Unhappy 20 Month Old

I agree with Amber's advice.

However, I tend to also agree with your pediatrician that she may have a much different personality. Our daughter is 21 months, and she is the polar opposite of her brother. She cries at the mention of the word "NO".

Is she verbal? Both of our kids were a little later with their ability to talk, and we had to ask them to "Show Us" what they wanted if we couldn't understand what they were saying.

It doesn't hurt to get another opinion, though, if your gut tells you otherwise. I found a swollen lymph node that the first doctor "wasn't excited about". My gut told me otherwise, and I was diagnosed with cancer. Not to say your daughter has a grave disease, but our Mom instincts are strong. Even if it's just her personality differences, it may give you peace of mind.

A mother's intuition is a GIFT from God....trust it and seek answers until you feel good about the answers.

I wish I had some advice to give specifically! But all I would say is that if your gut tells you something is up, then go with it! Keep researching, trying other dr.s, the whole nine yards. As you well know, turning 2 is a change, and most of my children have had their heads spin around about that time, but if its beyond that..keep fighting! I have 5 children..4 girls..and they can be quite passionate at times, each with their own personality, but I have still known when something was different. Guess it comes with having so many!Good luck, and hang in there! ~A.~

My second child was much the same at your daughter's age. He has a completely different personality than my oldest. He can be very happy at times, but if he is hungry, tired, or upset about something, then the whole wolrd knows it and he will yell, cry, throw toys, hit the wall, etc. He is now almost 2 1/2 and he has gotten better, but I believe it is because he is talking more and has so many new words. I think it was a combo of not being able to express his frustrations because he didn't learn words as quickly as my oldest did. I, also, think teething was a factor for him and could be for your daughter. I found that using distraction was helpful and not letting him get to the point of being overly frustrated when possible helped a lot. As your daughter gets older, she will likely grow out of it some. you just have to be extremely patient. Good luck!!

How's her speech coming? My son became very frustrated when he couldn't really tell me what was going on. Sign language really helped a lot. Also, check out the book by Harvey Karp -- Happiest Toddler on the Block. Get the dvd too (libraries carry them). He has some really good insight and techniques. Good luck.