My ex husband and his two daughter chat over the web using skype as of recently. Before that it was just visits once a year and daily phone calls with her dad. Now since they use skype, they CONSTANTLY stick their tongue out at each other and make faces. That is the majority of their face time. I told him the other day that i think its not appropriate for a 7 year old to be doing that. Maybe 3 or 4 but not at her age. He says its something she will always remember, making faces with dad. Today for hte first time one of his daughter called my daugther on skype and they did it the whole time too. She has the personality that if someone does a behavior that is different she will copy. If she gets a laugh out of it, she will keep doing it. I have to tell her "now its annoying". They just keep egging her on with this!
I just think its not appropriate. I cant explain it any other way. I know if i tell him and my daughter to stop they will just do it when im not around. So i wonder what other peoples opinions are. She doesnt behave that way with anyone else. I think its too babyish. My daughter is my only child. She acts this way because she gets a reaction out of someone. I want her to mature not digress. What do think is age appopriate?
Whow I can tell the unanimous vote here. Like i said she is my only child. I dont see other kids acting that way with their parents. I dont see other kids acting that way with other kids. Thanks for the advice. I will let it be. AND I dont think im being mean or jealous.. jeez.
I think it sounds fine. What is the context? Are they joking and just being silly? I can see how you'd be worried, if the conversation itself was inappropriate. If you think the conversation isn't age appropriate...then, yes...the conversation and sticking out of the tongue, needs to stop. It doesn't really sound like you think the conversation is inappropriate, you just think it's childish? She's a child!! This is normal.
I think it's fine & healthy and wouldn't make it a big deal. If she's doing it to everyone, all the time, then that's too much. I think they're just having fun;-)
They're having fun and it's truly not hurting anyone so I don't see a problem with it personally. It's something special they like to do.
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I'm sorry... but I think you are being a little uptight about this. She only has a few more years of childhood... Let her father enjoy making silly faces with her before SHE decides it's not fun any more. Especially if they only see each other in person once a year! Before you know it you are going to have a teenager on your hands, and you are going to wish you had your silly-face making 7-year old back. It's not like she's going to start drinking from a bottle and crawling around again!
If she's making faces at you, or making faces around other people who aren't too impressed... then tell her to stop. But it sounds like it's a game she's playing with her father, which (like he said) will be a good memory for her. She will have precious few as it is!
I think you are wrong. Period. End of story.
This little girl is only 7 and still a child. You really should have no say in what or how her and her father spend their skyping time anyway...sorry! You sound jealous....and mean...and VERY controlling, IMO.
If you do not like it and she does it to you, then by all means put an end to that behavior.... but I agree with your ex-husband about this being a memory she will always have of her daddy...so I say, leave it alone.
~I have a 7 yr old son...and believe me, at this age they are still so young and innocent!
let her do what she is going to do. that is her time with her father. if he doesn't mind then dont worry about it. as long as she knows not to do it to you them let her be. because soon she will see that as you trying to impede on her time with her father and other siblings!
Wow talk about uptight! You would hate it around my house. I'm almost 37 and I stick my tongue out at my husband and at my two boys. My husband doesn't do it but my boys will. It is one of the many random FUN things we do around each other. It is a way to stay in touch with my inner child.
Your only child isn't going to digress just because she is having a bit of fun sticking her tongue out. One can still be a mature person and stick their tongue out in a fun moment.
Hi S.,
My son is 14 and we make silly faces, weird noises, and typical "boy" humor still. But only at home.
I think it is okay if your daughter and her Dad engage is silly time on Skype. Right now, it is how they relate to each other. She will eventually get too old for it and they will find other ways to relate to each other.
God Bless
regarding your "so what happened" are you kidding? You dont see kids sticking out their tongues at each other??? Very normal behavior, however distasteful it may seem.
