Im not sure if this is normal but sometimes when my 9 month old son does not get what he wants(certain things like his dads xbox, foods that we are eating that he cannot have because he is allergic or sometimes he just wants to get into things that he is not suppose to) he starts yelling and throwing himself back. I know stuff like this is normal but at this young of an age? He has been like that for a while but not throwing himself and im scared he is going to hurt himself because he has done it while sitting in a chair and he will bump his head. Also, he wants me to hold him a lot more now... He can be playing fine but once he sees me its all over, and its hard to ignore him and not pick him up everytime he cries. Now he is doing it with the babysitter too and she doesnt get anything done because he wants to be held, if he is crawling around he will be ok but since both the babysitter and i have ceramic tile floors we are so scared to leave him on the floor since he is starting to stand up on stuff and he can really get hurt if he falls... Any suggestions? The tantrums... Are they normal? I dont like for him to get so angry, he is too young.
He is testing his boundaries with you, but trust me its just a very frustrating phase that they do go thru, but he will get over it!! Just have some patience with him and set some boundaries. He is young but he understands when mommy says no with a loud voice. they learn how to play us very early:)
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I agree wwith the others, this is very normal for a 9 month old. My daughter started throwing tantrums at 6 months when we put her in her carseat. I hate to say that at 15 months, she still pitches a fit about 50% of the time we have to buckle up. She throws tantrums when she wants what we are eating, the remote, my cell phone. Basically, anytime she wants something that she is not supposed to have. I try not to eat what she shouldn't have while in her presence. I also keep items, that I don't want her to have, out of sight. Her scream is sometimes hard to handle so I sucker and pick her up too often. Some babies are more "hands on" than others. My son wasn't like that but she is. I usually walk away during tantrums. If they know you are watching it will prolong the fit and they often become more dynamic. Then show them the love and attention they crave after they have calmed down. I hate to say it but the tantrums are only beginning. My 4 year old still has them (although, much improved since the age of 3). Enjoy your little one, he's normal. :)
Yes it is normal. He is growing and wants to do and see more, this is also part of learning. Very important. Yes he will fall and yes he will get hurt but it is also part of growing up and learning. It will only be for a short time but he does need it. The trantrum's are another thing, he is trying to tell you he wants it now, if you ignore it he will stop, he will not get the reaction that he wants the attention. Good luck this is a hard time for both of you been there.
My grandson turned 17 months old yesterday. I watch him during the week while his parents are at work and he spends at least one night a weekend with us. He was about that age when he started throwing tantrums. This is what I tell him, in a very soft soothing voice, every time he starts throwing a tantrum because he wants my full attention and I am not able to pick him up. "M. needs you to be patient. Patient means you have to wait without crying, yelling or getting upset. What you can do while you are being patient is to play with a toy while you are waiting." When this was new to him he would get very upset and get even more upset because I wouldn't drop what I was doing. When he would throw his tantrums, I would tell him, in the same voice, that M. can't see him when he is acting like that. He would stop within seconds if I ignored him. His parents started doing the patient thing with him and it works almost every time. I know all children are different but maybe it will work for y'all too.
This is all totally normal for this age.
My daugther grew up in a house with all cement floors, and she's got some permanent bumps to show for it :(
I suggest area rugs.
Babie do get more vocal and more clingy at this age. This, too, will pass.
I can feel your pain! I have a ten month old who started doing the same things last month. I too wondered if this was normal and what I should do, but after much online research, I found that this is indeed normal. Isn't separation anxiety great! My son would throw a fit and pitch himself back, bumping his head on our hardwood floors. He would also throw a fit everytime someone would get out of the car, even if I was still in the car and my passenger was someone he didn't know very well. Christmas shopping was an adventure for sure. It's normal, and we just have to buck up and deal with it(and pray that it passes soon.) I use www.parents.com and www.babycenter.com when I have a question. With babycenter, I get an e-mail every week telling me what to expect. This is great. Good luck!
I am the mom of a 8yr old boy and a 2 1/2 yr old girl and a 8 month old baby girl, So I know a thing or two about tantrums!
My boy, about that same age did the same thing. I remember we were at my in-laws and he was about 9 or 10 months, he started to get smart when he would throw his head back, it was kinda funny in the middle of crying he would stop, look back, move to the carpet, then proceed with throwing his head back.
This is my theory, there are different stages were they are able to do things and they think they can or should be able to do it their self,(such as 2,4,16)but we know that they can't.
What I do, because I hate to say no all day! Is try to offer something else he could have. They just want to be like us and have what we have, maybe when eating put some of his food on your plate and pretend to eat it to make him want it
Just remember, he still a baby, he is just discovering his world and learning to communicate, at the same time you are learning what make him tick, only you are the expert on your son. Have fun!!
Quite normal and developmentally appropriate. Once the crawling around starts, separation anxiety kicks in a bit at this age. Some of the crying is just going to have to happen, but we did things like tell our boys where we were going if we left the room and that we would be right back. They still cried but quickly figured out that we weren't leaving for good and the separation anxiety quickly faded. It started up again a bit after the boys began walking, but didn't last too long.
With the tantrums, we would pick up our son to see if he wanted cuddling. If he hurled himself away, we would put him down and tell him we understood he was upset and then just let him yell it out. Once the tantrum was over we would give him a hug.
Yes, I agree, this is normal for this age. I really like Christina M's advice. A combination of letting your child know what's going on (and trying to see if there's a legitimate need to be met - thus the attempt at soothing), but not letting him cling to you, is important. If you constantly pick him up when he yells, cries, and throws a tantrum, he will learn that that is an effective way to get attention, and he will continue the behavior. Best thing to do for tantrums is to ignore them. He won't get really hurt, even on ceramic tile floors, if he throws himself back just from a standing position (if he's not standing on top of anything else). He will certainly bump his head, but he'll figure out pretty quickly that it doesn't feel very good! Sometimes it's best to let our kids experience these things for themselves so they can decide they don't want to do it again. :) He's just experimenting with you, to see what you'll do. Trust me, he will keep experimenting with you, it will just take different forms as he gets older! God bless you!
