We Cant Quit Co-sleeping

S., I know how easy that is, but big mistake. Maybe you could try to nurse him in his room. You can put a comfortable chair or even a small childs bed he could use in the future.(it is right around the corner-they grow so fast). Because, it is not the bed the he is crying for. It is simple body heat and the comforting sounds that his parents make. Maybe try warming up his bed first so he will still have warmth when you lay him down. Or even better, throw his blanket in the drier and heat it up. When warm enough, wrap him up a few minutes before puting him down, and when you do, before leaving him rub him gently so he can still feel you. And after backing away, give him another few minutes. He may get restless when he doesn't feel you. At that point, talk softly to him so he can hear you before he wakes up all the way. It may take a while but it might help. Good Luck

Hi S.! You are not alone! When I was pregnant I was soooo adamant about not co-sleeping because I am already a lousy sleeper, but you know what? We do what we gotta do to sleep! My baby girl is 12 weeks and continues to want to nurse 2-3 times at night so it is just easier to bring her to bed. So, here is what I have started doing: put her to sleep in her crib. She wakes up around midnight, nurse, attempt back to bed in crib. I sit and bounce on a ball if she wakes up, and it takes sometimes 45 minutes to get her back to sleep but then she goes back in the crib until 4:30-5am then she comes to bed. Sometimes I can hear her fussing, but not in a hungry way so I just wait, 15-20 minutes and she can fall back to sleep. I consider that successful, and it has worked a few times! So, I guess I did not give you any advice, just another perspective. I'll be curious what others will say. My husband usually resorts to sleeping on the couch so I know he looks forward to her sleeping in her own room.

Hello S. B. This happened with my first child and our answer was to get an adult sized twin mattress when he was 11 months old and I would go to his bed to nurse. Sometimes I'd make it back to our bed, sometimes I'd wake up in my son's bed. With my daughter, we changed the room around. We took the side off the crib and put it against the wall, jammed our bed up next to it so it was, in effect, an extension of our bed. We liked this better than buying a "co-sleeper" bed because a crib is so much bigger. Knowing she was my last child, I had a hard time ending co sleeping for psychological reasons. When she turned three we started to tell her that soon she'd go sleep on the bottom bunk of our son's bed. We all made a big deal about how great the change was going to be that she was excited by the move. Good luck with finding your own solution. These two really worked for us.

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When I was pregnant with my first child I said I would never co-sleep. I had a bassinet for 2 months and then moved my son into his own room in a crib. The transition was difficult for him and he ended up sleeping in our bed a lot. He would usually start the night out in his crib and then end up in our bed. This probably lasted until he was 4-5 months old. Then he was better to sleep on his own. The same thing happened with my daughter, only she slept in our bed a lot more. Just like you said, it is easier. I was very tired, so nursing her in bed was just convenient. I still wanted to get her to sleep on her own. She slept in our bed off and on until she was about 7 months. I ended up having to let her cry it out a few times (which was very difficult) and now she sleeps great in her crib. Your son may just be too young to want to sleep away from you right now. But if it is really important to you and your husband, I would just keep trying. If he is not sleeping in his crib by 6 months you may need to let him cry it out too. I would recommend the book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child." Good luck.