When to Tell Everyone...

Congrats. I did not share the news until 13 weeks. I did not find this site until my son was a few months old...if I was on before then, I would have shared with a post since I do not know you all personally. It was driving me crazy keeping it to myself the whole time..especially since I found out so early (4 weeks...before I was even late) Congratulations!

I found out very early but my son was with his dad for almost a week (he was 14 almost 15) and I didn't want anyone to slip to him before we told him. So after I told my hubby, we didn't tell anyone until we told him when he came home. Then, we told the grandparents.

As far as "being safe to spread the word", only you can decide. Some say between 8-12 weeks.

I think this is a very personal decision. I have been pregnant 7 times and have 2 beautiful children. I too know that heatbreak of telling everyone "I lost the baby". I never waited the full 12 weeks, but I waited until I was comfortable. Most of my losses were early losses, but one of them was after we saw the heartbeat, so for me to tell again the bar got moved back a little farther again.

You need to go with what you are comfortable with. Some tell close friends/family, because even if something goes wrong you will want the support of others.

Good luck in your pregnancy and I am sending lots of sticky dust your way.

I have lost babies after hearing and seeing a healthy heartbeat. We have also told our son as soon as we had a heartbeat - not a great idea. I would wait, especially for telling your son, until at least 12 weeks.
My son was very confused about how a baby could die, and had some anxiety over it; he figured if a baby can die, then so can mom and dad, and we had to actually discuss with him what the plan would be for him if we both died because he wouldn't let the subject go until he knew. Over a year later and he still talks about our baby that didn't come home because he died, he even tells friends and his little sister (who was not yet two at the time) about it. It just had a way huger impact than I would have guessed on his little five year old psyche. He also asks pretty frequently when I'm going to have another baby in my tummy because he would really like a baby to come home - this is hard for me because I know we won't be having any more, and discussing it just keeps it on my mind. But of course, a six year old doesn't want to hear that we aren't having any more, so he just persists (he also asks weekly for a puppy, and we definitely aren't getting one of those either! haha)
So just think about what you can handle and what your son can handle if things don't go as planned, and then act accordingly. But for myself, I would wait until about 12 weeks to tell friends, and probably the 18-20 week ultrasound to tell my kids.

With my first and with my current - we tell the news to our parents and siblings after the first dr appt with ultrasound/heartbeat. We know everything is okay and we have a due date - which is more fun when sharing the news. We ask family to hold off on sharing with anyone else until the end of first trimester and then cue in extended family, friends, and the whole world :) I just can't keep it a secret from EVERYONE until second trimester but do keep it a secret from most.

First, congratulations! This is so exciting and it's tough to keep things like this to yourself, but... you really should for a few more weeks.

My doctor cautioned me with both of my children to wait until 12 weeks. The risk of miscarriage drops significantly after that point. My mother and MIL said the same. We told our immediate families (parents and siblings) around 6 weeks, but everyone else found out at 3 months.

The general rule of thumb is that you shouldn't tell anyone before 12 weeks that you are pregnant if you wouldn't want to have to call them should something unfortunate happen.

Wait a few weeks and throw a little party for your family and friends... just desserts or something easy and tell them all together!

My DIL has lost three babies, so when she became pregnant last time, she didn't tell very many people and she asked me not to spread the word either. She waited until she was "past the hump" - the times when the difficulties had occurred before. I think she was some three months along when she announced the baby to the world (well, at least to Facebook.) By that time it was getting obvious that she was pregnant, so it was a good thing she said something!

And congratulations! I'm really happy for you! You're right - sometimes it's the not trying so hard that contributes to the success.

We told our closest family (parents, siblings) right away when we found out. Everyone else we waited until 10 or 12 weeks.

Congrats and good luck!

Even though you are excited I would wait until you are through the first tri-mester to tell everyone. If you really want to share I guess you could tell your parents and in-laws as long as they keep it quiet.

Congrats!

CONGRATS!! I always waited until I hit my 2nd trimester (about 13 weeks) to tell people... that's usually your safest bet. I'd at least wait until you hear that heartbeat and get the okay from your obgyn :)

YAY!!

Congrats!

I think 12 weeks is a safe place to get excited and tell everyone!

CONGRATULATIONS =)
I would tell my closest family and friends that you know will keep it to just themselves and that would be there for support if God forbid anything happened (which Im sure it wont) and then wait to tell everyone the great news once you have heard the heartbeat or have reached the 12 week mark
Again Congrats and Good Luck

Congratulations. I would wait until 12 weeks before I said anything.

I waited until I was three months along. At the start of the second trimester I felt "safe" and started making phone calls.

Congratulations to you and your family! I only told people closest to me, family and friends who knew what was going on. My manager didn't know until I was requesting pregnancy leave. I said it matter-of-factly to certain people when I thought it might be necessary. (Very early on I was at work and had crazy taste buds and stomach. I HAD to have a baked potato, and I got to the salad bar just as it opened, but the potatoes weren't ready. I told the ladies there that I was pregnant just so they would understand my urgency.) I know that you're happy and excited, and I don't want to take that away from you--you can't live in fear--but whose business is it, anyway? Also, besides you and the people in your immediate circle, who really cares? I mean, people can be happy for you, but is it really important that you put them on notice? Let the world see as you progress in this pregnancy. I let people see my belly growing and just confirmed and discussed A LITTLE when they would bring it up.

Congrats and God Bless!!

Fitst of all, CONGRATS!!! I believe you could wait until you are past your first trimester. Usually, that is a good point to begin telling people. Depending on how old your son is, you might want to tell him when you are well into your second trimester (depending on when you had the miscarriage). Just my opinion...

As a mama who has miscarried twice my opinion is to not tell until after the point in which you miscarried before or at 3 months, whichever is later.

Congratulations!!!!

Someone once told me that you tell the folks who you would want to comfort you if things didn't turn out the way you hope. It is what is happening in your life, if you want folks to know what is happening, you have to share the information they need to be able to celebrate and console, so you share with your support network who you want supporting you.

Don't forget to take your prenatals with food or on a full stomach, it will cut down on nausea.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

As one who has been there - wait until 13 or so weeks. I don't know how far along you were when you miscarried 1.5 years ago, but I would wait until after the first trimester.

I hope this is a smooth pregnancy for you!!

Good luck!!