What to Do Now...

Have you heard of Mom2Mom sales? These are moms selling clothes to other moms (and the clothes are significantly cheaper than buying new). The newborn clothes are usually really good because the kids grow out of them so quickly. They even sell car seats, strollers, etc. You can find a listed of the sales in the Detroit area by going to the following website:
http://www.mom2momlist.com/list/spring.shtml

Good luck and congratulations!

Hello C.,

You could always go to the mom to mom shows. They are starting up for the season and you should be able to get plenty of things that you need. If you haven't heard about them you can view the list at mom2momlist.com

Good Luck
A.

Have you ever been to St. Vincent DePaul's? It's a wonderful store for baby clothes, you just have to search through the bins. Or try Goodwill. Anysecond-hand store, really. Or maybe consignment shops. I think they are a bit expensive, but worth a try.

I think your mom really overstepped the boundaries. If you had wanted to sell them, you wouldn't have bothered to box them up and bring them to her house. Those were your belongings and if she sold them, I think she needs to give you the money that she got so you can purchase clothes for your baby. I think you should sit down and talk with your mom and explain how you feel, otherwise she may do it again and that becomes a trust issue between you and her.

If she sold them one ebay, then she should at very least give you all the profits from ebay plus money to cover what she gave away. If she didn't want the stuff in her basement she should have told you she needed to move it. You should let her know how disappointed you are by all means, and I would definately have a friend throw you a shower. Family traditions were made to be broken-invite everyone.
I would also move out anything you have remaining there. With property possession is 90% of the law, don't risk anymore problems or missing items in addition to clothes.
C.

I totally agree that your mother should be responsible for everything that she got rid of. Did she ever act like it was a problem to store the stuff? There is no excuse for what she did, it was not her stuff. Try to have a calm talk with her first and ask her why she did it and what she thinks is fair. If she won't agree to make up for what she did, maybe you should "store" some of her stuff!!!!! Tell her how much harder this is making it for you. Maybe other family members would be more willing to help out in this situation because it's not your fault you need baby stuff.

Speaking of eBay...that is how I got 95% of my youngest child's clothes. I wouldn't just buy one outfit here and there, I would look for "lots". I got so many wonderful clothes for dirt cheap. I bought one lot, and the seller realized after she sent the items that she forgot to pack a matching pair of booties. She took her time and money to send those to me just because. She could've of just thrown them away, but she didn't. I am constantly scouring eBay. I don't have much money and I figure since my kids go through clothes so fast, this is an inexpensive way to clothe them. Plus they really don't care if they were worn by someone else! Try it out.

It might just be me, but it sounds like mom should take you on a shopping trip since she gave away your baby clothes and also SOLD and made money off them as well. I would be livid.

M.
mom to C. 15
Isabella, Logan and Brody 4 1/2

wow! i think that's all i can say! i personally think you should have your mother get the clothes back that she "lent" to someone else without your permission and if she sold any of them on ebay, she should replace them with the money she earned. i can't even begin to imagine how you must feel seeing as how i was angry for you just reading the posting! hope all goes well with everything and best wishes to you with the rest of your pregnancy.

I can't believe that!!!! Maybe your mom should buy you some clothes with all the money she got from selling them on Ebay!!

You can get a free account at www.freecycle.org. It's an amazing website, where you can ask for just about anything from people in your area. Also, since there are no garage sales this time of year, try goodwill stores. I found some really great things there, nice expensive items for so much less!! Just wash before you wear them, obviously. Alot of times, Old Navy has really good sales, that they don't advertise. Just look through their clearance racks!!! I hope this helps and that your able to get everything you need!!!

You might be surprised how many people will buy you baby clothes and gifts (even without a shower) for baby #2. I just had my second, and I made sure to have a few Thank-you cards lying around just in case. Not only did I run out of Thank-you's, but I even had to return/exchange some outfits because we got too many 0-3's!

