When to Try Again After Miscarriage - East Lansing,MI

I miscarried last summer and my doc told us to wait one period before trying again. We waited one cycle and tried that month and were pregnant again. I carried to full-term with no problems. I have heard of docs that say to wait 3 months but 1 month worked for us. Good luck to you!

I'm so sorry. I had a miscarriage after my first... I know have a beautiful 2 year old girl. I waited once period after the miscarriage then got pregnant with her- no problems.

The dr. told me to wait one or two cycles.

T., I'm sorry you're going through this. I had a miscarriage last October. One of my co-workers had a miscarriage at the same time, got pregnant right away, and did fine. It took me three months to get pregnant again, I'm due this month, and I've had no problems at all. I had a hard time planning, though, because my periods were irregular after my miscarriage. I spent lots of money on pregnancy tests. I guess my best advice is don't lose hope. I see you have two children, so do I, so when I got pregnant with the one I lost, I just thought I was one of those people who sailed through their pregnancies. It is hard though, when I was found out I was pregnant with this one, I cried all day, I was afraid to tell anyone, afraid to leave my house (I'm a working mom too.) Anyways, good luck to you, remember to take some time for you (hard to do with 2 kids), and try to be positive. N.

We waited a month to try, and it took 2 to conceive. All went fine.

My SIL's sister had a few miscarriages, and she had recommended waiting 6 months before trying. She felt that was the safe number where everything is back in order, if you will. The doctor had recommended 3 months.

Sorry about your loss. It's so hard to go through.

Hi T.-

I suffered a miscarriage early in my third pregnancy. My doctor told me just what you said - wait until you have one normal period - as well as to wait until I was emotionally ready. From the sound of your post, I think you might want to wait just a little longer, just until you aren't feeling so lost. I was really ready for another baby, so right after my period we started trying again, and I was pregnant immediately. The pregnancy was perfectly normal (although I worried a little more in the beginning than I had with the others) and I had a healthy girl.

I never had any pregnancy complications aside from this miscarriage. I don't think that the risk of an ectopic pregnancy is increased by getting pregnant soon after a miscarriage, but it is higher when you have already had one ectopic pregnancy. Miscarriages are more common than I ever realized (one in five pregnancies end with miscarriage), so having one certainly doesn't mean that you are more likely to have another.

If you feel ready to try again after you have had your first period, then go for it. In the meantime, one thing that I did to cope with the time that I had to wait to recover from the loss was to do things that I couldn't do when I was pregnant. I was planning on putting my two oldest girls into a room together when the baby came, so I stripped the wood floor in there, refinished it, and painted the walls. This served as a purposeful distraction and helped me to feel a little better about not being pregnant anymore.

I am sorry for your loss, I know how hard to lose a baby. Take care of yourself, and good luck with everything.

It takes 2 years for your body to heal after a pregnancy....so give yourself time, and when u feel like it. that is up to you....u have been through so much. my friend went through similiar things as u, and ended up with a terrific daughter....u will b blessed as well.

Your inquiry brought tears to my eyes. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. We waited 40 days (6 weeks) like after a live birth. We still regard our losses as children, even though they weren't viable. So we figured that my body needed just as much time to heal as a normal birth. I did still miscarry though one time after waiting, but another time I was able to carry the baby full term. I fully understand your pain. Please feel free to write me if you need to talk. Praying for you, God Bless You.

G.

I had a miscarriage once in the month of November. It was "complete" and I didn't need a D&C or anything. Doc said I was fine and didn't really say I couldn't try again soon. I was pregnant again by March...she is 28 now. No problems.

So very sorry. We just had our second miscarriage in 5 months. We also had one before our son, who is almost 3. If I weren't an only child, I think I would be done trying b/c of the emotional rollercoaster, respect to my body, and so forth. However, I don't like being an only child and don't want to do that to our son. That being said, I noticed you have 2, so maybe take your time. From what I understand, having a miscarriage doesn't make you more likely to have another, but ectopic pregnancies do tend to have a higher risk of having another (Dr. thought this last one was ectopic for a couple days). Have you had to use fertility treatments? We did and the Dr. said to use injectables and not Clomid b/c sometimes that tends to miscarry if you've had them before. I wish I could tell you not to worry, but we both know that's not going to cut it! but I did want to let you know you aren't alone and it is a very tough situation.

I am sorry for your loss. I miscarried at 11 weeks and my OB told me to wait at least three months. You want your uterus to have enough time to recover and get nice and "cushy" for the egg to implant. Use the time to get even more healthy. I did a detox after my pregnancy and it made me feel healthier.
God Bless you.

Hello T. H:

I waited about a year after my miscarriage to prepare myself mentally for the challenges that it takes to carry and give birth to a child. But, moreso to deal with the possibility that the same thing could happen again, while feeling comfortable with wanting to take such risk.

I was 8.2 months pregnant when I lost my daughter. But, God has given me two more beautiful girls who are now 8 and 10. You will know when and you will be prepared. Keep the faith and trust your inner instincts. God will make everything okay.

Angie C.
"Married with two girls and working from home."
www.angiedental.com

I am so sorry for your loss. It is very hard and unless you have gone through it no one knows how you feel. I had a miscarriage in August 2008. My husband and I waited the recommended 2 cycles and then got Pregnant on the first try. I delivered a beautiful and healthy baby girl on July 4th.

Good Luck trying to conceive. My prayers are with you.

I miscarried at 12week in April. We conceived again within a few weeks without another cycle completion. Just had my 20 week ultrasound and all is well--due in February.

