I apologize but I have another question. Do all teenage boys act the same? My son can act so clueless sometimes. You give him instructions to follow and he does the opposite and he acts as though you never told him what to do. He has the same house chores everyday but forgets to do them or half way do them but if he wants something he would clean up the entire house until it sparkles. I do not get it. Also, his actions is affecting my relationship with his stepfather, my husband. My husband feels like I to laid back with my son when he watches his every movement. He thinks my son is a lost cause and will never change but I am his mother and I will never turn my back on my son.
Things still have not change. Actually it is getting worse. My son still makes some choices on his own without consulting me. My husband and me argues all the time about my son. He feels as though I should get physical with my son but i disagree in most cases.
You should do some googling...there is brain research that can back up his clueless behavior! So normal!
Oh no. You are NOT giving me hope for the future. You just described my 8 yo son. :(
I've read that the teenage brain is like a Ferrari...with really bad brakes.
Teens are a combo of distracted and lazy, in my experience. Sometimes we joke that our teen and toddler are in the same phase. My stepdaughter can text and load videos and do a million techy things...but ask her to push the START button and actually run the dishwasher? "I don't know how..." No, you are being passive-aggressive about having to do the dishes. Or if she is asked to keep on top of the towels for the house (she mostly just needs to fold and put away), she'll fold and then leave a pile downstairs...I think you need to be very clear, very simple, and very literal.
And if he doesn't do it, have a clear consequence.
"Fold AND put away the towels or you can't go out with friends on Friday."
The majority are as you describe. I agree, are husbands any different? Not in my experience. I have decided the poor males can't help it. They have a Y chromosome. It's shorter than an X. Therefore they are missing pieces. I think a lot of important things are on that part of the X. LOL
No, they don't all act the same, but what you are describing is very typical. The teen years can by trying, to say the least. But, your son sounds like a normal teen.
yup, sounds about right! and that goes for girls too. you should print a card with his daily chores and hand it to him everyday lol im sure he doesnt forget what time his fav tv shows come on at right?
He sounds like my husband. I think it's a guy thing....
Your son sounds like my 14 year old son's twin !!
Mine has had the same chores for over two years and I still have to "remind' him to do them. He can walk down the hallway and forget what he was going to do. But, when I was overnight in the hospital earlier this year I asked him to change my sheets, clean the litter boxes, and fix a meal for when I got home and he did everything and more! So it seems to be situational. He was wonderfully helpful and carried more of the load around the house until I got better.
So they can do it when they have to (or want something). I think it is just the age. Just hang in there - I am told they get better some time after college. LOL
LOL
What is the difference between a 'boy' and a "Man" or Husbands?
Maybe make a LIST for him, and post it up on a central place and TELL him his 'To Do List' is there and to check it EVERYDAY.
Hang in there with him. It has to just be one of those phases. My daughter got an ap for her iPhone to "remind" her to put the clothes in the dryer! My son is a very responsible boy, but he still forgets things I tell him and has to be reminded once in a while. I think there was a study out recently about teen brains functioning differently and while it can be frustrating, sometimes they can't help it. (I still think other times they can!)
Good luck!
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