia.

I doubt that all the kids are calling any other child a "retard" (it's not a word that's allowed in school, and neither is the bullying - not to mention that no kids know what the other kids' grades are. So your whole post makes so little sense. A good parent would have a conference with the teacher, not hire a tutor. And no school is going to fail a first grader by November in any school year. If this is a legitimate, serious question, then everyone is going to advise you to set up a conference with the teacher and perhaps with the principal or the special needs coordinator. No one is going to suggest that you continue to help her in the same way you have for 3 years, since it isn't working. Anyone who writes in long run-on sentences shouldn't be helping a child with homework or constantly telling her to do her best, or she will do it the same way! Get qualified help from the school.

And if, as some have suggested below, you are one person opening multiple accounts, please don't. If you are a legitimate person, then please follow the suggestions I put at the top of the page to make your inquiry understandable to all the members, and you will get better advice.

right. a 7 year old just gets her jollies by stringing her mother along for years, and getting hammered at school, and comes home crying because she just likes to play dumb.
i sure hope you're a troll. no child deserves a mother this awful.
khairete
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Maybe she and you need to be seeing a psychiatrist.

She needs to keep seeing a child psychiatrist who will work with her behavior and will work on her changing it. Since she is still doing this she still needs to be seeing someone.

1. Kids who don't have to do anything for themselves often won't do anything for themselves.

2. If you continue doing everything for her and allow her to manage you like this she will continue.

3. IF she truly doesn't do this for the babysitter then obviously she is not retarded or disabled or anything. She is choosing to do this at school and for you. I'd be working closely with that babysitter and finding out what she does differently.

4. Take some Love and Logic training classes and stop this. A therapist can help you start making positive progress. Love and Logic would say that since she gets rewarded for acting like this with you and at school by getting tons of attention that she is lacking in positive attention. That you need to stop being like this with her and allow her to have her own consequences.

5. Leave school at school. If she had a bad day at school? Doesn't matter. Tell the teacher that "she/he" is the professional and has the resources to figure this out where you are just a parent and can't come there and observe/manage her/his classroom for them. They need to give her immediate consequences at school and not expect YOU to handle this at home.

6. She is feeling something different, to what she feels normally, when she gets in trouble. I don't know you and don't know what your home life is like. If she is working this hard to get your attention then perhaps she isn't getting enough positive attention. Not about school, not about chores, home life, anything like that. Just go hang out, play together, go to a movie, go do things with her, read a book to her, find something that you and she both enjoy that isn't about punishment at all and DO NOT take it away as punishment, ever. That only reinforces that it is temporary and that bad attention is more powerful.

This doesn't sound quite right. By law, if your child was assessed for special education, you would have received a letter inviting you to this team meeting (the Special Education team which includes the school psychiatrist, the teacher and the SPED teachers) and results of an evaluation would have been shared with you. You would have been given a survey to complete so they could assess how your child responds to/shows their abilities at home.

And how could she possibly be failing first grade when it's not even December?Hmmm... your best bet, if this is real question and concern, is to talk to your pediatrician about having your child evaluated for a learning disability. Then you can get a referral. Some children have slow processing issues, some have ADD/ADHD or other challenges. I'd strongly encourage you to look past your idea of 'playing dumb' and acknowledge that your daughter may have challenges you do not yet know about.

What does her teacher say? You have to start there, for 2 reasons. 1, to figure out if she's trying but needs help or not trying and 2, because if kids are calling her names, the teacher should know.

A tutor won't help if she's faking. But I have a hard time believing she's faking if she's really upset about failing.