Adult Question --- How Do You Get Your Husband/partner to "Last" Longer???

Slumber parties has desensitizing creams for him. Look it up online and you should be able to find a consultant near you that can help you out.

No offense! I don't have the answer to this problem, just a contrary point of view. My guy has just the opposite problem! Pretty much drills me to the center of the earth for HOURS! We can't ever have a fun little quicky, it's ALWAY an EPIC life changing sexual EVENT! So frankly, as long as he's pleasing YOU first, count your blessings, at least then you can get some sleep! Tehehehe, Good Luck Mama, I'll be watching your answers!

Well, if he's "on board" with wanting it to take longer he needs to have some 'solo time' more frequently. Like even that morning or a couple hours before you guys have sex. The less time between 'activity' = the less senstive he is = it will take him longer to ejaculate.

Your other option to have some start and stop time during: go for a couple minutes / change positions / go for a couple minutes / pull out and pleasure you / change positions / go for a couple minutes / pull out and kiss his neck, chest etc etc etc etc. That won't make the 'actual' time increase but it will increase the total time.

I also agree with the condom option. the thicker the better if you want to decrease his sensitivity. Also, get one with any lubrication or fancy-smancy stuff on the inside of the condom - just the outside if YOU need it.

I agree condoms, start and stop, change positions, try a little ice in your mouth to cool his fire - ;)

While you are slowing him down, work on speeding you up. I can not believe I'm about to say this outloud. When you are on top of him. Have im be still or just arch his hips up toward you and keep them there. You be totally still or move VERY VERY slowly. That minimizes his friction and slows him down, gives him a minute to regroup. While there, do your kegel excercises!!! If you know what I mean - google if u dont! This for me, causes an explosion of multiples. It's also insanley hot to watch from his perspective. It doesn't always have to be a sweaty cardio workout to be extremely intimate and satisfying.. After a while, if you can make yourself, while he is laying perfectly still, you can eventually make yourself with your mind - like a sexy Jedi.

i find it helps for my husband to wear a condom. it keeps the sensitivity down a bit.

I have the opposite problem and while it sounds good to you believe me it gets to the point I just want him to get it over already. LOL A quickie to me sounds great sometimes too bad he can't. ANYWAY...my friend has the same problem with her husband. They use condoms until he is ready and then they slip it off. Start and stop alot. Change positions. Desensitizing creams, maybe?

I would recommend a household rule that you have to come at *least* once before he can penetrate.

Then... as some have mentioned... any or all of the following will help:

- Rings
- Changing position
- Pausing - stopping
- Ice or cold play
- Masturbating at least once during the day

ALSO... I used to love premature ejaculators... for the simple reason that to a man, they could all be taught to have multiples. Took a little while for them to get into the swing of things (aka keeping going so they could stay hard)... but with a little patience *fantastic* sex to follow.

My hubby lasts longer when he's drunk. Give hubby lots of beer! :)

(And no offense taken here!)

Can he go back to back? Meaning have sex, ejaculate, then have sex again? Usually the second, third, fourth (or however many lol) time he will last longer. My boyfriend isn't a 2-minute tom, but sometimes when we have been busy and finially get time alone, that first time is pretty quick. Then we rest, and kiss, and talk, massage, then go at it again.
I only skimmed the other responses but they all had great advice. Good Luck!

Sometimes for fun we use a cock ring and that might be able to help in this case also

you could always bring in an "instrument" to be lovingly handled by your honey for your benefit and then he can join in towards the end :-)

There is a book we read before we got married that talked about giving the tip a little gentle squeeze to prevent ejaculation. The book is called Intended for Pleasure by Dr. Ed Wheat. It has some stuff in it I don't totally agree with, but overall is a good read with lots of practical tips and it does help with common pitfalls such as premature ejaculation. I think also if you google something like "how to prevent premature ejaculation" you might find some stuff. Of course you might pull up some crazy stuff, so just stick to sites like webmd or mayo clinic etc. Good luck!!

Get him to talk to his doctor. Different things could cause this and you won't be able to fix it until you know the cause.

Just saw a similar question in the Glamour magazine yesterday actually,
Have him masturbate at least once the day you plan to have intimacy with him, as it creates refraction time ...since his body has already released once it may cause his erection to last a little longer for you.
It doesn't make him less sensitive per say just helps the blood flow stay active a little longer on his erection.
You both may also try to use a ring ( these can be found at adult stores or adamandeve.com) or invest in a little buddy to help your husband out ( the silver bullet is great and sometimes if used during the vibrations can cause him to go a little numb which can decrease his sensitivity and may help last longer ( or it could make him go off faster)

The creams don't work :( Neither did condoms, i think my husband is the extreme. Not fun. Starting and stopping does help. Also if he does ejaculate earlier it helps too. I was hoping there was going to be a magic answer on here. For now....we do a lot of foreplay first and i know it will be a quickie...lol!

Is your husband overly "paw-y"? Like when you are cooking dinner etc. I ask this because mine is. Maybe they are at a constant state of excitement? Not that it is a bad thing...but sometimes it can be annoying!