J.E.
I breastfed, so obviously she isnt holding anything. When I give her juice in a bottle, she can hold it, but I prefer to feed her in my arms. (10 1/2 months old)
I think one of the benefits of breastfeeding is that the baby and mom have a nice cuddle and intimate moment. If I chose to bottle feed, I wouldnt do it any different. You only get this short time to feed them and its the sweetest thing. I dont think babies should have a bottle propped or drink a bottle of milk or formula alone, they should be cuddled the same as a breast fed baby.
It sounds like your son CAN feed it to himself, but prefers you to do it? INDULGE him, and yourself, and dont worry about it. Enjoy your baby, they grow up far too fast.