Vacation Woes

You go and rent a car and let her know where you are going and ask her to join you. If she is not up to it, then go by yourself..

And no, I have never experienced anything like this, because before I go or friends come to visit and visit, we usually discuss ideas of what we all want to do and try to schedule it out..

Do you think she is depressed? Not about you being there, but in general?

Do you think they are having financial problems so she is worried about spending money?

We never really know what is going on in others homes, even our very best friends.. You need to let her know you are there and care about her.. see if you can get an idea of what is going on..

Its tough to have houseguests for a whole week. Honestly she would probably appreciate a little time to herself. Just go ahead and do your thing. Maybe go to a museum all morning and then do happy hour and dinner together. And definitely hit the beach!

Go to the beach
Go to the museums
I know you didn't go to visit her planning on doing things by yourself - but you want to - so go do it.
Tell her you will meet up with her after for dinner etc.
Maybe your going off on your own will inspire her to join you.
This is your vacation also - enjoy it !

Take a day, rent a car and go check off those things on your list! It'll give you both a break.

I'd spend the a.m. doing what I want to do and meet her around 4 to make plans for the evening.

Go! Have fun! You've spent time with her, now should enjoy your vacation.

So I'm curious... did you tell her when you originally made the plans that you wanted to do all these things with her? Or did you maybe just mention that you wanted to do them (and she assumed you would go without her)? Or was nothing discussed regarding how you would spend your time?

I'm guessing that you will be able to use this experience as a lesson learned, and always discuss expectations before making plans in the future.

Go to the beach in the morning for a few hours and meet back up with her for dinner later on. Go to the museum the next morning. Meet back up later. Just be sure that you TELL her what your plans are in advance (like tonight before beaching tomorrow) so that she can plan accordingly. Maybe she has some errands to run or laundry to take care of. Maybe she'll change her mind and go with you. Who knows.

But you can't be irritated with her unless she told you in no uncertain terms that she would be doing all these things you mentioned WITH you in the beginning. If you just mentioned doing them, and she said, ok...then she might have assumed you were using her place as a home base and not expecting her to go along on all these side trips.
Just sounds like a case of lack of communication to me.
Sorry it worked out that way.

She probally has no money. Did you invite yourself or did she invite you?
Perhaps just the cost of food is putting her at risk for not paying her bills.

Do go to the beach without her and offer to pay her way to the other things.
Meeting up for dinner would take the pressure off of her having to entertain you, which she must be feeling.

If you don't mind doing some stuff alone, go yourself. It is YOUR vacation.
C.

Go to the beach. It's your vacation, just tell her tonight that tomorrow you plan on going and doing some sightseeing and visiting things you've been wanting to see and you will catch up later, and ask her if she would be open to going shopping or to a museum on Monday morning with you, and if not, then you will go ahead and go and catch up with her for a late lunch.

When my family is in town, we take them all over, even if it's a place we are sick of going b/c our family would like to experience it. I think her behavior is rude, but I would not let it bother me, and I would not let it hold me back from having fun. Don't let it sour your fun.

Was she like this back when you knew her, or is this new that she wants to stay home all the time? Maybe she has anxiety issues or can't afford to go around and doesn't know how to tell you.