4 Yr Old Daughters Emotions

Get the book "The Kissing Hand". Can't remember the author.

It is about a little raccoon who is afraid to go to school because he will miss his mommy. Mommy tells him the secret of the kissing hand. She kisses his hand and tells him that with that kiss, she is always with him and if he feels lonely or scared, all he has to do is rub his hand on his cheek and he will feel mommy's presence. So, mommy kisses his hand, he goes to school, and when he feels like he's missing mommy, he rubs his hand against his cheek and magically he can feel mommy with him. He has a great day at school!

Kids really like this book. When one of my GD's had to be in a behaviorial institute and was scared to death, I told her the story and kissed her hand before I had to leave. The nurses told me the next day that she kept rubbing her hand against her cheek and when she did, she was able to calm herself down! It really worked!

Like Tori said... talk to her... Help her express what she is feeling and let her know it is okay for her too be sad / upset / etc. THen after she see that you do understand how she is feeling, you can talk to her about the proper ways of expressing it. Rather than kick the blocks, she could ask the teacher if she could tear up some scrap paper or somehting along those lines. And work from there to talking about it rather than physically reacting.

I will say a prayer for you both!

Awww, that's tough, poor kiddo. Being 4 is hard! My daughter is four too and she's also very emotional. Not so much in an outburst way, but she's sensitive and loves her mommy time for sure. I think maybe even just talking about it with your daughter could really help. She might do better if you just validate her feelings like, it must have made you really sad when Ms. Teacher had to leave, huh? What are some good things about your new teacher? etc., etc. Maybe she just needs to talk about it but doesn't really know how. Also, maybe have her "help"you with your class work. Maybe she can get your books out for you or make sure you have a pencil or help you log on to the computer or whatever it is you have to do! Giving her a task will help her feel more involved in what you're doing and might make your leaving less stressful b/c she knows she's "helping" you be a better student.

What a wonderful way to spend some Mommy and Me time. :) She may be 4, and seem like 14 most days, but she is still just a baby. I have a 4 1/2 year old, and she is an intensively, emotional little thing. She can burst into tears just thinking about something scary or exciting. She just can't hold it in or deal with it yet.

For instance, she finally became brave enough to go up in the climbing gym at McD's, and slid down the slide. When I realized what she was doing, I watched without acknowledging her doing it. Once she came down, I said, "Wow! You did it!" She burst into tears and needed a hug. :)

I think it's the age, mama. Validate her feelings, give her extra love and positive attention, and let her role play how to handle situations at school that are hard. It's like they know there are rules and expectations, but just don't know what they all are yet. That's a hard world to be in, when they just want to please everyone.

Kiss the hand, so love that. My kids watch limited Tv but I love Ni Hao Kai Lan cause it teaches them how to express their feelings. This show and reinforcing mine to express herself to me has really helped us. My almost 4 yo can be a handful so lots of warm wishes your way