An alternative to a baby shower (if you're up to it, with a new baby and all) would be to have an Open House for a few hours one weekend soon after the baby's arrival so friends and family can meet her. I guarantee you that no one will show up empty-handed. Just put out some chips and salsa, buy some cookies and pop, and you're all set!

Good luck with your mom. Sounds like something my Mother-In-Law would have done!

A.

Hi C. where is Carrollton located? I have 2 girls and have some extra clothes.

WHAT??????
I can't believe she's not just buying you replacement stuff! I would hop on Craigslist.com .....It has a michigan link and then you click on Detroit area....

Anyhow, there's a WANTED area where you can post things that you need that other people might have lying around. (I posted the need for a couch and got a couple of couches offered!)
Otherwise, I totally think you should atleast have the money she made off the clothes. That's not fair.

Sorry I can't help anymore than that. Don't turn away from second hand stores either. there's really cute stuff there sometimes.

J.

Gosh, I'd have to agree. If your mom sold them then I would think she should replace them. Especially if she didn't ask you and didn't give you the money from the sales. I guess it depends on if she had originally purchased them for you, in which case she may have felt it her right to recoup some of the money she spent. Not that I agree with that, but that may be her reasoning. Can the items that were loaned out be returned? Hopefully they'd still be in nice condition. If having your mom replace some of the items is not an option, then I would start hitting some of the nicer second hand stores, especially if you think this will be your last child. Or if money permits then hit those stores and have fun!

In the meantime, you'll more than likely still get gifts when the baby arrives, even if you don't have a shower. Most families and close friends seem to come visit with gifts in hand and they're usually clothes, at least from my experience. Just buy a few sleepers, onesies, etc to get you started. You can then buy any cute outfits later if you don't receive any. Congratulation, best of luck, and get the rest of those clothes back to your place! :)

that is so not cool! I dont know what kind of relationship you have with your mother but if i were you i would ask for some, if not all, of the money she got from YOUR clothes and go shopping! On 28th street near cascade theres a great little consignment shop called rocking horse where you can get nice clothes for cheap.

Honestly, I think you're mother had better come up with some sort of way to repay you. That's just wrong. However, what's done is done. So, I would join a freecyle group. I know Saginaw has one. Visit www.freecycle.org, and join your local freecycle group. Freecycle, for those that are not aware is a way to get rid of stuff you do not need. You can also post a listing looking for stuff you need. The only rule is everything has to be free. That said, if you join, you can list that you are looking for baby girls' clothing. Sometimes, people will even email you and offer to sell you something cheap, if they have what you need but can't give it away. I've found it to be a great resource for both giving away things that are too good for the trash, and finding things that we can use but don't have in our budget.

Thrift stores like ST Vincent DE Pauls, is great to shop for baby cloths! Stores like Dollar Genurall or Family Dollar have cheap baby cloths too! And also talk to poele you know! Get the word out that your going to need cloths soon for your baby, and maybe they'll come acros someone who needs to get rid of some baby cloths! I have a lot of knew born cloths that you could look through! But I think you live far away! Where;s Carlton at? Cause I'm in Standish!

C.-
I think I would be asking my mom to buy the new clothes I needed, or at least giving me the amount she got for selling them!!!! I can't beleive she did that especially without saying anything to you first!!!! If she won't give you the money, try a thrift store, or try shopping for them on e-bay yourself. they usually have pretty good items in a bulk auction!!! Hope all works out!!!

I know others might not agree with me, but I would tell your mother she needs to replace the items she gave away and the ones she sold on E-bay!(No repurchases from e-bay allowed!)
No questions about it! These were not her things to sell or give to anyone, no matter how good her intentions. You asked the to STORE them, not do with them as SHE pleases. Yes, asking her to replace the clothing might cause a family argument, but as I said before, these things where not hers to get rid of.
Good luck.

