Trying to Decide - Work or Become SAHM HELP!!!!

A., I found myself in that very same situation. Well..a little different. My daughter was 8 months old and I found I was pregnant and working full time. I decided to be a SAHM and work at night part time. This way My husband got some time alone with the girls and I got to help with the income. Now my daughters are in first grade and kindergarden and they love being home with me during the day (when school isn't in session) and having some "Daddy" time at night. And someone else isn't raising our children. I hope this helps!

A., it's completely a personal decision. I decided to leave a very good job when I had my son, and I started consulting part-time from home. Then when I had my daughter, it was too much, so now I'm a full time SAHM. I personally love it. I think part of the reason I decided to do the stay at home thing, is because when I was in 8th grade my own mother was diagnosed with an illness and was given only a few months to live. It really has shaped my entire view of motherhood, and of family. Our time here is so brief, I really think the most important thing is our relationships. I want to be present in my kids lives. I don't want to miss a thing. I'd like to think my kids would rather eat macaroni every night with their mom around, then filet mignon and a mom they see briefly before bedtime.

But of course, you need to evaluate your own personal financial position and whether or not you can do it. It does take quite a bit of sacrifice. And I do plan on going back to work part time once my kids go to school.

Good luck with your decision. I know whatever you decide you will always have your family's best interest in mind -- and that's what makes a good mom a GREAT mom!

It is really a hard decaion to make. I had to make the same decision 4 years ago and I decided to be a SAHM. I am actually running a daycare out of my house, so that although I am a SAHM I still have an income. It is tough not having any income and having to depend on your spouse for every little penny you need. If I were you I would also look at other daycare options. $2000 seems very high. I am not familiar with your area, but right now I am charging $60 ($1300ish/month)a day for 2 children or $35 ($700ish/month for 1 child. Maybe you could find something you can do from home. It is really hard to find something legitimate. Maybe you coule become a home demonstrator for one of the many companies. It is really a hard decision and it is one that you sould really sit down with your husband and weigh your options. Good Luck!!

I too was at that point. My huaband & I cut back on everything possible and saved. It is the bast thing and in looking back I would have done it again. Why have someone else raising you children awhen they are not raising them the way you want them to be. God make a way for every thing to work out. All the Best.