Trying to Conceive After Having an Ectopic Pregnancy

I'm so sorry for your losses.

6 months (to the day) after I had a full term stillbirth I found out I was pregnant. As it turned out I had twins, one in the uterus and one in the fallopian tube. I lost both, and had my right tube removed at 12 weeks.

The Dr thought that my left tube looked ok, but he couldn't really tell for sure. I'm also very concerned about having another ectopic pregnancy.

So for the last year I've had really weird cycles. Some months I have an almost non period (slight spotting for three days) and other months I have a 9 day period. Today is day 10 and I think I might still be spotting, actually. I never had problems before my ectopic. Now that it's been a year I'm 'allowed' to see a reproductive endocrinologist, although I haven't made an apt yet.

I wish you all the best,
S.

God works in mysterious ways......so hang in there......put this in his hands and just try to not stress out over it........I know that isn't easy to do.....

I would think waiting a week after you ovulate would be good....that's always when I got pregnant. Both times.....like clock work.....

Good Luck and take care......

I also have terrible endometriosis and two blocked tubes. IVF would definitely give you a better shot, if you can afford it. It won't totally eliminate the chances for an ectopic because the embryo can actually travel into the tube after transfer to the uterus, but it does make it much less likely, as you eliminate most of the time in the tube.
IVF is expensive, though. If you try naturally first, to save money, and then end up with no working tubes, you can still try again with IVF in the future as long as your ovaries are intact and your FSH level is reasonable enough that you can produce eggs.

My mom went on to have my sister after an eptopic pregnancy as did a woman I worked for...

Hi L.! Hope you are doing well! I saw your post this morning and wanted to respond. My hubby and I got pregnant the first time we tried after my ectopic. Sarah was right (below) when she posted that you cannot wait for the egg to make it to your uterus before you conceive. The egg is only viable for 24 hours once it is released from the ovary, so waiting a week after you ovulate will ALWAYS result in no baby. :( I HIGHLY recommend getting a book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. It is truly a must-read for all women, but especially if you are trying to have a baby. You will learn all kinds of amazing things about your body, ovulation, conception, etc.

When we did learn that we were pregnant, I remember feeling so scared. Most people are so excited, but my husband and I were truly scared to death. I had to wait a good 5 days before I could get into seeing my doctor (longest 5 days of my life). When he did the ultrasound and told me the pregnancy looked good and "everything was in the right place", I sat up and said, "How can you be sure???" I was SO nervous! Because of your past history, you will be in the "high-risk" category and special care will be taken with you throughout your pregnancy. Everything was great with my pregnancy, though, and I know lots of other moms who have been in your shoes and have gone on to have healthy, happy babies. Best wishes to you!

I have confidence in the lessons I have learned from the Natural Family Planning program. There is some information on-line at http://www.nfpandmore.org/. While fertilization most often happens in the tube, having IVF would help insure implantation in the uterus.

Check with your doctor and check on your insurance options. You should discuss your fears/concerns with your husband. I pray you have his loving support.

Good luck

I am sorry for your loss, and understand your concerns. I don't have any personal experiences to share, but wanted to tell you that unfortunately you cannot wait for the egg to be in the uterus before you conceive. Once released, the egg is only viable for 24 hours. It takes several days for it to travel down the tube. Conception always takes place in the tube and then the embryo is supposed to continue traveling down the tube and implant in the uterus several days later. The only real way to bypass the tube is with IVF. I wish you the best of luck with your next pregnancy.

My SIL went through this also. She had 2 kids from a previous relationship then got divorced and met my brother. She had an eptopic and was distraught, she also lost her left tube and they also told her that her right tube was not 100%. I am so happy to say though that they went on to have 3 healthy kids all naturally. Keep trying and have fun trying! : -)