Why My 2 Year Old Daughter Is Not Communicating with Us by Speaking ?

she recites poems? she can say other words. thats acceptable. when shes pointing at the water and making noises instead of words for it, ask her. "you want the water? ok try to say 'water'." and teach her the word for it. after a few times you can use giving her the water as the reward for saying the word for it. this can be done with anything shes grunting while pointing at. if after a few times of teaching her the word and shes still refusing to say it then call for evaluation.

What does her pediatrician say? Speech development is a part of your well baby/toddler checkups. Start there with questions and concerns.

Not speaking until 3 is not hereditary. It means your husband received no help and he lucked out!

If children are not speaking at that age, it means something is wrong. Most of the time it's very easily corrected by a speech therapist, but sometimes it is an indicator of something more. For my son, it was something more, but that doesn't mean that's the case with your daughter.

Take her in for an evaluation. The best thing that could happen is they give you some tips to help her out, and she quickly begins speaking in an age appropriate way. The worst thing that can happen is that they believe there are signs of an underlying cause. If that's the case, wouldn't you rather know that now than years later?

Talk to your pediatrician. Have her evaluated by an SLP (Speech-Language Pathologist). You will get the answers you need.

she IS speaking to you.
she's only 2.
her vocabulary is very, very limited.
she's not going to converse with you. she hasn't yet developed the knack for dialogue.
she doesn't understand 'instructions.' she's two.
stop instructing her.
use words to communicate with her, and let her figure out how to use words herself on her own timeline.
i think you need to educate yourself on how babies develop.
khairete
S.

Moms over the internet can't be sure, but the good news is that Early Intervention (called the First Steps program in Kentucky, other names in other states) will evaluate her for free, and if she needs speech therapy, they can provide it for free also. The key is that EI is only for kids who are less than 3 years old, so please call them right away to get her evaluated.
http://chfs.ky.gov/dph/firstSteps/

ETA: There is help after age 3 also, as another poster indicated, it is through the school district. But it has been shown over and over that the earlier a child gets help, the easier it is for that child to catch up. That is why the federal government requires states to provide early intervention services. So don't wait until age 3, call EI now.

How can she recite poems if she's not speaking?
Maybe it does run in her family if her father was the same way.
Einstein didn't talk till he was closer to 3 yrs old and it didn't seem to do him any harm.

What does your doctor say?
I'd say you need to make an appointment with your pediatrician and talk about these concerns with him - and also talk with him about your anxiety over your child.
Has her hearing been tested?
Why are you jumping to an autism conclusion?
Besides taking her to see a doctor, please get a book on early child development and read it all the way through.
No child will always listen to parents instructions - it doesn't matter how old they are.
I'm 56 and I still don't always listen to my mom all of the time.

With what you've listed here she sounds like a normal 2 yr old to me who has a very anxious mother.
But then none of us are doctors, we haven't observed your child and we just don't really know if she is normal or not.

I suggest you have a professional evaluate her to find a reason for her not talking to you. Your local school district has an office that provides this service fee of charge. Call the school district office for information. You can also arrange for an evaluation with a private professional. I can't remember the name for this sort of evaluation. Other mom's here can tell you. Perhaps she has developmental delays that cause this.

My daughter has had 3 of her children evaluated by the school office. After an evaluation they will provide treatment if that is needed. My three grandchildren have received help from educational sources.

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