I am not sure why I am this way but ever since I had my daughter almost 9 mths ago I have lost the feeling to be affectionate if you know what I mean. I have ZERO urge. What can I do will I ever get this feeling back?
I am 51 and have 3 children. My hormones have changed so many times in the past 40 years. Those affectionate feelings seem to come and go. Sometimes they seem to be gone for longer times than others.
I experienced the same thing with both of my children and you need to talk to your OB/GYN about this. I was diagnosed with postpartum depression and was treated for it, the medication did help. Some people call it "the baby blues" but it is depression and it needs to be addressed.
J.
I stay at home with my son and I wonder if you going to part time or staying home would help. I'm no professional, but I assume that if you didn't work at your job anymore you'd have more time at home to get things accomplished (plus take the need of help away from fiance, which makes him quite happy), and then you have more time to make time to ready yourself for special time. It always helps me to up the urge if I take time to relax, take a bath, do my hair, and make-up. If I feel sexier or more beautiful I'm more ready for my hubby.
Hope this helps.
Had that problem after my second...did not feel like myself at all! I talked to my ob-gyn (wonderful woman!) and she knew just what things to check on. Turns out in my case, I was low on thyroid hormone. This often happens after pregnancy, but corrects itself. In my case, it did not, so I now take 75 mcg/day of synthetic thyroid hormone, have bloodwork done a few times a year to make sure the dosage is still correct, and everything is back to normal! So talk to your ob...
1. Talk to your doctor about hormone supplementation... progesterone, testosterone, and estrogen all impact that loving feeling.
2. You don't always have to be in the mood to do it. He's usually almost done before I am really interested. LOL
Well first go to your obgyn and get a ck up . But sounds like to me you are suffering from depression. You are working full time,and takeing care of your baby. And are worn out .
I was the same way due my baby being breastfed. Plus I'm tired in the evening after a long day of taking care of little man, cleaning house, cooking, laundry and whatever else I can think of. I finally had to just make myself do it even though I wasn't really in the mood to begin with. I was thinking this isn't fair or easy for hubby to handle...I must do this for him! By making myself do it, it has helped me feel more up to the occasion. And, my "once lost loving feeling" is not so lost anymore. I've read about this a lot in books and online, and they all agree that it is very common for a mother with a young baby to have this temporary setback. I'm not quite sure why this happens though. Hang in there!
A lot of it can be diet related. If you think about it our babies were growing in our bodies for 9 months. During this time they were taking everything they needed from our bodies to grow, including the vitamins and minerals our body needs for healthy brain chemistry. For example, postpartum depression is directly linked to lack of Omega-3s that baby took. :)
Here is a good book:
http://www.amazon.com/Mars-Venus-Diet-Exercise-Solution/d...
Let me know if I can help.
P. H
Wellness Consultant