While I agree with others that your mother should be replacing those items that she sold and that she totally overstepped her bounds, I also say that you should have another shower! Nowhere is it written that woman has to limit herself to only one baby shower. I am the kind of woman that says "Etiquette, shmetiquette!" Why can't you celebrate the arrival of your second daughter, is she any less deserving of a shower just because she isn't the first?

I threw a shower for my best friend's third baby. Her mother in law grumbled at first about how she didn't deserve one, I told her that she was more than welcome to come if she could be supportive, if not, then she could just stay home, she did end up coming and even made cupcakes. I would talk to a friend who is good at keeping it a secret that it is your idea and have her/him do the planning. You don't even have to call it a shower, you can call it a birth celebration and have your friend pass the word that you need little girl clothes. You could have her make it a surprise party, that way your family can't even blame you, if you are worried about that.

We have rules for too many things in this world, we don't need them for having celebrations for an expectant mother. You only live once and should have fun with it!

C...
I'm so sorry to read of your being hurt like that. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your mother, but have you asked her if she's going to replace what she's sold or give you the money that was made (since it was yours in the first place)?
Your family may have a strict policy on baby showers, but friends are always more understanding (that's why we get to choose them). Maybe you could ask one to throw you a small shower with friends and co-workers only, that way they could pass on the word as to why also.
My third suggestion is to keep an eye out for Mom to Mom sales. My daughter found a list of them on the internet and we puchased many needed items there for her son to be. Great prices, wonderful items.
I wish I could help more. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

L.

Oh I would be so mad! Did she sell some of the clothes? If she did, she owes you that money.

I guess what I would do is calmly sit down with your mom and explain to her that you stored those clothes because you needed them and now you have nothing for your new baby, and put it in her lap and ask her what you should do agout this?? Hopefully she says she will take you shopping and cover the bill.

Your Mom needs to replace Everything that she sold/got rid of. That is ridiculous.

I am so angry for you! First of all, I agree with everyone else...she should NOT have sold or given away anything without your permission. But, is she the type of grandma that will buy things for your daughter a lot? Has she bought new clothes for her? Perhaps she used the money she made off eBay to buy your daughter new clothes? I'm trying to be optimistic :-)

OMG sounds like my mother in law I have the same issues. So are you do at the end of March??? I have a seven month girl but we live in Boyne and a lot of her little stuff is warm weather. I have a bundle me too they are awesome. I have a nice snow suit brand new from The Childrens Place I think its a 3-6 month she only had it on twice. I was thinking of ebaying it but if your interested I could send some pics alot of it was new and she only would wear it for a couple weeks she is growing a lot faster then my frist daughter did. Also ebay has lots of things really you should check it out also a lot of online stores (Gap Old Navy etc.) are clearencing things this time of year check them out too. Let me know ____@____.com

Personally, I would have been ticked off. She had no right to give away or sell any of it, especially without your permission. What did she do with the money she got from selling them? I believe she owes you big time.

That is so wrong! I think she owes you some baby clothes and I would call her on it. She had no right to do that without your permission!

J. M

There are tons of mom to mom resales where you can find tons of clothes, and a lot never used, at really good prices! I swear by them. Check mom2momlist.com to find local sales!

if it was me i would expect your mother to buy some items...seeing how she made out in the deal

Your mom needs to replace those things, but I know how family can be and sometimes.

It might be f aux p aux in your family to have another baby shower, but I would have one anyway. A friend of mine recently threw her own shower, and you don't have to have a big "to do."

Thrift stores are a great place to get clothing, and you also might try freecycle.

Hope this helps :)

I'd tell her she owes you the money she made on the clothes she sold

Oh my gosh! I'm so mad for you!!!

I agree with the others. Definately have a chat with your mom. I don't think I would be asking her to replace the things she gave away and sold though. It would be more of a demand and ultimatum situation. (but really, thats just me..)

I would also check out E-bay. Alot of the sellers on there sell their clothes by the lot. You can get some really nice stuff for not alot of money.

Good luck!!!!

J.