My daughter and grand daughter have a weird thing they like to do. They pinch their cheeks a certain way that pulls their eyes down and makes their mouths look strange. They do this to eachother and talk funny and giggle about it. My grand daughter does it to her M. but not me because Ive told her I dont like her doing that. So she knows I dont want her to, but shes more than welcomed to play that ugly face game with mommy. Its their thing, not mine. Its just got to be something you let them do and someday it may be their special bond that sorta says Im thinking about you, or I love you, or whatever. I bet she will also have some special thing she does with you to be your own thing. It just wont be tacky/icky like sticking a tongue out.
It is completely age appropriate for a 7 year old to make silly faces with her dad:) I would say to pick your battles, focus only on changing behavior that is unsafe, mean, or hurtful...but leave the silly stuff alone:)
It is her thing with dad, as long as she is not doing it at strangers I would just let it go.
My husband is on deployment so we skype lots. My oldest is 6 and he sometimes does it. And sometimes my husband and I even make faces to each other and we're 26 and 27. Not a big deal. Also there is something about seeing yourself on skype that makes people make silly faces! :)
I'm just seeing this. I think you're making an issue out of nothing. It's something silly that she & her daddy do. The bigger deal you make of it, the bigger issue it's going to become. It's a silly memory that she & her daddy will have. Try to embrace it, rather that criticize.
It sounds like you're a great mom!!! Your concern is appropriate. Try not to focus on this though.
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I hope you don't feel bad for it annoying you. My oldest is 8 and he does things that drive me up the wall that other people will say are no big deal. Which then makes me even more annoyed! In this instance, and as long as she doesn't do it normally, I think it's just something that you'll have to accept. And you know, I'd love to say that I'd be fine, but I get jealous sometimes when my oldest says he wants to go see his grandma (my MIL) instead of hang with me on a Saturday. :-) So if you are feeling jealous that they are sharing something fun & silly, don't feel bad. It's only natural. Hopefully they'll move on to something else soon. Good luck!
Just read your "what happened" and I'm sorry you were so offended by the responses.
Fathers are by nature more silly and fun, moms are the "serious" ones, IMO (even the happily married ones.)
I know you find it annoying (I probably would too) but it doesn't sound inappropriate. And PLEASE don't worry about her acting babyish, my girls are (almost) 12 and 15 and I would give ANYTHING to be silly with them again. Sometimes I still can with my youngest, but my oldest? No way. She is exactly the kind of independent young woman I worked hard to raise. She is so "mature" that she no longer needs my opinion on almost anything and it stings.
Just wanted to give you a little insight on what's to come so you can try to embrace the now!
OMG I'm sorry, but I had to laugh at this. Just two nights ago I sat on the couch with my 9 year-old daughter while we Skyped with her big sister who is now 26 and living in California. Yeah, they talked, but the whole time doing funny things with their tongues!! Big sister has always been proud of being able to touch the end of her nose with her tongue! Little sister is working on it, but in the meantime has taught herself how to flip her whole tongue upside down in her mouth - just to be able to do something big sis can't! It's hilarious!! They love each other, and are showing it, that's all. Oh, and when they weren't doing stuff with their tongues, they were comparing their feet...
I understand where you are coming from but she is still only 7 years old and is having fun with her dad, I don't see anything wrong it. As long as she is not doing it for spite or in rebellion I think it's ok. She has the rest of her life to be mature. Let her make her memories and have a strong bond with her dad even if it is through making faces.
She doesn't do it w/ anyone else. Just leave it be- it is something between her and her dad. Remember you are the one who picked that dad for her, and well done to him for keeping in touch.
I don't know, maybe just worry about world peace instead.
best, k
I am 44 and my sister is 46 and we do facetime and make faces with each other. I think it is the whole video thing and staring at each other gets boring, so why not make faces! Yes, it is something she will always remember doing with dad. He can't tickle her or throw her around, so I think you have to give him something. Being silly with my dad was something I always remembered because dad's are usually so serious. I hope this helps.
