What to Do with the Middle Child?

Doesnt sound to me like there is a problem. He is just affectionate. Thats just his personality. And you are so lucky to be getting hugs and kisses from him. My 7year old has always been the type to pull away from hugs and kisses. Thats just the way she has been all her life. She just is not into that. Sounds normal. If he is trying to get attention like that I say give it to him. At least he is not getting into trouble. Some kids when they want attention they start being bad and throwing fits. You are blessed.

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Hello J., my name is S. and I know exactly how you feel. I have three boys and my middle son is 6 years old and he does exactly the same thing. I don't feel that I neglect him or ignore him but I can sense from him that something is not right. To help him understand that I will always be here, I have scheduled date night for him and I. What I mean is that one night out of the week my middle child and I get together and do something. It can be going and getting ice cream, watching a movie, etc. But the whole point is that he and I go alone without the other two boys. He really likes our date nights. But don't worry, I feel that this middle syndrome will stay with them even as they get older. But for right now, all I can do is try my best. I hope this helps.

S.
Pearland, Tx.

This request tugged at my heart because I myself am a middle child!!

So speaking from experience, I do believe that there really is a such thing as middle child syndrome and it's up to parents to try to minimize some of it. You should try to find books on this subject or research the internet because there is a lot of information out there.

But as far as his hugging/kissing and sensitivity, it could be more of a personality trait that just a side effect from being a middle child. I have a daughter that is my only child so far, she gets PLENTY of attention yet she is just like that, so this is probably just the way your son is. I would embrace this and nurture this. Our society doesn't seem to like for boys to be sensitive but this is actually a very good quaility for men to have.

Give him as much attention as he needs. If you do not meet his needs he will as he ages turn elsewhere to have those needs met. If you know God ask him to show you how to reach your son in the ways he needs because no one knows or understands your son better than his creator. As you love him as a middle child he will begin to feel complete and in that completness will find a sense of security that will allow him to accomplish much.

His sensitivity comes from a belief that how he performs dictates how much he is loved. If you can break this now you will save him from the workaholism that many middle children face today; You will also help him experience true love and never settle for marriage to a partner who drives him by rewarding and or withholding their love based on his actions.

Good luck and coming from a middle child, we love our moms and parents so much and only want to know deeply that their love is real.

Sure, or it could mean that he loves you and wants to show it.

I think that your son just likes showing his affection.
Some kids are like that. I have 4 and my son 9 shows his affection alot

It is difficult to be a middle child. I am one. So speaking from experience You have your Older sibling who attempts to be wise and in charge.....Then you have your littlest child that is always to young to understand and the other children should know better not to fight and argue or whatever.

Your middle child I think needs security while your other 2 children have a role as being the First child and the last child...HE does not have a role he is more in between the 2.

I have heard once that middle children typically end up having the fewest pictures in the family photo albums and I thik it is true in most cases. Not that the parents are neglectful it just happends that way when you are so happy there is your first child and your taking pictures like mad and along comes your second and while your taking pictures of him here comes your last child and they seem to take up so much more of the film because they are your LAST child....

Anyway I am not an expert but i would say that he could be more sensative in the fact that he does not know what his role is in the family I think he needs moments when it is just you and him in the picture I think all children need those moments. If his dad is in the picture at all i and a good influence i would suggest having him spend timw tihe his dad tell him that your son needs to feel sspecial and important..

He needs security in knowing that you think he is special and love him just as much as the other 2. Even if you are a parent that does not show farorites every child i think needs to feel like they are special for some reason...Look for his talents and gifts and build on that...
if he is the only boy maybe let him feel he is the man of the house when dadddy is away... That can help him form his identity...

I hope this helps.

well i have an 8 year old boy well he turns 8 tomorrow and he dosent stop giving me kisses and huggs every day and hes an only child so i also think its normal hes just showing you how much he loves you.