A.M.
I don't know if sharing my experience will help, but I figured it couldn't hurt. I've never had a pregnancy terminated, but I did have two D&Cs (I forget what that stands for) after my miscarriages.
Tell your friend to contact her OB and explain her situation. The OB will perform the D&C at an outpatient surgical center. If she actually is pregnant and needs to terminate the pregnancy, it's best that she does this sooner than later. I say this because I had one D&C at 8 weeks and another at 12. In both cases, I had ultrasounds that showed no fetal heartbeat. Physically, the first D&C was easier than the second. My body recovered much more quickly. With the second it really was as if I had given birth and then gone home empty handed. I bled a lot longer afterwards. My body just seemed really confused. That's why I would say that time is of the essence.
Emotionally, it's a very difficult thing, even though I obviously had no choice. It's sounds as if your friend doesn't have much of a choice either. It will be emotionally draining. She'll probably feel very empty inside even she she feels it's the right thing to do. Her hormones will be going beserk , as well, which makes it even more emotional. I will say that the staff at the surgical center were very nice, even before they knew why I was having the procedures. I don't think your friend will have to feel as if she's being judged.
I hope I've helped some and that everything works out for your friend.
