Trouble with 7And Half Yr Old Neice Who Seems to Be Going Backwords in School

Updated on March 09, 2010
S.M. asks from Queen Creek, AZ
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my friend has a little girl who is turning 8 in april. she started out learning really slow but the middle of this yr we were told she was doing just fine in math and reading. and now she had to move to a new school and the new teacher called and told her mom that they are going to have to hold her back in the grade she is in because she doesnt know how to do basic math or read. at home she would do adding subtracting and some myltiplying then all of the sudden now she is all of the sudden having issues the easiest math for addition she cant do we will show her how to do it then we will have to show her again the next day. we dont know if she is prentending that she doesnt know how or if she really is regressing and not remembering it or learning anything we dont know what to think i have a 10 son who has autisim so i didn t know if mabey a child can develop this later on in life and regress fast. we are so confused and dont know what is wrong with her she has been through a lot imotionaly this last 2 yrs so any help would be greatly appreciated

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C.T.

answers from Denver on

I would suggest that she have her vision checked, not only for accuity but also to assess if she might need vision therapy. That's where the brain doesnt correctly interpret and process the information being received from the eye. Some say vision therapy can improve dyslexia, learning problems and more.

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G.B.

answers from Boise on

Heavy metal buildup can cause regression.

Problems with memory, brain fog, slow processing, IQ, even lack of desire to socialize can be caused by metals.

This is an interesting fact that many do not know: Heavy metal poisoning (I think it was specifically mercury if I remember right) and AUTISM have the very exact list of symptoms- TO THE TEE. Autism rise and the rise in vaccines have gone hand in hand.

Iron especially, builds up in tissues and there is not any way for people to release it, unless they bleed excessively/give blood.

I have been doing medical research for years. I have my own set of problems with my kids, (brain fog, severe memory/learning issues, arthritis) and I am going to order NCD zeolite..it costs about $50 bucks a bottle, but it will release the metals with NO side effects at all.
I am not a distributor. Just a mom who has had sick children and has gotten no help from the medical community. There are many different sites that sell zeolite and some are fake. The only brand that backs up their product with data is waiora brand. There are many sites that sell that brand.

Another thing you can try to improve things with her is magnesium. Low magnesium levels can cause IQ loss. You can use magnesium citrate, which is a drinkable form, or magnesium malate, which is a pill form. Both can cause loose stools, so you just cut back the dose until the stool firms up. or you can get magnesium oil (aka :magnesium chloride) online, which you rub on the skin. it will absorb cellularly, and won't cause loose stool.
The most quickly absorbable kind of all of them is the citrate.
It takes a while to build up cellular magnesium levels. Do not expect miracles with magnesium, although people do say it can work for many symptoms. I suggested it to one mom who had major PMS and she said it worked wonders. However I think you might see good progress with the zeolite- people are reporting changes in just a few days. Personally I would do both simultaneously.

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T.D.

answers from Kansas City on

If I were you, I would take her and have her evaluated to make sure she is not like you say maybe pulling your leg, then you will feel better to have that out on the table and as they say ONE DOWN. It could be a number of things in this situation. The adjustment of a new teacher, maybe this new teacher expects more. Maybe the old one was not paying attention enough to pick up on the signs of her distress. This is not uncommon, teachers are over worked and sometimes a child or two slip through. Because they are looked up to. They don't want to admit they might have over looked one. So my advice to you, is you can look at this thing all day long talk it to death. The reality of it is, we have professionals for these issues. As mother's don't we want the VERY best for them. I think sometimes we think to much about things instead of just leaving it to the professionals. I wish the VERY BEST for her. I will hope the lesser of the evils her and pray she is playing posseum. Stay Strong momma and let us know how she does. They don't come with a book when their born (unfortunately). So we all we have sometimes is our MOMMA'S CLUB.

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P.M.

answers from Portland on

There could be any number of problems at work. Autism usually shows up by age 2 or 3, but other disorders are possible. She could even be experiencing a severe reaction to something in her environment. A visit to her pediatrician with a list of her parents' concerns would be a reasonable place to start.

But you also mention she's been through a lot emotionally over the last two years. If she's feeling overwhelmed, or depressed, that might be enough to distract or discourage her from learning, or even being able to stay focused on her school work. Whatever emotional support or counseling her parents can get for her might help a lot.

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J.P.

answers from New York on

Question for the mom who "has been doing medical research" - are you an MD or PhD in biology or chemistry conducting your own studies in a lab or academic setting? Or do you like to read things online? Pretty important dictinction there and you should clarify as it impacts your credibility. If they are not your studies, can you reference them so that others may look them up as well?

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S.A.

answers from Phoenix on

OMG...I went through the EXACT same thing! Daughter, same age, we moved, got the call....I refused to let it happen, it made no sence. They have to let her finish the year off, and the hold her back next year....so don't give up hope!! I'm here to tell you, with some extra help, and LOTS of practice at home, my daughter got it!! She was not held back. We had a tutor 2x per week and got her with a team of teachers at school that set up some goals, and ways to get there. Math and reading is ALL practice! It takes time to really "know it" and the change in teachers, and lack of confidence in her...didn't help! You don't let that teacher give up on her....I PROMISE!!! She will be fine:) She's not "fakeing" either, just like a new job,(even with experience) new rules, you don't get it all at once as an adult! It takes practice doing things someone elses way...make sence?? I found free tutoring through the school too... You tell that little girl she can do it! You stick by her side and reward her for all the extra hours she puts in, and it also teaches a really good lesson, in the fact that, you can do ANYTHING, you are willing to put the work into! Good luck! I hope this helps give your friend hope, and remember teachers are just people going to work...they don't "know everything" you know your kids better than ANYONE! So if you think they can do it, trust me, they can:)

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D.S.

answers from New York on

I would try a tutor. Some children are more willing to work for a stranger then they would for their parents. Sometimes there is a comfort level with parents that will not be there with someone else. It could be the teacher change, school change, someone could be making fun of her in class for not knowing the answers. She may not comfortable to approach the teacher for help, some children are intimidated by their teachers. Is there anyway she could get extra help at school if that is not the case and she is okay with her teacher. Most teachers are required to be at school early and stay later for just those reasons. I would check with the teacher first to see if she is open to giving extra help. You can contact your local high school they can usually recommend a student who is willing to tutor for less money or as a volunteer. Good luck and way to go for being so proactive. This little girl is lucky to have you and her mom in her life.

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