Am I Stupid for Being Upset????

No, you're not stupid. I'm sure by wording your question that way that you've already gone through the whole "it's not about presents" and "it's just a day" and other stuff. Which are kinda true. But as a mom, with 363 days/year so often about others, it'd be nice to have a birthday and a mother's day just to feel like they recognize you as an individual person (birthdays) and as a mom on mother's day. If it bothers you, do mention it to your husband. Not a whole guilt trip or anything, but just as one partner to another be honest and say "hey, I was pretty disappointed and kinda felt like I was forgotten on mother's day". Guys very often don't understand without being told, because father's day doesn't mean too much to them, because that day wasn't a big deal when they were children either. Also remember that most guys aren't very crafty so they aren't going to do the homemade stuff with the children that we may do for father's day, ya know? I would tell him, "Next year, I'd really like to have a family day...or go to a brunch...or I'd love to see you cook dinner that day". (Whatever). Or even better, check online close to mother's day NEXT year yourself and see if there's anything that you'd like to do (dancing? a play? a brunch at a place you've never tried?) and tell him "this would be great to do for mother's day". This year I slept late (all the way til 7!) and my husband took our son outside to do yardwork so I could take a nap, he gave me a card, and helped make dinner. It's real simple, nothing to blow anyone's mind, but it's the appreciation that counts.

I would talk to him and explain why you're upset. I remember my first mother's day my husband told me he shouldn't do anything since I'm not his mother. We had an argument and I pointed out that if that was the case I didn't have to spend the day with his mother or do anything for her since she's not my mother. That kind of helped him see the light. There's no need for material things I think on Mother's day. I got hand made cards from my kids and they brought me breakfast in bed (donuts - obviously my kids choice :). It was the thought that was most important. My husband asked me what I wanted and I told him all I wanted was to sleep as late as I wanted with no alarm clock! It's true you aren't his mother (if that's his reasoning), but you are the mother of his children and he needs to set the example for your kids to show appreciation and honor you. I wish it was the kind of thing men did every day of the year, but unfortunately, they need reminders and holidays to do that. I agree with the poster too about giving him guidance if there is something you want. My mom always complained my dad never got her what she wanted at holidays, but she never told him. Her reasoning was that if he loved her enough he'd just know. Well, most men aren't that intuitive. If you want something, tell him. Send him a link of exactly what you want or ask for a gift card so you can go pick it out. If you don't clear this up now, it may breed resentment later. You can also set the example and really do it up good for him for father's day.

No you have a right to be upset. My husband a few years ago did the same thing, I tried to let it go but then I finally let him have it. He didn't realize not acknowledging Mother's Day for me (our son was 3 I think) was hurtful. Us Mothers have earned our day many times over. I just had my 2nd child Apr 7, so I got 2 Mother's day presents this year..a mother's necklace (which I got early) and new leather living room furniture that I have wanted. Sit your hubby down and let him know that it hurt you to not be acknowledged, alot of men don't know these things unless they are told.

No you are not stupid, but sometimes men need it spelled out. Last year was my first mother's day. My husband did nothing. You can bet I let him have it and his mother did too. I told him "How would you feel if our daughter marries a man who does that to her and how would you feel if my father knew you did nothing for my first mother's day?" After that, he put together a photo calendar of our daughter's first year. It was awesome. This year, he really stepped it up and got me mother jewelry... It touched me very much.

Just let him know.

No, I understand completely. This year, I made my own reservations for Mother's Day Brunch just to make sure I got what I wanted. Sometimes my husband, as sweet and wonderful that he is, needs a little guidance. Maybe yours is the same. I made it pretty clear a while back that, while I don't necessarily expect a gift, I do expect a card on birthdays, Mother's Day, etc. If there's something I really want, I send him a link to it with the explicit hint that THIS WOULD MAKE A NICE MOTHER'S DAY GIFT. I think he appreciates it and I show him the same respect for his days.

No, Your NOT being selfish or over reacting at all. You earned that right. My son is on the Autism Spectrum and just turned 4 last week, I'm a single mom but I made a point to tell my mom Happy Mother's Day Nana and he took her the gift from him. He also sung me a HAPPY MOTHER's DAY song just like the HAPPY BIRTHDAY SONG. I made a point to call my ex in law and have him say HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY GRANDMA. It's the little things that make a Huge difference.
I am sorry and I understand. I don't get guys either, hehe maybe that's why I am alone, lol. HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

Yeah, I'd be mad, too. Do the same thing for Father's Day, & he may get the picture.