Dear T.,
I am so sorry for your loss. The pain of miscarriage is greater than anyone who has never been through it can realize. I pray that God comforts and heals you. I miscarried in December of 2008. The doctor told me to wait one period before trying again; he said to make sure I was ready emotionally too. I become pregnant after two periods, and I was a nervous wreck; I just sensed something was wrong again. I miscarried in April of 2009, but tests showed that I had a hormone problem so that loss was not related to how soon I became pregnant (though some insensitive people suggested that I got pregnant "too soon.") After a diagnosis and starting a treatment, the doctor gave me the go-ahead to try whenever we were ready. We became pregnant that month. I am now 17 and a half weeks pregnant and feeling my baby move about every day. I share my story to give you some hope. I suggest you wait at least one cycle for your physical health and until you "feel" ready for your emotional health. Blessings to you.
Rachael

I had one also. They told me to wait a month. We did and it took a couple months, but we did get our son, he is 6 now! Good luck! I`m sorry you had to go through everything!

So, so sorry to hear about your loss. You are a mother the moment you find out you are pregnant and there is nothing more difficult than losing a little one (no matter how little). I miscarried in November '08 and waited for one period (which my OBGYN suggested) and I was pregnant by the end of January '09. Supposedly it is easier to get pregnant soon afer a pregnancy (your body is all ready to go, I suppose). I did spend a good part of this next pregnancy very nervous that something would happen to this baby, but I am happy to say that I just gave birth to my second son September 14th! He is happy and healthy and we had a very uneventful pregnancy (thankfully). Wishing you all the best. Blowing some pink and blue dust your way! :)

I know people who have gotten pregnant before they even had a period and I know people who've wait. Some each way have had good pregnancies and some another m/c. Really there is no guarantee as to what will happened. Here's a web site that really helped me when I was TTC again after my m/c's.

www.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com

Hi T. -

You have gotten a lot of great advice. My own personal opinion is to do what is right for you and your body. Everyone's situations are different. I think you should talk it over with your doctor and when is the best time physically for you to try again. Then, based on what he/she says, decide when you feel ready to try (after the dr.'s clearance) emotionally.

I just miscarried as well. Determining when to try again is so difficult. You want to do the right thing for your body and emotions, but sometimes figuring that out can be so hard. Personally, I do feel there is something to be said about giving your body a little bit of time to recover and your emotions time to cope. But again, only you and your dr.'s can really decide when that is.

May God bless you with a future healthy pregnancy and may you find peace with your loss.

I have had 10 preganacies and 4 lived. I usually miscarry than have a live birth. I have an autoimmune system issue. So my babies are monitored for heart blocks. Well we have been trying for number five. I misscarried my first one back at the begining of the summer. Than I waited a month got pregnant a month later. miscarried it the first week of august just before my daughters birthday. So that was my second miscarriage which is completely abnormal. Now I am 9 almost 10 weeks pregnant. I was suppose to wait a period before trying but didn't happen and I got pregnant right after my 2nd miscarriage. So the dr was quit shocked. I am currently worried still about miscarring this one but try not to dwell on it.. I am Scared just as much as you are I don't really think anyone wants to go through it but i also believe god has us go through it either to teach us a lesson or to have us slow down. Thats how I feel. If you would like to chat more please contact me. Take care and good luck.

Hello T., Sorry to hear of your loss. My oldest daughter lost her first baby, waited 3 months, then had a healthy, full term boy. Hope all goes well for you.

i had 3 miscarriages then my dtr, then an ectopic, then my son. i waited a few months after the 1st and 2nd one, and after the 3rd one i waited a year. during that year, i totally ate healthy took folic acid out the ying yang, quit smoking and then got pregnant w/my dtr. after her, i had the ectopic and it was a corneal pregnancy which means the baby was 1/2 in my tube and 1/2 in my uterus. so they had to remove my tube and a piece of my uterus, so i HAD to wait a year before i could start trying again, and thankfully i got pregnant w/my son. i do have to say after the 3rd miscarriage my hubby and i started talking about adopting if we couldn't get pregnant and suprisingly enough we were both ok w/that b/c we decided if we couldn't get prego it was for a reason and we both excepted that and then wamo we were prego w/our dtr. i decided that we would stop trying after i had 5 miscarriages, but thankfully it didn't go that far. every m/c was very hard, but i got through it by telling myself that it just wasn't meant to be and whats meant to be will happen. i am that type of person who thinks everything happens for a reason and what's meant to be will be...
i am soooo very sorry for your lose and i hope everything works out for you, and i hope my story helps a little.
best of luck to you!!!

I am soo sorry for your loss. I do know that women who are low on magnesium will have miscarriages, also the Prescription prenatals often have what people frequently are missing not a full balance prenatal you can usually get a good one at a health food store like nutrifoods in Royal oak. You may want to wait and really clean up your diet, then try when you are emotionally ready. Peace and God be with you. K.

I have had two this year one in April and then I got pregnant in July and lost it a week later, I had some bleeding but no cramping, I didn't find out I miscarried until August when they did an ultrasound then checked my HCG levels. I do have 3 healthy children and these are the first miscarriages I have had. I think I had a hormone issue so I am waiting longer this time. I went back on the pill. Listen to your body and do what is best for it and you. Good luck I know how devastating it is to lose a pregnancy.

My first pregnancy was an ectopic (tubal) one. My doctor told me to wait 3 months and try again. We did and then got pregmant immediatly. I had another ectopic-different problem and my doctor told me to wait one year. We waited the year and even with one tube got pregnant with no problems. I am assuming your doctor has checked your different hormone levels, that can affect problems. don't be affraid to ask yout doctor or the nurse.

S.

you can try again after your first normal period.. every pregnancy is different the next one might go well from the beginning..

Hang in there I had a miscarriage and I now have 2 kids..