Hi G.,
If you promise not to laugh (too hard), I'll let you know that I first began looking into what type of educaion I wanted my son to have --when he was just 3 months old. I actually visited Sacramento's Waldorf school (on Bannister Rd) w/ him at that time. At home, we set up our house very Montessori-style for our son almost from the get-go. My lean-to was also more Montessori than Waldorf, but I appreciated aspects of both educational philosophies. Before having my son, I use to work at the now defunct 'California Nannie College', teaching in the classroom and going on site visits to clear okay placements for our students in field study and also to check up on our students already in field study placement. I visited numerous homes, daycares, in-home daycares, pre-schools, etc to evaluate the sites and programs (and also our students). I took everything in as ideas for my own child someday, of what I wanted for my future child even at the earliest age. By the time my son was in pre-school (a parent co-op, very creative and child-led w/ a 'play' focus but also offering a wealth of educational options daily), I was once again looking for "the" school for him, but more seriously at that point (of course). I picked up countless school's 'report cards' to go over the 'on paper' information, asked for recommendations from moms I know and would come across, read up like crazy, and visited many schools (all types) both w/ and w/o my son before choosing the public K we went w/ or our son. Despite getting our 1st choice school, we ended up home schooling for 1st, expecting it to be temporary (a year or two) to get us through a life 'hump'. We ended up falling in love w/ it, though, and have home schooled 7 years now through a charter school (for the Fine Arts) and using a mix of Charlotte Mason and classical education philosophies (w/ Montessori thrown in --and our own philosophy mix as well... we're eclectic). The charter's home schooling "program" we used offered on-campus classes w/ other home schoolers, field trips, and numerous activities to bring the home schooling families using the program 'together' as much or as little as they wanted. It worked for us, although, if we had the finances at the time for a private Montessori tuition, we would have likely opted for that from K on. That was what I most wanted then. I don't think there's a stigma attached to creative schools or the various alternatives and options available to California families (for edcuation). As long as the children are learning, love learning, and are advancing (are getting their educations), I can't imagine what could be wrong w/ that, regardless of which type of education they are receiving. If it works for your child, for your family, whatever you feel is best for your child --go for it. Children aren't all the same, they are all different, and just as there are myriad different careers in the world for them to have in adulthood (to fit the differences), there are also several different educational choices to fit them -as long as they receive a full education w/i them. They can learn all they need to know in different educational environments and even at different pacing. Don't be afraid of a creative, paced Waldorf or child-centered Montessori education for your daughter if that is what you feel is best for her, if it fits her and she will thrive, learn, and grow well on that educational path. Also, though, if you want a good public school, don't worry about that either. There are some wonderful, solid public schools and charters out there as well. But, if you choose a public school just b/c you are worried that it if you don't, your daughter 'won't be like everyone else', I'd hesitate to choose one for that reason alone. your daughter isn't 'like everyone else' and neither are (I hope) the kids at any school. Go for what's best for your daughter, not what's mainstream just for the sake of being mainstream --unless that is what you feel is best for your daughter and where she'd most thrive. I do think, though, that if you go Waldorf, you should go all the way through w/ it or up 'til 8th. It's pace is quite different and I would think that a transition to a different school environment before 8th (maybe 6th?) after yrs of Waldorf would be best. Montessori, I'd stick w/ as long as possible just b/c I'm biased towards it and love it as you do (although I only attended a Montessori pre-school in my own childhood --public K & private Catholic for the rest). I've just always loved Maria Montessori's philosophy and research. Read up on Waldorf and Montessori some more and visit local schools to see what YOU think of them. It will carry more weight than anything anyone (myself included) can say. I think you'll find a nice bunch to choose from. I really think there are some great choices out there (in every educational option).
Take care, good luck, and enjoy!
M. B